Quote from: Jess42 on July 03, 2014, 08:09:40 AM
Yeah but why are they so scared? Is it something that they hate about themselves and we remind them of that?
Yes. Many people have sexual hang-ups for various reasons. Many straights guys, for instance, feel a need to constantly re-affirm their heterosexuality. It reflects some sort of sexual insecurity. It's not always a bit of bisexuality they're trying to suppress but sometimes it is. There's that fear that they will kind of like it a little bit. For many others, I think it might just be they had a male figure, probably someone close to them, who took advantage of them at a young age. That will leave someone feeling very sexually vulnerable for a long time; possibly the rest of their life.
I think this is why androgynous-looking guys can be upsetting for a lot of guys, because they're
kind of attractive to a straight guy. Those insecure guys want things to be very black and white. They want men to be bearded, chunky, super-hairy, manly, stinky even. Have you noticed a lot of the guys in straight porn are somewhere between average-looking to downright hideous? They just want someone with a (probably large) penis in the scene that they can mentally project themselves (and their own penises) into and they don't want any chance that they will be remotely turned on by the guy in the scene, EVAR!
I'm often attracted to androgynous guys and I don't let it threaten my homosexuality. I'm still gay!