my boyfriend wanted to split

[FrancisAnn]

Many, my heart goes out to you GF. After you gave him so much & he's now just a jerk. FYI. I have placed some nice ad's on tsdating as a pre op MtF. There are so many men that I know would love to meet you. Even in my pre op condition some 20 men responed asap & were so anxious to date me, offers to be kept, marriage, I love you, mushy type stuff. Men are a dime a dozen & if you let nice men know you maybe be ready to date again I'm sure you can have your pic of men. I know your heart hurts but when you are ready I real man will love you. Take care. Francis

[ForeverGiselle]

I'm so sorry to hear this

Be strong and stay true to yourself.  Girl, I understand how difficult this can be and how tempting it can get to contact your ex.  Been there, done that and I can't say I was as strong as you. Time will heal.

Fyi, your ex is a dick.

[katiej]

What a douche!  Guys are known for making lame excuses when breaking up with girls.  But he didn't even have the decency to go with "it's not you, it's me."

BTW, I noticed that you're new.  Stick around...this is a cool place. 

[many]

Oh he called me again yesterday. My heart was ready to break. I could not make it and almost screamed to him telling how bad i was. I broke to tears, I could not stop crying and screaming he told me to calm and he.would.call me again. I have not felt so worst.

[FrancisAnn]

You poor girl. Maybe try to find a local GF & go visit, maybe go shopping, a facial, bubblebath. Something to help your pain. Men are just jerks sometimes, kick him to the curb GF & try to be strong.

[Dahlia]

Personally I think he is attracted to men not women. I saw this before by 2 friends of mine. One had SRS when she got operated on the other said he dropped her telling her that her vagina smelled. Then he got involved with another male . He was also a Cross dresser. Once you get rid of it , he is no longer interested in you.

Most 'tlovers' fiercely pretend to be 'straight' but are (secretly) cd's or tv's themselves.

And into MTF because they represent what they (secretly) long to be; a full time girl. Until the involved MTF has SRS; then all hell breaks loose inside the 'tlovers' head.

Castration anxiety, since most cd's/tv's don't harbour any TS feelings themselves.

[Michelle-G]

I totally agree with the comments that say "let him go". If that's all it takes for him to split, he's not a keeper. And yes, he's prolly a ->-bleeped-<-

Even when it's only a ''penile inversion made'' vagina, it should feel the same as a natal one. Maybe a tad tighter, but don't they (guys) like that?
That's the reason why i don't want to tell anyone once im post op. Most guys will find excuses to make you down.

Not so. My boyfriend has explained the sensation to me. In a GG the tightest part is at the entry point and it gets a bit looser further in (makes sense, as there's a uterus which takes up space at the end of the tunnel). For a trans woman (or at least as far as he experiences me), it's very tight at the entry and even tighter further in.

He likes it, but he can certainly tell the difference.

[dling]

I totally agree with the comments that say "let him go". If that's all it takes for him to split, he's not a keeper. And yes, he's prolly a ->-bleeped-<-

Not so. My boyfriend has explained the sensation to me. In a GG the tightest part is at the entry point and it gets a bit looser further in (makes sense, as there's a uterus which takes up space at the end of the tunnel). For a trans woman (or at least as far as he experiences me), it's very tight at the entry and even tighter further in.

He likes it, but he can certainly tell the difference.

I've *heard* that the vagina of Eastern Asians tend to be like that (very tight in the opening and even tighter further in), but I'm not sure if this is just a misconception or if it is actually true  Might ask Suporn when I have the surgery...

[Jenna Marie]

Michelle : I have a close friend who had a hysterectomy, and she says that that's what she's like now. (OK, so we were a little drunk when she shared. ) Apparently the surgeon also warned her that there might be a little additional tightness, and she did have the type of surgery where she lost her cervix as well as uterus.

[ImagineKate]

I've *heard* that the vagina of Eastern Asians tend to be like that (very tight in the opening and even tighter further in), but I'm not sure if this is just a misconception or if it is actually true  Might ask Suporn when I have the surgery...

Misconception from my experience.

[Lisatrans69]

Post-op girl-friends,

Brad met me post-op at 19 in college. My parents (Med pros Dr's etc.) accepted me early AFTER lots of therapy, meds and etc., a partial girlhood before birth defect surgery correction at 18; After a 4-5 wonderful relationship, HIS talk of marriage, even my parent approval, Brad my first love as a woman has left me. I cried months, but more therapy, I WILL find another REALLY good man! (My life, really I've only known vaginal sex, and love it more and more 1 year after surgery.

I will find a good man way before I allow someone to touch me intimately again. My sex desires are all about feelings. emotions, projecting/maybe assessing character of men. (As much as possible!) I always knew I was a girl, so my best to all. A broken heart (Mom says) Can be a chance to learn. Maybe I'll - No, I Will get there. There ARE good men out there for me, a young, professional (pretty, even my doctor says) Female!

P.S. I love my vagina, breasts, and female body for a while now.

All my best,

Lisa

[many]

I feel like roller coaster but mostly depression and wanted be alone and not talk to everyone. I fight with my mother cause as days go by i get more depressed and wanted to be alone. I can feel like the vagina canal is more like conical at the end but still do not know if that might be a good reason to break up. The missing o f a natal  vagina . Its been a month that  we

[many]

Its been a month since we broke up

[Dahlia]

Not so. My boyfriend has explained the sensation to me. In a GG the tightest part is at the entry point and it gets a bit looser further in (makes sense, as there's a uterus which takes up space at the end of the tunnel). For a trans woman (or at least as far as he experiences me), it's very tight at the entry and even tighter further in.

He likes it, but he can certainly tell the difference.

He's honest and you're honest.

[BreezyB]

The dude is doing you a favor. You don't want to be with someone that shallow.

Hugs. It's always tough when someone leaves.

I completely agree, this guy is not worth it. But I know it's really hard breaking up with someone.

You deserve someone who likes you for you

[many]

Don't you think that its unfair to hide your post when you want to make a serius relation?
I keep thinking how am I going to handle it next time i meet someone...

[FrancisAnn]

Many, I hope life is going OK since your break up. I know it hurt. I guess no one can tell you if you should let a man know that you are post op or if you should let go of the past & enjoy being a woman. It's a tough question but maybe just wait until you like a new man & then decide. For me since pre op however looking very feminine, dating & being courted by men it always made me nervous not to tell the man I was a mtF person with some extra wrong stuff between my legs. Some men went away however most did not care. I doubt this helps but maybe??? If you find a man you really care about & if he really cares about you I doubt he will care at all about your private surgery. Take care & good luck GF.