Reeeally bad FTM dysphoria :(

[saaa4m]

Hey! So I'm new and I have no idea how this website works so hear me out if I'm putting this in the wrong place haha,  I'll start off with I'm diagnosed with waaay more than just GID. Schizo-affective disorder and OCD included and it really is a pain.  But that's besides the point, I just need somebody to help me here, nobody else really understands how painful it is.  I talked to my doctor about my growth and she said I'd be lucky if I reach 5'1.  I'm 4'10 right now, and I hit puberty/got my period when I was 10, so I'm not really doing much more growing.  I'm not heavy at all, I'm pretty average if not thin but my hiiiiiiiiiips and my buuuuttt and thiiiighs are ridiculous, and I have just overall the girliest petite figure that it's so hard to be taken seriously at all as a guy on top of my height.  It just makes everything so hard you know like, every guy I ever come across TOWERS over me and every girl I come across just laughs at how small I am, it makes me feel like a little girl and It just makes me wanna curl up in a ball and cry. I bind, I guess I'm fine with the top half since my boobs are pretty small.  But oh my GOD everything else, I'm not even going to be the average height of a female
So I guess what I'm asking is for somebody who might know ways to grow even just a few inches if even possible, or just ways to cope and accept it
thaaank you 

[LordKAT]

My twins father is shorter than you. His whole family is short and very muscular. He learned to embrace it, buying all his clothes in the boys department because it was cheaper, etc. My daughter is a legal short person. She used to be upset about being short but has learned to use it to her advantage.


Short men exist or there would be no tall men.

[anais]

You might want to put this in the Female to male transsexual talk (FTM) section. You'll probably get more reactions there.

[dante15]

Hey Saaa4m

You sound like you're going through a very rough time. I'm sorry. I know what it's like feeling like the whole world around you is tall. I'm a short ftm guy as well, and every where I go I feel very insecure when women and men are much taller than I am. Once thing that helps is shoe lifts. They can make you up to 3" taller, but you need shoes that are probably a size bigger for them to fit properly and you might feel like you're walking in heels but I think it's worth it! Nobody will be able to tell (except you're friends who will just think you had a growth spurt!    Heres one of the many products out there http://www.amazon.com/Secret-Tall-Instant-Shoe-Lifts/dp/B00BTHPKDA

Just to warn you, in one of my shoes, which is a loafer, my heel sticks out a bit at the top because the lift is really high, but I find it to be worthwhile anyway!

Hang in there and know that there are so many people out there who feel the same insecurity about their height -- even cis men!

Much love.

[rrecroc]

If the plates on the ends of your bones have not "sealed" yet, you can artificially depress puberty ....... its been done by rich families to grow taller sons for sports ...... and also to delay puberty in transexuals (boy, do they have understanding parents),so they can reach their full height without having to deal with with gender issues ......... then they decide what gender and go from their ...... talk to an endocrinologist.

[rrecroc]

My mother was only 4ft10in but was a wonderful person who most people liked ........... concentrate on the inside ....... on being a good person and I think you'll find good things come in small packages ....... your personality has much influence on how you are seen by others

[MaxMoon]

Im in the same situation, im 4'10 and im 18 yrs old (im done growing), im very small because when I was living as a girl I stopped eating (I got down to 78 lbs, and its very hard now to stay above 90)
I have decided to start going to the gym, another bad thing Is that in the state I live in, there are no laws to protect my employment so I have to still dress as a girl at work. I also have bad dsyforia about my hands being so small and my shoe size (5 us womens)

[Taka]

shoe and hand size is nothing to worry about. had a boyfriend with the same sizes as me, and he was never taken for a girl other than when he was wearing my girl clothes. his long hair and nice bottom helped a lot with that, i don't think people even looked at his hands or feet.

some parents and doctors would delay puberty when it hits early in a short child, to give them a couple more inches while it's still possible. when puberty's over, there is no natural way of gaining more height.
there are things like those shoe lifts which i probably can't use, and there are secret shoes with inbuilt higher heels.
there's also a terribly painful procedure to lengthen legs, will make you taller if you can bear it. and afford it.

there are lots of tiny women in the world though. you might be lucky enough to meet one of them?