How are you easing your friends into realizing you are growing breasts?

[Kristyn74]

At first I was wearing a padded sports bra my partner and I went to target late one night 24/7 target. It increased my bust size to a small b but rounded not pointy. I was at first hunching forward in front of certain people to make it less obvious,but eventually my partner said it wasn't that noticeable anyway. It wasn't until she said this that the anxiety attacks stopped....all in the head! Over that now and more relaxed knowing it's not as bad as what my head was contorting

[FrancisAnn]

Mine are definetly noticeable. I tried to hide them some earlier however recently I just wear a thin blouse or T top & who cares. I know people & or friends have noticed, some seem proud of me for being myself, taking better care of myself, looking good. Any one else or some negative attitude & I really do not care any more. 

[Allyda]

Well I can't hide mine. I had to start wearing a bra last week, lol! I had bought these two silk 34A comfort bra's (no underwire and minimal padding) for this occasion, and my booby's fill them nicely. Best part is they hide my erect nipples, lol!!

Ally

[JenP]

I have a really close friend whom I haven't seen in about 2 years (and I'm about. 6 mos on HRT, 8 when he comes to visit. I have told him everything , but he still uses phrases like Hey Brother when we talk. I haven't really corrected him because we just txt all the time so I don't think it's 'real' to him yet.

He wants to go for some big hikes this summer with me and the other day I had to tell him, When you come to visit, you have to know that, I don't really have any boy clothes left. So I need to know you are comfortable with that.

He is really awesome about it, but I think there will still be a moment of shock when we see each other again.

[Allyda]

I have a really close friend whom I haven't seen in about 2 years (and I'm about. 6 mos on HRT, 8 when he comes to visit. I have told him everything , but he still uses phrases like Hey Brother when we talk. I haven't really corrected him because we just txt all the time so I don't think it's 'real' to him yet.

He wants to go for some big hikes this summer with me and the other day I had to tell him, When you come to visit, you have to know that, I don't really have any boy clothes left. So I need to know you are comfortable with that.

He is really awesome about it, but I think there will still be a moment of shock when we see each other again.

While I really hope things between you and your friend work out, I had a similar situation around 5 months ago. I had a guy friend who had knew me before transition, who always used words like "brother," and would always compare me to a Gay friend he had no matter how many times I told him being trans is different from being gay, and, this guy saw me and knew I don't look nothing like a guy. Long story short, He got drunk one night, and called me up spewing language I won't repeat here, I'll just say he used about every derogatory word in the book of slang to describe what I was. Well, despite him calling back a few days later wimpering how sorry he was, we aren't friends anymore. I knew how he truly felt, and that he'd never accept me as a woman.

I'm only telling you about my experience so you'll be prepared just in case. I know how hurt I was hearing those words spew from my supposed friends mouth, and I'd hate to see anyone get hurt like that.

As you've said though, your friend has been awesome about things. And he hasn't seen you yet. Hopefully you'll really surprise him with how beautiful you are, and how much happier you are now than when he knew you before. Seeing these things about you usually dispells all doubts in reluctant friends. Especially when they see how much happier you are.

All my best wishes.

Ally

[Stephanie2]

Hopefully I don't end up telling a guy I know about that, as I think the same terrible thing would happen. Many people are prejudiced about transitions, with or without the surgeries. I even have to be careful in telling women I know. Made the mistake in telling a lady a couple of years ago and that was just about the boobs. Now we aren't the friends we used to be. She was not polite about it at all and really made me feel bad about myself for awhile.

[FrancisAnn]

Hopefully I don't end up telling a guy I know about that, as I think the same terrible thing would happen. Many people are prejudiced about transitions, with or without the surgeries. I even have to be careful in telling women I know. Made the mistake in telling a lady a couple of years ago and that was just about the boobs. Now we aren't the friends we used to be. She was not polite about it at all and really made me feel bad about myself for awhile.

Cis women as we call them can be mean to each other. They fight at shopping malls over a pair of shoes, steal each other's men/husbands.... You are smart to be cautious about some women. My breasts are sure obvious, I'm just going about life & if someone says something then I tell them it's just the HRT.  All normal for me, don't you know or see, I'm glad to be improving more each day as a nicer looking woman.....

