How many girls here are housewives?

[Jess42]

That's exactly why I do it, for the love of my husband, if I had a 9 to 5 job outside the home, I don't think Id have anymore time for housework, cooking meals, laundry etc.
But when hubby departs for the long day at the office, I organise my own working day at home, it took me a while getting use to my new role, I now love being a housewife, the day is busy but no pressure, it's important to have a routine, a pattern, grocery shopping and laundry on different days, preparing vegetables in advance for dinner, defrosting meats etc etc a woman's work is never done.
Hubby takes care of me financially, because he loves me and accepts me as his wife, I don't have any financial stress, he takes care of that, infact since I became a housewife he probably realizes now how expensive it is taking care of a woman, I'm a high mainenance girl. But I do my duties as a loyal wife.

Not to mention it is one of the most demanding jobs and without pay. But it all is worthwhile, especially the part of no pressure and so on. I love shopping even for groceries. And then for clothes and shoes, might as well make one trip. I love cooking too even outside on the grill so my guy thinks he's lucky when he pulls up and I'm out there with a glass of wine and a steak or ribs on the grill and an ice chest with a twelve pack for him, especially in the summer time when I work on the tan and try to keep the kitchen from warming the house up.

[Teela Renee]

both me and my girlfriend take shifts at it, while im at work she says with her daughter, then when I get home she goes to work and I take over doing the rest of the housework and looking after her daughter.

[MelanieH74]

Being a housewife makes me feel needed. Actually helps with my clinical depression!

[pretty pauline]

Not to mention it is one of the most demanding jobs and without pay. But it all is worthwhile, especially the part of no pressure and so on. I love shopping even for groceries. And then for clothes and shoes, might as well make one trip. I love cooking too even outside on the grill so my guy thinks he's lucky when he pulls up and I'm out there with a glass of wine and a steak or ribs on the grill and an ice chest with a twelve pack for him, especially in the summer time when I work on the tan and try to keep the kitchen from warming the house up.

That's what its about, give and take, and making hubby feel lucky and special, he has about a 45 minute drive home from work, he normally texts me when leaving work, so when he arrives Id always have 1 of his favourite dishes steaming hot, loves a beef vegetable casserole with plenty of gravy, then a dessert of rhubarb and custard tart which I regularly bake, I'm not a 1950s housewife, but I do wear an apron when I'm baking, the only time I do as I don't like getting covered in flour lol
He wears a clean shirt everyday, he never has to wash or iron a shirt, the house is clean and fresh, regularly vacuumed, polished and dusted, I can do all that only by being a fulltime housewife.
I never mix grocery shopping with clothes and shoes, 2 different shopping experiences, I normal do a big grocery shopping on Mondays after the weekend, then a smaller shop on Wednesdays and Thursday. I never grocery shop on Saturdays, that my day for my own shopping which I love, last Saturday was expensive, 2 dresses, 1 pair if shoes, 4 pairs of tights, then I got my hair done, all on my card and hubby pays the bill, he never questioned it, he just knows a woman has needs, we usually go out Saturday night, but if we're having 5 or 6 guests over, it's me that does all the cooking, Iv spent 3 hours over a hot stove making sure the food is just right, it's not for everybody, it's all part of being a housewife, life is so normal being the woman that I am now.

[Jess42]

That's what its about, give and take, and making hubby feel lucky and special, he has about a 45 minute drive home from work, he normally texts me when leaving work, so when he arrives Id always have 1 of his favourite dishes steaming hot, loves a beef vegetable casserole with plenty of gravy, then a dessert of rhubarb and custard tart which I regularly bake, I'm not a 1950s housewife, but I do wear an apron when I'm baking, the only time I do as I don't like getting covered in flour lol
He wears a clean shirt everyday, he never has to wash or iron a shirt, the house is clean and fresh, regularly vacuumed, polished and dusted, I can do all that only by being a fulltime housewife.
I never mix grocery shopping with clothes and shoes, 2 different shopping experiences, I normal do a big grocery shopping on Mondays after the weekend, then a smaller shop on Wednesdays and Thursday. I never grocery shop on Saturdays, that my day for my own shopping which I love, last Saturday was expensive, 2 dresses, 1 pair if shoes, 4 pairs of tights, then I got my hair done, all on my card and hubby pays the bill, he never questioned it, he just knows a woman has needs, we usually go out Saturday night, but if we're having 5 or 6 guests over, it's me that does all the cooking, Iv spent 3 hours over a hot stove making sure the food is just right, it's not for everybody, it's all part of being a housewife, life is so normal being the woman that I am now.

