my boyfriend wanted to split

[many]

Hello,
My boyfriend wanted to stop our relationship cause he feels very anxious with my vagina. He does not like the way it feels and admitted that it can't be compared with natural vagina. He avoided having vagina sex and mostly we did anal sex.
Im two years post op penile inversion....We were together before srs

[divineintervention]

A guy that wants to split because of your vagina does not love you for who you are (your inside) and that should be the cornerstone of any relationship.

He's not worth it, and don't let a man tell you your new vagina is not one.

Lol totally sounding like a feminist.

[beren_ts]

Im sorry to tell you that, but it seems like you are dating a ->-bleeped-<- Even when it's only a ''penile inversion made'' vagina, it should feel the same as a natal one. Maybe a tad tighter, but don't they (guys) like that?
That's the reason why i don't want to tell anyone once im post op. Most guys will find excuses to make you down.

[Mark3]

You know, sometimes during the first part of a relationship sex seems like such a big thing, but as time goes by (for all of us and all genders) the real beauty is the heart and mind of the person we're with... If you're with someone who can't realize that, they really aren't worth wasting time on, life is just too short, and you deserve so much better..!!

There is so much more to you than a vagina, find someone who will love you for being you, just the way you are...

[mrs izzy]

Sad part happens more then not.

I would give him credit he did not leave you at the OR table.

I am sorry he is making such *ssanine reference to your vagina. 

Move on and find that man who will love you for the female you are.

[suzifrommd]

The dude is doing you a favor. You don't want to be with someone that shallow.

Hugs. It's always tough when someone leaves.

[Jenna Marie]

Yeah, I agree, if he's that hung up on your vagina he apparently values genitalia over you as a person. I'm sure it hurts now, and I sympathize, but I think you might be better off in the long run.

(Mrs. Izzy, that word is spelled "asinine," if you'd like to be able to stop censoring it. )

[Jess42]

It is probably in your best interest to just let him go. I mean doing anal when you have a vagina and him not liking the vagina? It may not be the V that disinterests him. Sorry but you are probably better off without him.

[Dahlia]

Could it be he's suffering from castatration anxiety?

[mrs izzy]

(Mrs. Izzy, that word is spelled "asinine," if you'd like to be able to stop censoring it. )

Thanks for the update. Spell check was having a hard time with the word. LOL>

To many
Sometimes its better to love and learn then never to love at all. We never know what will end or continue till we reach our happiness.

I wish it did not hurt so much. Hugs

[Athena]

Bleh enough about him. How are you holding up, are you ok.

[janetcgtv]

Personally I think he is attracted to men not women. I saw this before by 2 friends of mine. One had SRS when she got operated on the other said he dropped her telling her that her vagina smelled. Then he got involved with another male . He was also a Cross dresser. Once you get rid of it , he is no longer interested in you.

[pretty pauline]

A guy that wants to split because of your vagina does not love you for who you are (your inside) and that should be the cornerstone of any relationship.

That's very true, I told my boyfriend my history when we got engaged, he accepted my situation because he loved me for the woman I am, we're now married as husband & wife.
You'll eventually meet a guy who accepts you as the woman you are, not what vagina you have, you deserve better.

[FrancisAnn]

That is sad & dissappointing. Not sure what to say however I guess just let him go & if he realizes later that he loves you as you are & misses you he will be back begging. We all feel for you GF. I've never been married to a man however I've been in several relationships. Men are just mean sometimes after they get all they want & need from you/sex.

[warmbody28]

It's not your vagina it's him. He's got personal issues and needs to realize that and deal with them.

[Nicole]

My friends & I have a word for people like him

"F***tard".

You're better off without him

[alabamagirl]

As someone who has been in relationships where my worth to my partner depended on how much I turned them on and got them off, I sympathize with you quite a lot. Listen, sweetie, he doesn't deserve you. He can't appreciate you as a human being. Relationships should always be about love, first and foremost, not lust. You'll find someone way, way better and then you'll wonder why you ever stayed with him to begin with. In the meantime, here's a warm hug to help get you through the pain of the breakup. Things will get better, okay? I promise.

*hugs*

[many]

Thanks everyone, you are very helpful. He also called me two days later wanted to stay friends and I answered that this will take time and might never happen. Although its been a week and I missed him but I won't call him there is no meaning

[Jess42]

Thanks everyone, you are very helpful. He also called me two days later wanted to stay friends and I answered that this will take time and might never happen. Although its been a week and I missed him but I won't call him there is no meaning

Oh many. I still am so sorry. I personally think you are doing the right thing by not calling him and cutting off all communication. Like the Raven, "Nevermore." Usually with my experience when a guy says that just want to be friends it is total BS. All they want is to try to let you down easy so they don't feel so guilty. I wouldn't give him that option. If he has anything at your place, throw it in the front yard or sidewalk and tell him he needs to come and get it and not to even knock on the door. It is hard to believe, but there is always someone better out there and way more perfect for you than this guy. Heartaches hurt hon, cry and get it out of your system and then wipe the tears and see this guy as an idiot and messed up probably the best thing he ever had in his life and then go back to being a strong woman and available for a man that is so much better. I know it sounds like a lot of cheerleading BS, but every time someone left me or I left someone, the next one whether it lasts forever or not has always turned out to be so much better than the last.

[many]

Thanks again I hope will be more lucky next time. I also thought to work more my dilations to make my vagina 'better'  huh huh