[Stephanie2]

FrancisAnn,
I just thought of something. We are talking about cis women and if a cis woman could see our posts and be offended by this, then the rules of this forum could be thrown in our face. It is hard to talk about almost anything these days without offending someone. It is just so ironic. So, as not to get in trouble on this thread, to stick with the subject, I do have a terrible time mentioning my boob growth to anyone, male or female. Now that they are a small C, they are getting harder to hide, so will just have to have a ready excuse for them, as I don't want to come out.

[mac1]

FrancisAnn,
I just thought of something. We are talking about cis women and if a cis woman could see our posts and be offended by this, then the rules of this forum could be thrown in our face. It is hard to talk about almost anything these days without offending someone. It is just so ironic. So, as not to get in trouble on this thread, to stick with the subject, I do have a terrible time mentioning my boob growth to anyone, male or female. Now that they are a small C, they are getting harder to hide, so will just have to have a ready excuse for them, as I don't want to come out.

If you are asked, just say that they grew naturally.

[Stephanie2]

If you are asked, just say that they grew naturally.

If my hips, waist, and butt catch up to the boobs, I can tell them they naturally grew too, lol! Or after SRS, "Oh, it just naturally fell off." I am just being silly now, but hopefully they would buy the "natural" explanation.

[Allyda]

When I'm asked about mine which is very rarely these days, and only by someone who knew me before my beginning my full transition, I  kind of joke about them saying something like: "yea, they're mine and they're real, and they're fun to play with too," and I laugh. For some reason this works and I'm never asked about them again by the same person. I think it helps people when they see your confidence and your secure with your femininity also how happy you are. Or, I could just be very lucky and my last sentence is just wishful thinking hogwash, I dunno.......... LoL!!

Ally

[zog]

If I'm asked about them, I just reply "Gotta have boobs" or something like that, while looking at them like they're an idiot for not knowing that.

If the person who asks is female, I add that they have them too, so they should know that.

[mac1]

I would like to have then so I could find out.

[Stephanie2]

Mac1, it took me a few years to reach a small C cup. It takes time, sometimes too much time. Others get the results in less than a year. Go figure! If mine get much bigger I may have to start to think of things to tell people. I am overweight, so that might be a good excuse.

[katiej]

Speaking of using them for pockets...a couple years ago the Paraguayan model Larissa Riquelme became pretty well known after pictures got around of her with her cell phone in between her boobs while cheering for her favorite soccer team. Turned out it was a PR campaign for motorola or something  like that

[Stephanie2]

If I had boobs like her, I could put more than a cell phone in between the cleavage!!!

[HeatherR]

If I don't want to come out to someone, I just say it's a side effect if medication I HAVE to take, not the worst side effect I could imagine *cheesy grin*

[HeatherR]

And that is 100% truth!;)

[generous4]

My experience was the reverse of the OP's question.  I did not ease my friends into anything.  I got PULLED, verbally inspired by a friend into making my shape "public."  Because I was boy mode at work for a long time, and I thought I was camouflaging my shape pretty well.  But my friend came and made it clear to me that most of the women at my place of employment had figured me out anyway, so she said to stop hiding my breasts, be proud of my figure.  It made a huge difference for me, at work, that one conversation.

Camouflaging myself then was semi-doable, but not anymore.  Now I am large enough, no guess work for anyone about my figure.  It's good. 

[Stephanie2]

Yes, Heather, how true that is! Yes, 100% true, is right! I love side effects like that. Boobs are one of the best. I have confided in four people about my boobs, however, one of the four was a woman who did not even want to hear about it. The other three are friends of mine, so they already know and are all for it. I forgot to mention them on this thread (the alzheimers kicking in again), but I was thinking of others besides them that I would be hesitant in mentioning about my boobs in any way. People are so prejudiced to us genetic males just because we want to become like the other gender. What is their problem? People always have to find something wrong with others so that they feel superior, I guess. Or just want to dictate what THEY feel is normal.