(Trigger warning: abusive and unsupportive parents/grandparents)
Has anyone else ever gone through something like this?
Due to financial difficulties brought on partly by our mental illnesses, partly by the economy, and partly by the fact that I just graduated from university (and now I get to start paying back loans), my partner and I have had to separate from living together for over five years, and move back in with our families.
As of Thursday, he is now a 16-hour each way, $2500 round-trip flight away from me, and neither of us has the means to visit one another, or even talk on the phone (we do have skype though, hopefully that will serve us well).
Meanwhile, I'm left to pack all of our possessions and get them to my abusive, non-accepting grandmother's house. But she won't let me use her garage for storage, so I can only take what fits in my bedroom (to HER standard of cleanliness -- no clutter or boxes allowed). And if she finds anything of his, she will probably throw it away.
I invited 40 friends to my house and told them I would give them anything I own for free if they would just spend time with me while I pack, but nobody has come (except my mother, bless her heart). I am having such a hard time right now.
Meanwhile I have to figure out how to dispose of my furniture (can't afford a moving truck, Salvation Army pickup is backed up 2 weeks, if I leave it by the dumpster I could get a huge fine from my landlord).
Sorry if this post is depressing, I really needed to vent about this. I haven't felt safe sharing my feelings with anyone because it feels like they don't care, or in some cases I feel like I would burden them.
I'd also love to hear how others have coped with difficult family situations, splitting from a partner (break-up or just physical space), or feeling unsupported by friends.
Any advice or positive feelings welcome.
