Dr. Bowers was my surgeon and she hit all of your main points for what you want. I am happy with looks, and healing was largely un-eventful. (3 of the members here are headed her way, and another had surgery with her in April.) My stuff works, and I was 65 at the time of my surgery in Jan 2013. Dr. Crane is about 15 miles south of Dr. Bowers, and one of our other members was his patient and she is feeling great about it and is up and moving around very well and happily. Crane also nailed your requirements for her. Correct spelling by the way is Toby Meltzer, in Arizona, and he was on my short list except for the two stage surgery. The second stage is creation of labia minora. Crane and Bowers use single stage where the labia minora are constructed during the first surgery. Everyone who is happy with their results will recommend their surgeons, and most bad results are caused by failure to follow pre or post op medical instructions for self care. Only caution is your bod is gonna do what YOUR bod is gonna do!! Don't blame the doctor for that.
If you have a chance to get to a Transgender Convention in the near future where one of the surgeons will be presenting an infomercial, that is really the best way to figure out who you want. Both Meltzer and Bowers were at Conferences I went to, and it was on the basis of personal interaction that I made my choice. Both of them are friends by the way.