I make one trip. To make it more interesting I do the clothes, makeup and shoes thing first and then the groceries.

Oh yeah. I love making him feel special. That makes it all worthwhile because he makes me feel special too so it is a mutual thing. But like I said, I got my thing and he has his so neither one rely on the other for finances but that doesn't matter. It is two against the world and that is what matters. I do for him and he does for me. He is special to me and I am special to him and that is the most important thing.

[Kaylin Kumiho]

I... suppose I am a house wife. I mean I still live with my parents and my gf with hers... but she works and I don't, and when she comes over for the weekend I cook and clean for her. I kinda like it, but it's really lonely most days and I just hope I can get a job soon so we can move in together and so I can get on with some more transitioning essentials.

[MelanieH74]

Pauline, our stories are sooo similar. It's wonderful seeing the expression on my wifes face when I fix her favorite dish, or have a warm  bath drawn, not to mention cocoa butter back rubs!

[pretty pauline]

I make one trip. To make it more interesting I do the clothes, makeup and shoes thing first and then the groceries.

Oh yeah. I love making him feel special. That makes it all worthwhile because he makes me feel special too so it is a mutual thing. But like I said, I got my thing and he has his so neither one rely on the other for finances but that doesn't matter. It is two against the world and that is what matters. I do for him and he does for me. He is special to me and I am special to him and that is the most important thing.

That's why my marriage works so well Jess, are you married, tomorrow being Saturday is my shopping day, NO GROCERY SHOPPING, I'm going shopping with Hubby's sister, (my-sister-in-law) it's not grocery shopping, it's just a girly day which I always enjoy, I value her opinion on fashion, I usually shop for my clothes, shoes and makeup, then finish up getting our hair done, girly stuff.
Hubby is off doing his thing, football etc, but as you say, it's all mutual, I do for him and he does for me, I don't have my own finances, Hubby manages all the finance, he sees that as a ''guy thing'' but I don't mind, i don't have the stress of the bills, but I give a lot in return, he'll do absolutely anything for me except cook, clean and polish etc, that's '' woman's work'' he jokes, but I don't mind, he always appreciates my efforts, he'll mow the lawn and do all the guy stuff, but if we're having friends over for dinner, he'll stay out a mile away from the kitchen while I take on the task of preparing and cooking dinner, it's time consuming and hot work, most men think a kitchen is a woman's world, my husband is no different, but then the reward comes when he shows his appreciation, I know, I'm a sucker for flowers. He has accepted my history, but we never discuss it, we live our lives now as an ordinary married couple, he's a working husband providing and taking care of me, I'm a fulltime housewife doing my best being a wife to him.

Being a housewife makes me feel needed. Actually helps with my clinical depression!

I'm so sorry you suffer from clinical depression, i think that's what Robin Williams had.

It's wonderful seeing the expression on my wifes face when I fix her favorite dish, or have a warm  bath drawn, not to mention cocoa butter back rubs!

That's so true Melanie, I love cooking his favorite dish, he might have had a bad day at work, dealing with some jerk, I see him in the car in that mood, then the mood changes when he smells that casserole, the way to a man's heart is thru his stomach, I may have spent 3 hours that afternoon in a hot kitchen preparing veg and baking scones, but just seeing that satisfied look on my husband face makes it all worth it, being a housewife does have it's rewards.

[judithlynn]

Hi Pauline;
Interesting topic.
When I first transitioned, after living full time for nearly 2 years  really successfully I unfortunately lost my job after getting outed at work.  About the same time my social support network collapsed with my two best girlfriends moving to US and another girlfriend to another city in the UK . I actually shared a flat with the second girlfriend. Anyway some other friends asked me to move in with them and I became the "housewife or I suppose it could be housemaid"

The couple really looked after me incredibly well, although it was not just living arrangement, as the husband wanted us to also sleep together. I should say I had known them for a long time as swingers.
Anyway both of then worked full time and for a period of nearly 6 months I really enjoyed my time as the Housewife. In fact to me it was a real fulfilling time for me as it gave me a crucial element of stability in my life whist being able to continue to live full time as a woman. The neighbours just new me as Yvonne's girlfriend.

