Void?

[voyager]

Some year ago I signed up in this beautiful community. I am 34 years old by now, an still in search of something like an identity.
When I ask myself what I am, there is only a void. I don't feel like am man, or an woman.
I don't know whether that can be an identity too. Or maybe it is "only" a result of surviving incest?
I did five years of therapy, and it helped me a lot in understanding myself, but not in knowing what I am.

I would like to have some space to explore that matter.
Am I welcome here?

[Shantel]

Absolutely, welcome Voyager!

[suzifrommd]

Am I welcome here?

You're more than welcome. You're vital. Please join us.

[ativan]

Yes.
Read through some topics, get a feel for the place, dig for the info you seek, there are several ways to do that.
One is the search function, upper right of each page, and look through some of the back pages for topics in the section and others to see what there is of interest. You can find the back pages at the top and bottom of the main topics page for each section in the forum.
Starting a topic, like you just did, to ask questions and such is also good.
You're very welcome here.
Ativan

[Taka]

you're welcome here, voyager!

knowing what exactly you are, isn't really all that important. agender is a recognized gender identity, if that is what you find out that you are. otherwise, every gender identity is a valid identity here, even if it's one that only pertains to you.

i'm a "taka" gender by the way. it means that i share a whole lot of experiences with a whole lot of people here, but in the end, my exact gender identity is one that i still haven't managed to find in any other member of these forums. would be so much easier if i were just "girl" or "boy", but neither fits well enough to just jump into one of those two largest gender boxes out there.

i don't think being incest can completely erase someone's sense of gender, unless this sense of gender already was rather faint, and maybe just some identity you painted on yourself in order to look more like most other people around you. my own theory is that some of the things that i happened to me when i was younger, i let happen to me because i was too insecure, and didn't really know how to be the gender that everybody else told me i was. i even did things myself that changed my life in ways that i might not have wanted at all if i had just dared to stare deeper into this chaotic core of my being a little earlier.

but what happened, happened because that's what i thought was the best decision at the time. i wouldn't make the same decisions again, but that's only after all those things have already become part of shaping me into the person that i am now. and that's not all bad, i kind of like the person i am right now. most of the time at least, i still have a few issues to sort out before i can start feeling really happy about my own life and personality quirks.

[helen2010]

Voyager

Welcome.  Great to have you come join us.  The more questions and comments the better.

Safe travels

Aisla

[Satinjoy]

You are most welcome here indeed.

This is the land of the unique.  Where individualism in gender identities is a great blessing to others, and where we celebrate our uniqueness and our common bond with each other.

My core, deep inside, is not allied much with either binary position.  I have other aspects though, many strongly female, some not so much.

The point is that I am sure you are not alone.

Welcome and stay with us.

[Illuminess]

What would we do if gender wasn't a limitless spectrum? I guess we'd all be nicely fitted in our boxes. Thankfully, reality just isn't that black and white. To feel like male or female, to feel like both simultaneously, to feel like either at various times, or to feel like neither make any sense at all: we're all still very much human. The body is just there to serve as a vessel for consciousness, and to provide the option of procreation. It does not dictate identity, but can serve as a canvas for expressing that identity.

So, welcome to Eden 2.0 — please partake in the fruit of any and all trees!

[helen2010]

What would we do if gender wasn't a limitless spectrum? I guess we'd all be nicely fitted in our boxes. Thankfully, reality just isn't that black and white. To feel like male or female, to feel like both simultaneously, to feel like either at various times, or to feel like neither make any sense at all: we're all still very much human. The body is just there to serve as a vessel for consciousness, and to provide the option of procreation. It does not dictate identity, but can serve as a canvas for expressing that identity.

So, welcome to Eden 2.0 — please partake in the fruit of any and all trees!

Well said.  My thoughts exactly.

Aisla