what is or was the most irritating thing about being male

[stephaniec]

for me it was the stupid social pressure . Had to have dates, had to get laid, had to party and drink, had to have stupid conversations about sports and cars. had to have degrading conversations about women and men. Just to name a few things I never regret doing again.

[JulieBlair]

That's simple - Everything!  I was cast into a role that wasn't me.  Every day of my life was a performance, all that you mention and more.  Whenever I looked in the mirror, the person who looked back was fundamentally wrong.  Not awful, but wrong. 
There is nothing wrong with being a man, except that I wasn't one.  Inside I was a scared girl.  When that is the case, eventually the role, the lines, the action becomes overwhelming.

Some of us die, some self medicate.  I tried to do the former and spent twenty years looking at life from the bottom of a bottle.

Yep, that about covers it.

Julie

[alabamagirl]

I have to pick just one?

I don't even know where to begin, really. I saw/see no upside to it. When I was little, it seemed every adult I was introduced to immediately started talking to me about football (the American variety, with the big dumb manly men tackling each other), just because I was a boy. I loathe sports. Probably in large part due to this early experience. I got so sick of people forcing it on me all the time. Luckily, it only took a few failed attempts for my dad to realize there was no hope of ever getting me to actually play any.

Like Stephanie C said, I hated how other men acted. The dumb macho posturing. The insensitivity. The way they were so emotionally unavailable. The degrading and dehumanizing way they talked about people, especially women.

And I'm still trying to figure out what in the world people mean when they say I had something called "male privilege."

And those are just the social things. As for physiology, males get to enjoy such lovely features as hair covering their bodies (yuck!), hair falling out on your head, rougher skin, dangly genitals that constantly have to be adjusted to stay comfortable and just look unsightly, deep voices...

Yeah, there's nothing at all I like about this gender, from either an anatomical or social standpoint. 

[Sammy]

Irritating? Trying to figure out what being 100% man actually means. Nope, that was confusing, not irritating. Oh well, I am confhsed now

[xponentialshift]

Haha I first read the title as the most "interesting" thing about being male...

The most irritating was not knowing why I hated myself so much. I eventually decided that I just hated all males because I couldn't understand how I could just hate myself being male... Now I do, and I'm glad I don't hate all males anymore; the thought was kind of depressing.

[Carrie Liz]

The most irritating thing to me was that people were always reacting to me defensively. Maybe this is just a problem for those who were bigger and taller (smaller twinky effeminate guys probably don't get this treatment,) but I just HATED it every single time I met a new person and they immediately got defensive, immediately acted like I was a threat and they had to be on their guard around me, and they immediately assumed that I was a tough guy who liked sports and manly things and not the type of person who just wanted to talk and be personable and give big hugs.

Yeah... that was seriously the most infuriating thing, was being treated like competition by guys, and an "other" to be afraid of by women.

And this is indeed a gender thing. I don't get it anymore. Now people immediately greet me, and immediately start talking to me, and even constantly feel at liberty to infringe on my personal space just because I'm female. They automatically treat me like a nice friendly sociable person who's not a threat in any way. They say "hello" in the checkout line with a welcoming "how are you?" kind of tone instead of a "hey," kind of tone where it feels like they're trying to make as little social connection as possible and just shove me off. And I know it's a horrible gender double standard, but I seriously wouldn't trade that for anything in the world.

[Amalynn]

The social stigmas and stereotypes are one of the biggest things.

Failing that, when I get in the shower to wash up, I have a constant reminder that things aren't right just by looking down. Oh, and then all the freaking hair EVERYWHERE... YUCK!

[Blue Rabbit]

Feeling helpless. With no possible way to present your appearance as you'd like.

Even if you were able to present as a typical "hot" male...... In the mirror you appear to your self as a monster.

[Nami]

For me the most irritating things about people thinking I'm a male is - Seeing a mirror and being reminded. Hearing my own voice. Body hair. Having a penis. Being referred to as a he, him, guy, man or dude. I also cannot stand being included into conversations that generally only men would be involved in. Like a lot of jokes or things a guy would never say to a girl, yet they'll say it to me being full aware of my situation. That and having someone ask me really private questions and thinking I'll be okay with it because I'm a transgender girl.

Also online, every time I meet a guy, like in a video game. He'll be all sweet and nice to me and cover up his normal douchbag act, but the second he finds out I'm a transgirl he starts acting as if I'm trying to get with him or that I need his approval to feel like a woman. And girls generally are nice to me, I've only met a very few who were really mean toward me.

[Beth Andrea]

Everything...but worst for me was having to be stoic. Can't ask for help, can't offer to help without looking like you're coddling or enabling, can't laugh too loud, can't show sympathy or compassion.

There were exceptions, of course....but they were rare.

[Jess42]

The most irritating thing about being male is not have an "f" and "e" in fornt of it.

[Hideyoshi]

"Sir"

[Foxglove]

When you're 5' 3", you get constant reminders in so many ways from both men and women that you're not really a man.  But you still have to be one. 

Much better being female.  Nobody cares if you're only 5' 3".

[Jill F]

For me it was living up to certain expectations.  It's like, you were born with a penis, therefore X, Y and Z must apply to you.

Nope.

Oh, and morning wood.  Nothing like waking up to that special "f*** you".

[Jessica Merriman]

For me the male sex drive. Ugh!

[alabamagirl]

For me it was living up to certain expectations.  It's like, you were born with a penis, therefore X, Y and Z must apply to you.

Nope.

Oh, and morning wood.  Nothing like waking up to that special "f*** you".

The worst part is then having to go pee with it like that. Ugh.

[xponentialshift]

For me it was living up to certain expectations.  It's like, you were born with a penis, therefore X, Y and Z must apply to you.

Nope.

Oh, and morning wood.  Nothing like waking up to that special "f*** you".

The spontaneous ones throughout the day are worse because you never when when its gonna happen.

[katiej]

I gave the male role a valiant effort, but I never quite fit in.  I can talk about motorcycles and which chick is hotter, but it has always been like I know the right answer but don't really care either way.  Like I'm not really part of the conversation.

I actually do really like sports. But the funny part is that I don't really watch games or even care about them.  I read the news and follow the story lines much more closely.  The actual games are secondary for me.  I don't know if I'm approaching it from a more female perspective -- I care more about the human parts rather than the competitive parts -- or if I'm just studying up for when I'll have to talk about it with other guys.

[katiej]

The worst part is then having to go pee with it like that. Ugh.

Yeah...that really IS irritating! 

[FalseHybridPrincess]

For me the male sex drive. Ugh!

agreed