When you appear in your dreams, what gender are you?

[Julia-Madrid]

I'm presently recovering from FFS, so my sleeping is not excellent, and last night I woke a couple of times and remembered my dreams, which is not very common for me.

My first dream had me as a male;  I think it may have included a suit, and bizzarely I think it may even have had me urinating standing.  It was a little unnerving to say the least.

My second dream had me as a girl.  I don't remember a lot of it, but I do remember that I was a girl.   Phew, what a relief!

For those of you who are transitioning or have transitioned, how do you appear in your dreams, and how does it make you feel? 

[Ms Grace]

Mine tend to be a bit all over the place. Some nights male, other nights female.

Last night I was a cat...

[FrancisAnn]

That's funny. I've always been female. Sometimes young, sometimes older, sometimes in a serious relationship with a man, sometimes back in high school as a young girl............Mostly having fun with nails, hair dos, shopping, with other girl friends.............

[Lonicera]

It varies considerably but seems to be trending towards more dreams where I'm a woman. Having said that, my physical form rarely really features very prominently in my dreams anyway. They're usually focused on weird stories, complex environments, and beautifully improbable realities so it can be hard to notice the particular physical form I had after I wake up.

It used to really bother me when I didn't present as a woman in dreams, I saw it as some kind of indictment of my validity but now I tend to ascribe it to the fact that dreams where my physical form matters seem based on information from personal history of daily life.

[YinYanga]

My dreams tend to dissapear very quickly but I do remember some that I wake up to
Last night, I was a naked woman but pre-op. I was intimate with another girl (She had all sorts of diamonds and jewels pierced on her belly, weird), caressed my breasts and then reached out for my peepee while I said "Nooo"

Everything went black from there and I woke up after

Bit disturbing

[Joan]

A bit of a mix for me too.  Most of the time it doesn't really come into it and I have no awareness of what gender I am.

Last night one the faculty from an overseas sister college had come to the visit.  He kept asking 'why is he a woman now?' And everyone was doing their best to ignore him.

[stephaniec]

For the most part I'm pretty neutral, I'm just me. I'll have dreams where I'll be wearing dresses and other dreams wearing jeans or naked. Every so often I'll have dreams where I'm clearly female which happen to be my favorite ones.

[Auroramarianna]

Lol, to be honest I really don't know.

I RARELY view myself in dreams, and my dreams are very very symbolic. I also never feel my body, it's like I'm some external source who sees things happen but can't intervene 

But I have been pregnant in my dreams... A pregnant cat. Lol.

[ErinWDK]

My dreams are usually VERY strange.  The idea that dreams are the subconcious mind doing housekeeping fit well with what I seem to see.  Usually I am male in my dreams.  A few times I have been female.  In one recent dream I was BOTH at the same time.  This was sort of two people working together in a competition and nobody saw that it was two people double teaming the competition (i.e., percieved us as one).  As I say, my dreams are strange.


Erin

[Julia-Madrid]

Utterly fascinating, friends!  There is material here for at least a few PhD theses, I am sure.

I cannot begin to contemplate being another species, so Ms Grace and AuroraMarianna you are on a totally different plane (of subconsciousness ) from the rest of us if you are transmogrified in your dreams!!

I'd tend to agree with some of the others that my gender seldom is even relevant in my dreams -I just AM, and that's all there is to it.  But last night was such an exception that I thought I had to ask y'all what it's like for you!

Tonight I'd like to be a mermaid.... hahahaha!   

Hugs
Julia

[JennyH]

My gender seems to be all over the place in dreams sometimes Male sometimes Female but quite often I am Trans and then it's usually a central theme to the dream.

[Kaylin Kumiho]

Mostly female, I stopped dreaming that I was male a couple weeks into HRT, and even before then I dreamed I was female as often as male. That said, I do have persisting feelings of that bit between my legs... : /

[Tori]

Before transition, I almost exclusively dreamed I was male.

During transition, to my surprise, I almost exclusively dream I am in transition. The exceptions are when I dream I am a fully transitioned female or further along in transition.

To my memory, I have not dreamed I was fully male since I began to notice physical changes on HRT. If I did, I was not bothered enough by it to try to remember.

Only once in my life do I recall dreaming I was a cis female. That was pre transition. And gaaaaaaa! I woke the moment I realized I was female. Darn dream!

Before transition, I used to dream a lot about the past. Now I dream in the present. I suspect it has to do with the relative newness of my boobs, and my tendency to still sleep partly on my stomach (I have no clue as to why I still do this or how I manage to do it). I imagine I can feel them even in my sleep, and it is still something I am getting used to.

My dreams are more colorful, and even when abstract, somehow more linear and realistic. They have certainly changed some on hormones.

[Wynternight]

Sci-fi and fantasy geek here so I'm a dragon, Drow, Sith Lord, vampire but always, always female.

[Kimberley Beauregard]

I've rarely been female in my dreams (and I'm sure I was only presenting as a female).  Besides that, I used to always acknowledge I'm male.  I've not had that in recent dreams.

[Allyda]

I'm always a woman or sometimes a little girl in my dreams where gender is identified. In some dreams no gender is present for me, I just am there observing whatever is going on. I have never been male in any of my dreams, and I usually always remember them.

Interesting topic Julia thanks for posting!

Allie

[Emily1996]

I usually don't see myself in my dreams D: but yeah I usually don't even remember...

[Myarkstir]

For the 1st 10 years of hrt i would always dream me as male. Then it slowly shifted to female slowly over 5 to 6 years. For the last year its been only female representations but most of the time i have male genitalia still.

As you can see it takes a long time for the brain to reajust. So don't worry time will do its work.

Now here is hoping srs will help with my last little dream issue 

[Miss_Bungle1991]

Female. Sometimes I'm an adult, sometimes a child. Sometimes when I'm a child, I may be a human or on some rare nights, I'm an anthro. LOL I think it happens when I'm particularly busy with working on a fanfic. The subconscious can do some weird things when you are asleep.

[Jill F]

Most often, I am not aware of having a gender in my dreams, just as I am not usually conscious of my gender whilst awake.  I'm just me.

I have had dreams where I was distinctly female since I was a child though, and it was always heartbreaking to have to wake up from them.  I spent most of my life denying and suppressing my feelings, so until I was 43, this was my only way to ever have anything resembling a feminine experience.   Before going to bed I almost always consciously hoped that I'd dream of being a happy girl in a pretty dress.