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What are you thinking? 9.0

Started by V M, August 21, 2014, 10:29:08 PM

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MyKa

Very well said....transition to us is also transition to others!
Dream as if you'll live forever, Live as if you'll die today.....J.Dean
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NathanielM

Someone posted on a friends facebook (on an article she posted about pyschotherapy) that maybe people these days run to a therapist to quickly, because in the end they'll have to do it themselves and therapist can't help you with that. Which really makes me wonder about the perspective of some people? As if getting therapy suddenly isn't something that's often seen as shamefull, as if most people haven't hesitated or even stopped getting help for psychological problems because of the social stigma? I want to live in the world of this person, where people see therapists too often and thus everyone gets the help they need and then some. I wouldn't complain about that!

I also wondered if that isn't exactly what a therapist is for? To help you do the things you need to do yourself, after all if you didn't need help for it you probably would've done it by now. I'm also wondering if somebody would read that comment and decide not to go see a therapists because they should just be able to do it themselves... I hope not, asking for help is hard enough already.
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LWhite

All the dresses I like come in tiny little waif sizes only. Pang of jealousy. A pox on my boxer's build. Gonna have to get back into sewing.

A brief, shining moment of amusement reflecting on besting an old "friend" in an argument in a public forum while he doesn't know who I am anymore.

Bio-proof magnets, where to get them and who to spot me when I'm cutting my hands open to put them in.

2 hours 35 minutes until Dad gets home. For his "sake" I should probably get changed from female to androgyne. Urgh.

Transfer two dozen project files, put on a movie. Half hour to d&d. So much to do.
Impermanently human.
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Shantel

Quote from: LWhite on October 09, 2014, 02:27:54 AM
All the dresses I like come in tiny little waif sizes only. Pang of jealousy. A pox on my boxer's build. Gonna have to get back into sewing.


You are definitely not alone there sweetie, we have lots of sisters who can totally relate. You do look awesome in that dress though!
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Blue Senpai

Why do I feel so chill and have a quiet mind...?
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Adam (birkin)

Someone at work just pulled my shirt aside over my shoulder (checking for a bite) and saw my bra strap. I wonder what he thought of it. Can't wait for surgery.
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Shantel

Quote from: birkin on October 09, 2014, 11:52:06 AM
Someone at work just pulled my shirt aside over my shoulder (checking for a bite) and saw my bra strap. I wonder what he thought of it. Can't wait for surgery.

More people have seen my bra straps who think I'm a man and apparently it hasn't changed their thinking. What you're wearing doesn't make you either a man or a woman, it's who you are that makes all the difference.
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Shantel

Quote from: MyKa on October 08, 2014, 09:29:07 PM
I just feel like I let them down from the beginning

Don't, even though you love them dearly you're not responsible for them feeling that you didn't meet their expectations honey, quit beating up on yourself over that! I'm a parent of two 40 year olds and I had to learn that the hard way and when I finally got my foot off the backs of their necks in terms of my expectations of them, then they grew into who they were intended to be in spite of me. They don't own you by this time in your life!
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immortal gypsy

Quote from: Marcellow on October 09, 2014, 11:33:54 AM
Why do I feel so chill and have a quiet mind...?
Because your engine is starting to run on its proper fuel
Do not fear those who have nothing left to lose, fear those who are prepared to lose it all

Si vis bellum, parra pacem
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Adam (birkin)

Quote from: Shantel on October 09, 2014, 12:01:10 PM
More people have seen my bra straps who think I'm a man and apparently it hasn't changed their thinking. What you're wearing doesn't make you either a man or a woman, it's who you are that makes all the difference.

Yeah, he kept calling me dude and stuff and it didn't seem to change anything, depending on how much he saw it probably passed as an undershirt strap. I felt weird about it though. He's a very transphobic person, basically thinks that trans people are "tricking" others so I don't know how he'd take it if he found out. He's talked to me pretty openly as a guy, and said a lot of stuff to be in trust that he would never ever say to a woman. My boss knows and she seems like someone who would be respectful and not gossip, a few coworkers know, one is a friend and I hope she would respect me. Then there's another coworker who really isn't into the personal gossip.
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Miss_Bungle1991

HOW can scissors disappear when you've only had them in the living room and the kitchen???!!! HOW?!
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Mariah

Not sure, but I swear it happens to a lot of other things too. Amazing how they can be in spot and then gone the next.
Quote from: Laura Squirrel on October 10, 2014, 12:14:15 AM
HOW can scissors disappear when you've only had them in the living room and the kitchen???!!! HOW?!
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LordKAT

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Liam Erik

It occurred to me yesterday that with the new pastures and the age old issue of grass shortage solved, I no longer have to pretend I'm not going to add a lamb or two to the flock every year.  Been doing this all my life and it's always been, no we're eating them all... unless there's a special one.  When the inevitable special one arrives, I agonize over keeping her on, and then keep her anyway.  Well, no more apologizing, because feeding her won't be a problem.  So now I'm thinking about how this might go in the next few years. 

