Orgasms

[LeonnaCox]

Hey there girls.

Regards from Guatemala.  I hope I will not cause offense with my topic, but I need to find some answer to this.

So, I just want to ask about how to know your neo-vagina and masturbate yourself to achieve an orgasm.  I was a bit afraid, coz I already have 8 months since my MTF operation but I didn't feel anything or at least good.  I know now that I am capable to have orgasms. This was possbile thanks to a "wet dream" (I still don't know if that's the correct term in english).  I was dreaming of having sex and then I woke up in the right moment when my vagina was contracting and felt really good.

Now the thing is this:  while I dilate I feel good if I touch my clit with a bit of lubricant. So, once I was trying to masturbate and I felt tasty, but when i was thinking that I was close to achieve an orgasm, I got wet with pee .  Since that I haven't try it again. My boyfriend tried to give me a ->-bleeped-<-, but talking for real... I didn't feel anything good.  Do you think I will be able to achieve an orgasm awake? either masturbating or having sex/reciving ->-bleeped-<-. 

I would be glad for some tips, ideas or advices.
Thank you very much
Leonna

[mrs izzy]

I would say a good place to start is the p  (g) spot.

Its a whole new game you need to find what works and does not.

Nothing of old other then the p spot is the same.

Way more mental then physical.

Relax enjoy and when it comes. :-)

[LeonnaCox]

Hey Mrs Izzy:

Thank you for the answer.  Could you tell me more about your experience.  I have a friend from Ecuador that got surgery 3 weeks before me, but she claims that she has lot of orgasms through dreams since the third or 4th month, and she does feel very good while her boyfriend give her ->-bleeped-<-.  I believe her, but that makes me feel down.  I changed my mind in my 6th month when I had the "wet dream" but I didnt feel anything since then.  I don't know I am getting stressed with this topic. 

I would be glad to hear how it worked for you.
Thank you.

[mrs izzy]

As i said it is emotional. The old physical way does not work.

Well in a way it still somewhat, but not in the old sense of things.

I found that hmmm it takes a lot, i mean a lot of emotional feeling to get to where i need to be.

My clitoris is very sensitive when its touched by others more then my self.

That is one of a few places i found that stimulation helps and then i just let the emotions rise.

Yes stressing over things will kill the mood.

I have had so many times i got right to that point and just could not push it over the edge.

Relax and explore your new map of your body, things are different for sure.

Not everything came back until after a year and i am 16 months and still have some of the nerves coming back on line.

[suzifrommd]

So, once I was trying to masturbate and I felt tasty, but when i was thinking that I was close to achieve an orgasm, I got wet with pee .

Are you sure it was pee? A lot of post-op girls produce fluid when they get very aroused.

[Vicky]

Do be sure you have taken care of both urination and possible bowel movements before attempting to reach  your "O" limits. 

My "O's" involve my whole body and not just my vulvar area.  I also do not give a hoot-n-a-holler whether I get one or not.  Even my ex and my daughters have pointed out that trying too hard to get an "O" is a sure fire way of killing any possibility of having one. Relaxation to any sensation is the best way, personal foreplay, such as re-touching your make-up and hair, and even a sexy nightgown and some high heel slippers parading in front of your mirror can help.  If you have a toy, (or just your dilator) use it to massage the back of your neck, your breasts, and/or your inner thighs, and watch yourself as you do it.  Let your fantasy's be as wild as you can make them.  The big point is that you set them up and then live through them, and do not force them.  Female "O" cannot be compared to male ejaculation as a sign of orgasm. 

[LeonnaCox]

As i said it is emotional. The old physical way does not work.

Well in a way it still somewhat, but not in the old sense of things.

I found that hmmm it takes a lot, i mean a lot of emotional feeling to get to where i need to be.

My clitoris is very sensitive when its touched by others more then my self.

Thank you for the answer Izzy, my case is all opposite to yours, I feel better touching myself than my boyfriend touching me.  I'll continue exploring myself... I will let you know what it happens.  Thank you.

[LeonnaCox]

Are you sure it was pee? A lot of post-op girls produce fluid when they get very aroused.

Yes Suzi, it was pee jajaja, was pretty much to be an eyaculation .

[LeonnaCox]

Do be sure you have taken care of both urination and possible bowel movements before attempting to reach  your "O" limits. 

