I'm kinda not feelin' the whole "I'm trans and you're trans and my friend knows I'm trans so I'm going to tell them you're trans because they're cool with it anyway" thing my trans friends continue to do, even though they're fully aware that I'm stealth on campus, stealth everywhere else in my life that isn't home or in some queer/LGBT* spaces.
I went over to my friend's apartment a little while ago and he introduced me to his roommate, who later made a comment about my facial hair and she noted how jealous my friend is of my progress for only being on hormones for seven months. I initially shrugged it off, but it's really not her business, nor anyone else's, to know about my medical transitioning and especially how long I've been on hormones for. I literally try as hard as I can to keep that information to myself, and I'm extremely guarded about my history--I'll only tell about it if I feel it's necessary, like with a psychologist or a medical professional or another trans person who's deeply curious. And it kind of worries me, considering the number of trans folks I know, who might go around and talk before they actually think and as soon as the moment hits, the cat's out of the bag.
Errgh. I need to emphasize that, no matter how accepting your friend might be of you being trans, and that you feel it's fine to tell them about *my* history, too, I didn't give you the consent to mention that and I really don't appreciate it. Who knows who might tell who and how much it might spread by word of mouth... I really don't need that, considering that's what I'm trying to avoid in the first place.