Coinciding with this revelation is the fact that I've now had my ram for three years, which means his daughters have already been added to all my advanced bloodlines, which means until we get a new ram, the lambs I most want to get one of have all been got.  This frees me to expand sideways and keep a lamb from someone else, a good move for diversity and the possibility of keeping a meatier lamb, which I wouldn't normally. (They are crossbreds with one side of the flock geared to wool and the other side geared to meat.)  I say that particularly because one of my meatier ewes has a very interesting wool gene herself, which I am dying to capture in a baby with other, better wool qualities in addition.  This gene doesn't show itself for at least a year or two, and it might be recessive and currently unattainable anyway, which makes it a gamble to keep on one of her lambs instead of another who's a sure thing for something else.  She's also a nutcase, which I certainly don't want duplicated.  If she has another black ewe lamb next spring, I'll have to think about it.

"Never give in! Never give in! Never, never, never -- in nothing great or small, large or petty. Never give in, except to convictions of honour and good sense."
-Sir Winston Churchill
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JulieBlair

I am living in a thirty year old 28ft Airstream, and it looks like that will continue to be the way things are for some time.  It will be months, maybe never before I get to move back into my house, and till then it's 3k a month going towards payments and utilities which doesn't leave enough for an apartment.

Yesterday, I replaced the floor and toilet in the bathroom.  Other than being cramped, there was a time when this just wouldn't have been that big a deal. Seems 26 months of E has made a wimp of me.  Not only that but the joy of demolition with a saws all wasn't even there.  It just wasn't any fun at all.

I wonder if I have any pics left of when I was biking 30 km daily and body building.  Probably not, I pretty much ditched all traces of that prick years ago. ::)  Could have used him yesterday though.  Any dudes here like saving a damsel in distress?

Julie
I am my own best friend and my own worst enemy.  :D
Full Time 18 June 2014
Esprit can be found at http://espritconf.com/
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JulieBlair

On the folks who've moved on note, if Ativan has really left for good I will cry.  Wisdom and intelligence in the same package.   ???  Somebody please tell him to come back.  God I miss Nero, makes me cry whenever I think of him.   :'(  When he died I was jealous.  Sort of still am.

Julie
I am my own best friend and my own worst enemy.  :D
Full Time 18 June 2014
Esprit can be found at http://espritconf.com/
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Shantel

Quote from: JulieBlair on October 10, 2014, 08:30:13 AM
I am living in a thirty year old 28ft Airstream, and it looks like that will continue to be the way things are for some time.  It will be months, maybe never before I get to move back into my house, and till then it's 3k a month going towards payments and utilities which doesn't leave enough for an apartment.

Yesterday, I replaced the floor and toilet in the bathroom.  Other than being cramped, there was a time when this just wouldn't have been that big a deal. Seems 26 months of E has made a wimp of me.  Not only that but the joy of demolition with a saws all wasn't even there.  It just wasn't any fun at all.

I wonder if I have any pics left of when I was biking 30 km daily and body building.  Probably not, I pretty much ditched all traces of that prick years ago. ::)  Could have used him yesterday though.  Any dudes here like saving a damsel in distress?

Julie

Oh Julie,
        I so understand this! I was once a general contractor/home builder and now even the smallest project is uncomfortable and leaves me with muscle and joint pains for days. I'd rather pay someone else than go through all that! Some is age related of course, but much of it is due to lack of the former strength and muscle mass.
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Shantel

Quote from: JulieBlair on October 10, 2014, 08:38:38 AM
On the folks who've moved on note, if Ativan has really left for good I will cry.  Wisdom and intelligence in the same package.   ???  Somebody please tell him to come back.  God I miss Nero, makes me cry whenever I think of him.   :'(  When he died I was jealous.  Sort of still am.

Julie

Get your Kleenex dear, they said they are gone for good and moving on. Ativan has their foot in the door with the WPATH committee  and is providing NB information for inclusion in their upcoming SOC revision.
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JulieBlair

Susan's is a way station not the final destination, which is life.  May Ativan be blessed with joy.  They will change the world as they forever changed me. 

Just promise that you'll stick around Shan, at least until we get around to getting together for coffee.  :-*

Julie
I am my own best friend and my own worst enemy.  :D
Full Time 18 June 2014
Esprit can be found at http://espritconf.com/
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