My "O's" involve my whole body and not just my vulvar area.  I also do not give a hoot-n-a-holler whether I get one or not.  Even my ex and my daughters have pointed out that trying too hard to get an "O" is a sure fire way of killing any possibility of having one. Relaxation to any sensation is the best way, personal foreplay, such as re-touching your make-up and hair, and even a sexy nightgown and some high heel slippers parading in front of your mirror can help.  If you have a toy, (or just your dilator) use it to massage the back of your neck, your breasts, and/or your inner thighs, and watch yourself as you do it.  Let your fantasy's be as wild as you can make them.  The big point is that you set them up and then live through them, and do not force them.  Female "O" cannot be compared to male ejaculation as a sign of orgasm.

Hey there Vicky.  I think your username is similar to my real name.  My fantasy?  Awww I used to have lot of dark fantasies before my SRS, so I will try to concentrate and think about it or maybe interenet can helps me, jejeje.  Lately I have been dilating just once in the weekdays and well, weekends my boyfriend is in charge.  So I think this afternoon I will try to get a bit "fey" and see what happens. 

How long takes you to achieve an "o" awake?

[Rose City Rose]

As i said it is emotional. The old physical way does not work.

Well in a way it still somewhat, but not in the old sense of things.

I found that hmmm it takes a lot, i mean a lot of emotional feeling to get to where i need to be.

I haven't even had my surgery yet (still on the fence hence why I'm reading this thread) but I find that this is true for me after a year and a half on HRT.  My penis has turned into an over-developed clitoris and my sexual response is very emotionally-based.  If I'm not in the right mood, I can't finish, no exceptions!

[mrs izzy]

I haven't even had my surgery yet (still on the fence hence why I'm reading this thread) but I find that this is true for me after a year and a half on HRT.  My penis has turned into an over-developed clitoris and my sexual response is very emotionally-based.  If I'm not in the right mood, I can't finish, no exceptions!

Ya kinda like that but even harder.

Its hard to explain sometimes but let me say a little yes like that but not really.

For those who say we can never be girls, i have to say BS, this is just like a girl in every way.

[PurpleCrown]

I find that this is true for me after a year and a half on HRT.  My penis has turned into an over-developed clitoris and my sexual response is very emotionally-based.

My feelings exactly, but when I'm not in the right mood I don't even get started.

[Rose City Rose]

Ya kinda like that but even harder.

Its hard to explain sometimes but let me say a little yes like that but not really.

For those who say we can never be girls, i have to say BS, this is just like a girl in every way.

This truly is a one-way street into strange territory.  Not necessarily in a bad way, just so different from what I'm accustomed to.  At least this gives me some sort of frame of reference of what I should expect post-op and it doesn't sound all that scary when it's put that way.  Just... well, something I'll learn to enjoy with time just like I learned to enjoy my current state.

This thread was helpful to me. Thanks!

[JessicaNYCgirl]

its been 5 months since my SRS  and i couldnt be happier  but i will also say that yes its more mental and emotional than before i dont think i have achieved an orgasm like i used to have prior ro srs but when i do have sex it feels great! just the other day was feeling even better than anyother time ..had he kept on going longer i thought i could have had maybe what i would have called an orgasm  but he finished and ..i like always felt pleased none the less     hmmm      maybe  one of these days ... i haven't yet  masturbated ether  lol 

[Rachelicious]

I had my surgery with Dr. Pichet in 2008 and was orgasmic within about a month. Really wasn't all that difficult to figure out what felt good. Patience is key, rushing isn't free, let relaxation be your A-R-T. Don't necessarily expect to climax with a partner (especially males) or from any specific type of activity.

Even though Pichet handled the rest of it so badly in regards to appearance and damaged/exposed residual tissue that after a year of appeals my prejudiced insurance actually paid for 75% of the cost of my revision (with Dr. Leis), two things for which I can give him credit are giving me a healthy vagina with no complications and setting the erotic sensation potential of my vulva and clitoral area (think of it erotica as being one, coherent, bodywide sensation, and feelings will come much much easier.) And when I had my revision with Dr. Leis, having told him that I care more about how it looks than how it feels, I still came out with well-preserved arousal. Even with the removal of the pathetically non-erogenous 'neo-clit' Pichet constructed.

It's human sexuality, I'm not that fascinated by it but happy to not be totally out of the club.