Is there a transition, really?

[HelloKitty]

Ever feel like you're not sure what's going on?
I mean sure, guys hold doors open for me and hit on me now
where before they didnt. Women are open and kind and friendly
In a way of inclusion like never before.
People use female pronouns.
I look more or less like a girl (I still am horribly critical of myself),
dress in clothing appropriate for a young woman.
And my emotions are way different than before and
I can express myself the way that wasnt possible before.

Some may call that a whole lotta change! A transition if you will, but to me, it's
all just a bunch of stuff that happened. No big deal, I'm still me, not
an entirely new person that was born yesterday (or should I say, 10 months ago).

I don't really feel like I'm doing anything differently other than presenting female in appearance
And expressing myself normally in all situations.

Idk what I'm really trying to say, just that it always surprises me when i meet people and they just treat me like any cis woman.
Because before this never happened but I havent changed! The real me iinside is still the same, im the same as I always was.
Just dressing as a woman now and not keeping anything bottled up.

Prolly made no sense lol

[Jessica Merriman]

All I can really say is one day you will realize you have transitioned. My eureka moment was about 5 or 6 months into full time. I saw myself in the mirror and smiled because "he" was gone and suddenly I realized I had made my goal. All of the little things that had changed were just suddenly visible both on the outside and more importantly the inside. It is really hard to describe adequately, but when it happens you will know it and all the struggles and frustrations of transition will have been worth it. I hope you get to that point and finally feel complete. 

[Beverly]

Ever feel like you're not sure what's going on?
I mean sure, guys hold doors open for me and hit on me now
where before they didnt. Women are open and kind and friendly
In a way of inclusion like never before.
People use female pronouns.
I look more or less like a girl (I still am horribly critical of myself),
dress in clothing appropriate for a young woman.
And my emotions are way different than before and
I can express myself the way that wasnt possible before.

Yes - I get all of that too

Some may call that a whole lotta change! A transition if you will, but to me, it's
all just a bunch of stuff that happened. No big deal, I'm still me, not
an entirely new person that was born yesterday (or should I say, 10 months ago).

Yes - I get that too

I don't really feel like I'm doing anything differently other than presenting female in appearance
And expressing myself normally in all situations.

Idk what I'm really trying to say, just that it always surprises me when i meet people and they just treat me like any cis woman.
Because before this never happened but I havent changed! The real me iinside is still the same, im the same as I always was.
Just dressing as a woman now and not keeping anything bottled up.

Yes - I get this too


Funny old thing transition... you go through hell, turn your life and relationships upside down, put them all back together again and then get on with everything as if nothing has changed. And nothing has changed, apart from two small things... how you look and what you call yourself.

But it was still so worth it.

[kelly_aus]

Yeah, I get.. Transition for me was somewhat of a bnon-event in the end.. A change in label and packaging..

Funny old thing transition... you go through hell, turn your life and relationships upside down, put them all back together again and then get on with everything as if nothing has changed. And nothing has changed, apart from two small things... how you look and what you call yourself.

But it was still so worth it.

And sometimes it isn't all hell and remains on an even keel.. And life continues on much as it always has - just with the 2 small details aaggat mentioned.

[Marcia]

I don't really feel like I'm doing anything differently other than presenting female in appearance
And expressing myself normally in all situations.

Idk what I'm really trying to say, just that it always surprises me when i meet people and they just treat me like any cis woman.
Because before this never happened but I havent changed! The real me iinside is still the same, im the same as I always was.
Just dressing as a woman now and not keeping anything bottled up.

It may not feel different to you because you have always been you. The difference is that now you are showing the world who you are. Part of transitioning is not for us it is for others to see us.

Hope that makes some sense. 

[mrs izzy]

Ever feel like you're not sure what's going on?
I mean sure, guys hold doors open for me and hit on me now
where before they didnt. Women are open and kind and friendly
In a way of inclusion like never before.
People use female pronouns.
I look more or less like a girl (I still am horribly critical of myself),
dress in clothing appropriate for a young woman.
And my emotions are way different than before and
I can express myself the way that wasnt possible before.

Some may call that a whole lotta change! A transition if you will, but to me, it's
all just a bunch of stuff that happened. No big deal, I'm still me, not
an entirely new person that was born yesterday (or should I say, 10 months ago).

I don't really feel like I'm doing anything differently other than presenting female in appearance
And expressing myself normally in all situations.

Idk what I'm really trying to say, just that it always surprises me when i meet people and they just treat me like any cis woman.
Because before this never happened but I havent changed! The real me iinside is still the same, im the same as I always was.
Just dressing as a woman now and not keeping anything bottled up.

Prolly made no sense lol

Makes a lot of sense to me, It is transition but more a transition of your confidence and acceptance of who you are, are who you always been.

That turning of the corner.

Such a great life.

[Hikari]

Perhaps we are using the word differently, I am certainly still me, but I call all of those changes transition.

[Jill F]

I had been pondering something along these lines recently. 

When is your transition ever complete?  X months on HRT?  Legal name/gender change?  The day you look in the mirror and see the person you always thought you were?  The day everyone else sees you as yor true self?  After SRS?  Is there a magic line in the sand that one must cross in order to come out the other side? 

I have been the real me as soon as I became aware that I hadn't been true to myself for 43 years.  From my perspective, my transition was essentially complete once I shed the mask.  Everything else I did was an additional bonus.

[alabamagirl]

It does feel a bit strange to call it transition when I think more deeply about it. In a way, I have been in a constant state of transition my entire life, always evolving, learning more about myself and the world around me, and being able to express myself better as time goes on. Some of this is related to gender and some not.

On the other hand, at my core, I've always been the same person. It's just that it became clouded and covered in debris as life went on and I tried to be someone I wasn't. Now I'm clearing that all away, and others are able to see what was underneath. To them, it probably appears as if I've become an entirely different person.

[Northern Jane]

For me, "transition" was walking out of the hospital knowing I WAS female and didn't have to make any pretense any more. It was as easy as dropping the act and just being myself. I guess transitions just don't get any easier than that.

[suzifrommd]

I feel the same way. I'm living a totally different life, but I don't "feel" a whole lot different. I mean went on HRT, started wearing wig, makeup, used a feminine voice, etc., but those are minor adjustments in everyday life. However they brought major changes in the way the world sees me.

[Eva Marie]

I don't feel much different than before - I still like the same stuff (mostly), I find the same kind of jokes funny, I like the same kinds of movies, and so on. However I am now free to be the real me without having to perform the dudebro act anymore, and I'm finding that women accept me as one of them. I am the same me as before except I have a happy hormonally adjusted brain. No clouds opened up, no angels sang, nothing happened at all to make me feel like a woman. That's ok because I get to be the real ME