I am thinking about when I came out to my sister a couple of years ago, and she told me that even if I get the surgeries, they wouldn't make me happy.
My initial thought back then were something alone the lines of "How dare you tell me what will make me happy and what will not make me happy?"
I still hold thought to be true, but looking at her statement now, she is absolutely right. The surgeries *alone* won't make me happy, and it would be silly of me to think otherwise. Is a cisgendered person automatically happy by virtue of being cis? Usually not. Cis people still have LIFE to navigate through, and they get sad and depressed just like some of us do. Surgeries alone will not make me happy. It is the life that I forge for myself as the person I truly know myself to be that will be a huge determining factor. I am will be "re-coming" out to my sister this year, and I will be coming out to my family as well. I have a feeling that this "surgeries won't make you happy" statement will come up again.....and this will be my response.
I dread the day(s) when I will have to come out, but I know who I am, and I know what I need to do.
On a side note, I agree with myself in 2012: if you haven't walked in my shoes, then you have no right to tell me what will or what will not make my happy....