I can avoid meat mostly, but bananas, avocados, mangoes, and tomatoes I don't think I can.
As far as soy products make sure that it is fermented soy like tempeh or natto. Processed soy like tofu and soy milk can lead to breast cancer, brain damage, thyroid disorders, kidney stones and other issues if over-consumed in replacement of meat and dairy.
A diet that is primarily raw foods is far better for the body despite any feminizing effects. Avoiding dairy is probably a good thing, too, but don't deprive yourself of a tasty cheese once in a while.
I would think HRT would do everything you need it to do without having to resort to extremely particular food choices. Keeping things balanced in your system for optimum nutrition is far more important than any feminizing effects they may have. You don't want to be the new and improved you and be in poor health.