I didn't mind one bit that I did all the housekeeping, ironing, dusting vacuuming, cooking , laundry etc. In fact at first I was quite disorganised, but Yvonne always encouraged me and we enjoyed doing stuff in the kitchen together. She taught me how to bake  and even how to sew and knit. As she often said "one day  all of this will stand you in good instead when you find the man of your dreams and can love him and look after him as the dutiful wife". If you can find the right man who will love you, care for you in sickness and in health nothing else matters. It never happened but it was wonderful to dream. When we had moments to ourselves we both went on shopping trips together and I loved looking at wedding dresses.. One weekend we even planned what a White wedding would be like for me

However during the week I always aimed at having the dinner on the table when they both got back from work. Yvonne used to pick her husband up at the train station and would let me know what time dinner should be ready. So I have the Gin & Tonic ready for him when they came home and a glass of wine for Yvonne.

After dinner,  I cleared up and would then generally end up seated on cushions in front of Yvonne and her husband so that he could massage my shoulders and neck and after the 10 o clock National news that used to lead us eventually upstairs unless it was a Friday when he liked to have a hot bath with both the women in his life ministering to his needs!!.......... It was a crazy time in my life looking back.
Judith

[imissmymama]

I would have no problem being the housewife for my hubby but I also want a part time job on the side. 

[noeleena]

Hi,

Im ein Haus Frau und drehen meine Hand um irgend etwas
Im a woman  and turn my hand to any thing ,

I have no male or female differences as many see roles to be given to only mens work or womens work and i dont conform to ether,

Im very independent and just do what i need to when needed, 

Being female from birth can give you insights to you need in life,   yet a little bit of male never went astray , ether,   

...noeleena...

[kira21 ♡♡♡]

I am a single parent. I do both. I work and I keep house, sew and bake. I long to go back to being a house wife, but its not going to happen. Even if I meet someone, I would still have to work unless he was rich. I suppose I was born in the wrong generation, but then, I wouldn't have access to the same healthcare if I was born in the 1950s! Still, to be a woman in the 1950s with a loving husband would suit me just fine. While I am fantasising, he could be rich and devilishly handsome too, very affectionate and completely and utterly, head over heels besotted with me. :-)

[noleen111]

I would love to be a house wife someday..

I can actually can bake and cook quite well, and I am learning to sew.. I actually enjoy it.. and I will need a mini-van to take the kids places.. ok the kids will have to be adopted due to me being trans.. but I want to be a mommy to a child or 3.

[ImagineKate]

Last week my wife went to work and I took the week off, took care of the kids, to school and back, and doing various things around the house.

You know what? I actually enjoyed it quite a lot. I wouldn't mind it at all.

However, we need both of our incomes to maintain our lifestyle and I make 2x what she does so it is unlikely that I will ever find myself as a homemaker.

But I do all the grocery shopping already and a lot of other stuff. Cooking too. I get to take the kids to school every day because she needs to get to work earlier.

[pretty pauline]

Hi Pauline;
Interesting topic.
"housewife or I suppose it could be housemaid"
I didn't mind one bit that I did all the housekeeping, ironing, dusting vacuuming, cooking , laundry etc. In fact at first I was quite disorganised, but Yvonne always encouraged me and we enjoyed doing stuff in the kitchen together. She taught me how to bake  and even how to sew and knit. As she often said "one day  all of this will stand you in good instead when you find the man of your dreams and can love him and look after him as the dutiful wife". If you can find the right man who will love you, care for you in sickness and in health nothing else matters. It never happened but it was wonderful to dream.

Hi Judith
I don't really like the term housemaid, I don't see myself as a maid to my husband, I'm a  housewife or homemaker, I'm definitely a dutiful wife to him as I do all the housekeeping, cleaning dusting, polishing, vacuuming, laundry, ironing, grocery shopping cooking and baking, I'm now good at sewing and knitting, I'm learning crochet patterns and I love it, very relaxing and therapeutic for me as a woman, before I got married and working in a regular job, was a lot of pressure, although being a housewife can be hard work just keeping on top of all the housekeeping, but when I got an organised routine I have less pressure, my kitchen is now my office lol, I have my own space, hubby usually gives me plenty of notice when I can expect him home, giving me plenty of time and space to prepare and cook delicious hot meals, he has his role as husband and provider, mine is housewife and homemaker.

