How many girls here are housewives?

[MelanieH74]

How many people here are stay at home housewives? I started out staying home when my parents were both ill. After my mother passed , my wife went to work and I was the stay at home dad.
Due to my physical and mental health issues plus alcohol addition, I was in no shape to hold a job. My family doctor pulled me off a job I wasn't able to handle. At that time, I didn't usually go to doctors unless it was life threatening (and even then I was stubborn)
Anyway, as I was trying to pull myself together, I checked myself in rehab for alcohol abuse (it nearly killed me). Between the grief of watching my parents deteriate and struggling with dysphoria (didn't know what it was then) I was drinking myself to death (60-90 beers daily)
Back on topic, my wife IS my wife, but I'LL am the HOUSEwife, clean house, take care of kids, make her life easier when she isn't working etc. She deserves it and I'm proud to do it. In rural. WV, some consider me dead weight, or a bum cause my wife works and  I stay home...but it works for  our family and I  LOVE being a housewife!

[MelanieH74]

Sorry for rambling on :-)

[mrs izzy]

Oui, je suis une femme au foyer.

mon mari fait le travail.


Yes i am a house wife,

my husband does the working.

[pretty pauline]

I'm a stay at home housewife, I do the cooking, cleaning, polishing, dusting, laundry and ironing, my husband works outside the home and provide, does the heavy guy stuff, fixing things etc, I love the contented look on his face when he gets the smell of my cooking.

[Nicole]

Couldn't think of anything worse!

Relying on a man to earn ends meat like he owns you.

[katiej]

Couldn't think of anything worse!

Relying on a man to earn ends meat like he owns you.

Well that was pretty harsh.

[Nicole]

Sorry, but thats how I feel, I would hate waiting on someone hand & foot.

[katiej]

No one said anything about waiting on someone hand and foot.  They said they enjoy cooking, cleaning, and taking care of the kids.  I get that, and I have a lot of respect for people who truly do well in the role of homemaker.  It's selfless, thankless, and can be difficult at times.  And of course they have to put up with people who try to make them feel badly about being a servile 1950's wife.

It's not for me either, but I'm certainly not going to crap on those who do find it to be fulfilling.

[Petti]

Sorry, but thats how I feel, I would hate waiting on someone hand & foot.

I totally respect your opinion there, I do. Personally, however, I love waiting on people. I am very submissive, but I view submission as a gift, so whoever gets it has to earn it. <3

I was married and I used to do ALL the work in the house - that means everything from cooking and cleaning to fixing the car, leaky faucets, or whatever else needed to be done. I really enjoy this role, but the problem was my ex wife didn't appreciate anything.

IMO, if it's someone I trust and who is appreciative and deserving, I would love nothing more than to serve them.

[katiej]

Petti, there's a book called The 5 Love Languages that talks about the way that people show and receive love.  Acts of service is one of the love languages, and it sounds like that fits you well.

BTW, the others are: words of affirmation, gifts, touch, and quality time.

[Petti]

Petti, there's a book called The 5 Love Languages that talks about the way that people show and receive love.  Acts of service is one of the love languages, and it sounds like that fits you well.

BTW, the others are: words of affirmation, gifts, touch, and quality time.

Hmm, I like that. Words of affirmation are important to me as well.

[katiej]

Most people have a primary and secondary.  I'm touch and words of affirmation.  My wife is gifts and acts of service.

[MelanieH74]

I am a housewife because I love my family and enjoy taking care of them. It gives my life a little more meaning knowing they depend on me. My wife is the bread winner and she deserves to come home to a clean house, food on the table and a little pampering. Personally I find it rewarding

[Randi]

I'm retired and my wife is nine years younger than me, so I'm the housekeeper.

I'm not allowed to do laundry except for towels.  I love the fact that I'm no longer working to benefit anyone other than my family.

I'd really like to be a 1950's housewife, like Donna Reed, or June Cleaver.

[MelanieH74]

Can't leave Aunt Bea out! :-)
Seriously, I'd be more like Marion Cunningham fro Happy Days!

[Jill F]

I'm a happy housewife.

