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I pulled the pin and came out at my work

Started by Eva Marie, August 08, 2014, 09:49:20 PM

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Shantel

Quote from: Eva Marie on August 10, 2014, 11:10:30 PM
Hey Shelly-

My business is very work causal - jeans, wedges, and a nice top will be perfectly acceptable which is nice because that's right up my alley. As an example of how casual it is there is a guy that shows up in hiking shorts and hiking boots each day, and the women tend to show up in jeans mostly except for the women in management; they tend to step it up a few notches. Gotta love California!

I don't own a dress and most skirts are problematic because of the dangly thing which causes a bulge if everything is not tucked in well. Hopefully that will get taken care of some day.

Shelly has great taste in what works!

So you're a California girl, I'm two states north of you and most women dress as you described here on a day to day basis including myself, perhaps we'll call it west coast casual.
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Just Shelly

Please don't take any offense in my advice! It wasn't intended on how to dress, but more so how not to go overboard. It seems the ones that have problems with people accepting them more freely at work are the ones that go from dull guy mode to Barbie mode. This doesn't mean their all dolled up, it just means they are wearing a bit more accessories and different styles than other women in the work place.

You actually may have it harder with being a business casual, you need to look clean and proper but don't need to overdress. This can be hard for any female, for someone that is new...it can be even more challenging.

I was lucky, for one I didn't have to come out at work.....and I am able to wear casual. I get to really mix it up, if I want. I could...if I wanted to even wear a skirt....but never had the inkling too.

I guess what I am trying to say is that its hard to dress early on...and not just for work. For me, I didn't want to look too girly (though inside me I did) but I also didn't want to look slobbish. When I was in the in between stage I also had this same feeling, but it came after being gendered female. Often I would look more male than female, only to be gendered female...I would then feel crappy cause if they thought I was female, I sure looked like a pretty crappy one.

It took me a year of ft before I wore outfits that were more form fitting....I knew I had the figure for it but was too afraid to show it. My wardrobe staples now consist of skinny jeans, capris, nice tee's, other knit tops (mostly fitted) and flats and tennies. I do dress it up a bit on weekends or on a date, and love to wear dresses and skirts if I have the chance. I now dress much better for my figure, but it took me awhile....not only to learn but to have the nerve!

I think you will do fine....especialy if you don't overthink things like I do often :)
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Eva Marie

Quote from: Just Shelly on August 11, 2014, 06:27:39 PM
Please don't take any offense in my advice! It wasn't intended on how to dress, but more so how not to go overboard.

No offense was taken Shelly  :)

I have been carefully scrutinizing how the women at work dress for some time. A lot of the women at my level dress casual with jeans, wedges or heels, and casual tops, while some of the upper management women femme it up quite a bit - one director is a very notable fashion plate and I have been quietly lusting over what she wears for quite a while now. The CEO of the company is a female and she tends to not dress very fancy. So.... i don't think that anyone will really care what I wear as long as it isn't revealing or unprofessional. I have been working on a wardrobe for quite a while and I have some pieces that I think will be perfect for work, but more shopping remains to be done over the next 4 weeks to fill some gaps. I plan to buy more of the same style of clothing that I already have and I will save the suits and really stuffy professional clothes for another day when my budget recovers  :D

I do see what you mean though - it is entirely possible to go bonkers with the clothes and makeup and make quite a spectacle of yourself. I'll already have quite enough attention on me so I ain't gonna do that  :o
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