Passing Isn't Everything

[Hikari]

Passing is not all there is to life, but it is still something I find really important.

I mean the bulk of effort in my transiton so far has been directed towards those ends, I still have value as a person if I don't pass, but that doesn't mean it isn't very important.

[katiej]

The word "passing" seems to be emotionally charged for a lot of people.  Personally, I prefer to think of it as blending in.  100% stealth is likely not an option for me, but neither do I want to be visibly or identifiably trans.  And from a professional standpoint, I had better be able to blend in if I plan to be continue be able to work with a wide variety of people (I work as a financial consultant).  As several people have mentioned, there's a difference between people being supportive of your decision to transition and actually being fully comfortable around you.

I agree with Evelyn.  It's ironic that a girl who passes is criticizing those of us who want to.

I think there's a happy medium between this line of thinking that says passing doesn't matter, and the passing is EVERYTHING that the "author" of "so you want to be a t-girl" espouses.