If I got a job, the pay would be insignificant compared to my wife's draw and would be taxed at the highest rate anyway.  Then I'd have to hire a housekeeper because nobody here would have time to cook or clean.

I have an apron with electric guitars printed on it and I'm not afraid to use it.

[pretty pauline]

I have a lot of respect for people who truly do well in the role of homemaker.  It's selfless, thankless, and can be difficult at times.  And of course they have to put up with people who try to make them feel badly about being a servile 1950's wife.

Well thanks for that katie, I actually like the word ''homemaker'' I married my husband in August 2010, my intention was not to be a fulltime housewife, it just happen that way. I'm now a fulltime housewife since January 2011, before I got married i couldn't cook a sausage, now I do all the cooking, hubby works long hours, particularly end of year, he could work up to 10 hours a day. But housewives are still stereotyped as not a proper job, I'm not a 1950s wife or a slave to my husband, yes I do all the cooking, cleaning, polishing, dusting, grocery shopping, laundry and ironing, I hate ironing, but i do it, no woman likes ironing, but we do it.
Our marriage works well, I'm hopeless at finance, I can spend and shop till I drop but panic at trying to manage money and paying bills, so hubby is the bread winner, he takes care of the finance and bills, relieving me of the stress of that stuff.
Being a housewife is fulfilling and rewarding, but busy, I don't have enough of hours in the week, learning new recipes at my ''women's group'' cooking skills, Iv also taken up baking, sadly I'm a housewife without kids, that's the sad fact for women like us, doesn't make me any less busy, further reading here  http://christina-l.hubpages.com/hub/Things-To-Do-As-A-Housewife-Without-Kids 
Anyway that's all off topic, get back to the original thread  ''How many girls here are housewives''

[Jess42]

1Couldn't think of anything worse!

2.Relying on a man to earn ends meat like he owns you.

1. Me either. Tending to the home is harder than an actual paying job. And the job description is so varied and vague it ain't even funny. Cleaning toilets, washing dishes, doing laundry, vacuuming, sweeping, cooking and so on. Sort of a Jacqueline of all trades. Plus on top of all that, not minimum wage even.

2. We do it for love of family, for love of our mate and because it really needs to be done. He doesn't feel like he owns you. He can do things for himself and more often than not would rather do things for himself, but if I can make life a little easier on him or her depending, for me right now it's him, I am more than happy just as much as he is happy to make life easier on me. I don't rely on him to make ends "meat" And he don't rely on me to make ends "meat" because we both have our little things going even though the house is mine but I share it freely with him. And my God when we "meat" in the middle, magical ecstasy happens. Sorry, I couldn't resist that last little bit.

[Eevee]

Well I kinda fit into this, but I'm terrible at every aspect of it. My disabilities kept me from finding jobs when I was the "husband." I just stayed home all the time then and got yelled at. Now that I'm free from that mess, I'm going back to school to see if I can get a job. I won't put myself into another abusive relationship like I was in before, but I'm still going to avoid the housewife role for the sake of anxiety and bad memories.

[pretty pauline]

2. We do it for love of family, for love of our mate and because it really needs to be done. He doesn't feel like he owns you.

That's exactly why I do it, for the love of my husband, if I had a 9 to 5 job outside the home, I don't think Id have anymore time for housework, cooking meals, laundry etc.
But when hubby departs for the long day at the office, I organise my own working day at home, it took me a while getting use to my new role, I now love being a housewife, the day is busy but no pressure, it's important to have a routine, a pattern, grocery shopping and laundry on different days, preparing vegetables in advance for dinner, defrosting meats etc etc a woman's work is never done.
Hubby takes care of me financially, because he loves me and accepts me as his wife, I don't have any financial stress, he takes care of that, infact since I became a housewife he probably realizes now how expensive it is taking care of a woman, I'm a high mainenance girl. But I do my duties as a loyal wife.

I'm still going to avoid the housewife role for the sake of anxiety and bad memories.

That's very sad Eevee, it's a good life if you meet the right person, I never intented being a housewife, I thought I would be bored, but it's been very fulfilling for me as a woman.