Quote from: Kitty. on July 22, 2014, 02:44:28 PM
Sorry, Mark - I had only meant to help by writing those terms. I hope I didn't cause offence! I know in the early days I got so mixed up with what everything meant and what was correct to say.
But wow! I'm so happy to hear you think she's your soulmate! I think that is what defines couples who stay together. If you truly love the soul underneath, you can make it together. I really do wish you both the best. You sound sweet and special, so I'm sure she'll think you are worth keeping!
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CommanderCupcakes, what a fun name! Makes me hungry, though. 
Welcome to Susan's, though I've only been here a week or so myself. Strangely, I feel like I fit in more with the MtF sub-forum than this SO area even though I lurk there more than post, cos I have so much respect for what trans people go through, often without a good support network IRL. Whereas on other forums of SOs, everyone just seems to be looking for validation for their resentment, which doesn't fit in with what I need. I know my partner didn't "come out" to spite me. I know my partner didn't have a choice in the matter. If anything, it's only *because* we have such a great relationship that we discovered what's been plaguing her her whole life - we discovered it through talking.
And you're not too late for this thread. No one is. I'm hoping this thread will stay around for years and that loads will find it and find (or share) positivity in it. Maybe it can be stickied so partners and family will always be able to see positivity when they first look here for help?
So thank you for yet another happy story! At times it may feel like you're going through a unique situation, but there are plenty others in the same boat. We stay because we're in love. It outweighs the struggles, the fear of what society will think, the moments of agony or breakdowns when we see our partners hating themselves, or their fears of ridicule, or their panic at having to wait years for treatment. We support them and hold them up when they can't do it any more... because they would do the same for us. That's what love is about.
I used to wonder why my "male" partner stood by me when for years I'd written myself off because I have lots of health problems. But now I realise she loves me because she loves *everything* I am, and if that means my not-so-great health too, so be it. Like you say, when you find your happiness, never let it go.
I wish you and your partner the best of everything, and a speedy, successful transition for her. You, like every one of us partners who stay, are strong and amazing, and your SO is lucky to have you.
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Megan, awww, thank you! I'm so happy that it's gone down so well. There needs to be more threads like this in the world!
Thank you so much for your response- your "...on other forums of SOs, everyone just seems to be looking for validation for their resentment, which doesn't fit in with what I need" really hit home for me. Great reason why a positivity thread is so important. I live in the "south" of the United States (not sure if this forum has any international reach or just for the US), so there are almost no resources, which does affect me pretty strongly sometimes. I am in the process of moving to another southern state, but the area is like a tiny liberal pocket, which is better than where I am now. I really do hope they "sticky" this topic! And thank you for your well-wishes. I am a bit of a hypochondriac, so I really think about her health a lot- but so far so good!