I would love to be a house wife someday..

I can actually can bake and cook quite well, and I am learning to sew.. I actually enjoy it.. and I will need a mini-van to take the kids places.. ok the kids will have to be adopted due to me being trans.. but I want to be a mommy to a child or 3.

Your definitely housewife material Noleen, meet the right man that appreciates a dutiful wife, it won't surprise me if you met a guy and got married, it's a good life, hard work housekeeping, but very rewarding, particularly being married to the right man who accepts us for the women we are.

[Deinewelt]

Me and my wife have a son and a baby girl arriving within the next two weeks!  Currently she is stay at home because she is making the babies, but I long for a time when she goes to work and I become the housewife:laugh:

As it is now I work full time, but I always help so much at home with all the cleaning, laundry, and helping with our kids.  We have our gender roles figured out pretty well, but at this point I am just at the start of transition and still trying to get access to HRT through my therapist.  The main thing right now is trying to figure out what is comfortable for us.  In the long run, I think either one of us will end up working, but it doesn't matter too much to me as long as things are working.

[Gothic Dandy]

Oh my...may I chime in? I'm a housewife and I love it. Well, not the cleaning so much as the being needed and doing a service for people I love. (By the way, Flylady is a LIFESAVER. I have serious issues breaking tasks down into doable steps.)

I'm not sure what I should be called now that I'm transitioning away from female, though. I just keep telling myself that bois can still be "wives."

[judithlynn]

Hi Pretty Pauline;
Sorry about the turn of phrase - Housemaid. Its just that Yvonne was the wife in the relationship. Perhaps a better name for me was the live in AuPair,
See Wiki AuPair "An au pair (plural: au pairs) is a female domestic assistant from a foreign country working for, and living as part of, a host family. Typically, au pairs take on a share of the family's responsibility for childcare as well as some housework, and receive a monetary allowance for personal use. Au pair schemes are subject to government restrictions which specify an age range usually from late teens to mid to late twenties. In Europe, where the concept originated, au pairs are only supposed to work part-time, and they often also study part-time".

In my case I was living with Derek & Yvonne, but I did most of the domestic work, but had the luxury of being looked after and cared for by both of them. They paid me an allowance and gave me a family credit card.  I also took a part time class at a local college on beauty therapy & Make up.

Obviously though there was also a sexual element to the  joint relationship, although I did have my own bedroom

After all of the traumas of my previous  6 months life, living with them outside London was in fact quite fulfilling for me and it felt wonderful to be loved and protected. Yvonne was always buying me and herself sexy underwear and negligee's to wear for Derek. And it certainly worked!

They wanted me  to move to Corfu with them (they retired there), but I chose to stay in the UK, although I eventually moved myself to Australia.

Yvonnne was also both loving and very caring and I remember fondly the sessions we had to together on such things as make up and dress sense. She always encouraged me, coached me and treated me almost as a daughter. I remember she said one make up session that I should always concentrate on having a minimal makeup base/foundation but to concentrate on getting perfectly made up eyes and lips. and of course cleanse, tone and moisturise every day! She said if you focus on these things then men will look into your eyes and just want to kiss your adorable kissable lips!

Judith Lynn

[Ashey]

I'm pretty much the housewife. I'm in college but taking online courses this semester, so I'm home a lot and my boyfriend works full-time so it makes the most sense that I would do more of the household chores. Besides, he sucks at cleaning and doing dishes, or doesn't keep things as clean as I would. So I'm fine with that. He also typically does his own laundry but sometimes we do each others, so it's split nicely. When I get a job again we'll probably divide chores even more.

[FrancisAnn]

I'm retired and my wife is nine years younger than me, so I'm the housekeeper.

I'm not allowed to do laundry except for towels.  I love the fact that I'm no longer working to benefit anyone other than my family.

I'd really like to be a 1950's housewife, like Donna Reed, or June Cleaver.

That would be cool. However I love Lassie. Perhaps Timmy's mother. Or Dale Evans with Roy Rogers. She was very pretty, but not a house wife. I like her best. I wonder if she & Roy were a number off screen?