Rich, But Wrong Gender OR Poor, But Right Gender?

[KarlMars]

I'd prefer to be at least lower middle class and male. When I get my dream job most of my extra money will go toward Hormones, GRS, and maybe some plastic surgery.

[LatrellHK]

I'm already poor and finally being myself, so I'd stay this way. Yeah, being rich would incredibly help with my debt and financial struggles. But being rich, and in the wrong body, reminds me of a 14 year old me and if we can just NOT go back down there, that'll be great....

[WarGrowlmon1990]

I can't decide. For option A, I'd actually be able to help the transgender community. But then I'd never be able to come out as trans and transition socially, so it's pretty counterproductive. Option B is great for erasing the suffering and dysphoria, but then I'd never be able to help the community on a wide-scale level, nor would I be able to achieve my goals and reach my fullest potential...

[RobynD]

Money would not cover the depression, anxiety etc. Poverty in the right body sounds 10x as better.

[jmyle]

I'm very conflicted about this if I have to be honest. As someone who has had some experience with financial troubles in the family before, I have a little idea (though not to that extent) of how bad it can get with a lack of money and resources. It definitely won't be the easiest life even if I were living as the correct gender; furthermore, if I were simply born a cis male, I'd probably be too worried and struggling in poverty to have too much energy to appreciate that I was born cis and comfortable in my body, and my gender. If I were allowed to transition, but that put me in severe poverty, permanently living on the streets...I'd be more tempted, but I'd still be a little conflicted.

I also want to live a life doing the things I love/am passionate about, as much as I want to do them as the gender I am rather than the gender I was assigned. If I were that deeply in poverty, my entire life may just be a struggle to survival, and I may never have a chance to explore my love for music or writing, and be able to share that with the world, something that makes me really happy and helps give some meaning in my life. If I were deeply in poverty but still able to do some of that and share some of that with the world, I'd be more content with choosing option B. Furthermore, an important part of my life is also wanting to make a difference and connect with/help others, and that would be understandably more difficult to do if I were that deeply in poverty. I may be the correct gender, but I would be barred from many, many opportunities.

Then comes the fact that having money and living rich gives you avenue to really access and help a lot of people. Even if I had to live my life with the torture of being the wrong gender (I'm assuming never being able to come out?), I would at least be able to still be involved in trans things and help trans organisations. I would try and make up for the unhappiness of never being able to live as the correct gender (something which I could never fully "make up" for, but still) with helping out other trans people, and in pursuing doing what I love, possibly even being successful in it.

I'm glad in reality I probably won't ever have to make this choice, because it's a tough, tough one. I'm actually slightly more tempted to choose B, now that I think about it, but it won't be a super happy life as B either.

I was going to pick rich because then I'd just transition, and buy myself a mansion, and start a granting organization to help trans people with transition, education, and getting ahead in life... but then you made that not allowed =/

I think I'd still rather pick rich. Because if I didn't have gender issues, I probably would be ignorant and maybe even intolerant of those issues. And I'd rather be sympathetic and hiding than be ignorant and unkind. I could still help other transfolk, financially speaking, even if I felt that I myself was trapped and transition wasn't an option. If I ever get rich I've already promised myself I'd have a secret room in my home that no one would ever know about (hidden behind either a bookshelf or a fireplace - maybe one of each). So I'd have enough money for that, and I'd fill it with all my secrets, and spend time in there being myself.

It's a rough life when you can't do all the things you want to do. I feel like the best way to make that meaningful is to help others.

So that's what I'd like to do.

This answer really summed up a lot of my thoughts towards this

[Geeker]

I chose other, simply because it was an option.  Honestly though my answer would be A, because money allows you to be eccentric (I'd be the rich dude with the boobs) and gives you the ability to help those less fortunate than yourself. Sure I'd be stuck as I am now, but at least I'd be wealthy.

[Sebby Michelango]

This is a hard decision and it's difficult to pick. Both have a very brutal disadvantages with it, but also with a few advantages. But I thinks the rich one sounds more logical to pick.

If I choice A, I would get my basic needs to survive covered like hunger, thirst, sleep etc. without problems and I would also get many opportunities which I wouldn't have as poor. I would have the opportunities to support charity organizations, traveling around the world and if I also were famous, I could change the world with speeches. If I have a lot of moneys, I can also afford things I needs in order to make arts. I can afford stuffs to draw, take photography etc. If I pick A, I can't medical or social transition, but the thread didn't say anything about clothes style. I could still wear masculine clothes and have a masculine hairstyle. Style can ease a bit at the dysphoria, but aren't so effective as medical transition. Many celebrities and rich people are known for undergoing cosmetic surgeries. If a celebrity can undergo a cosmetic surgery to get bigger boobs (breast implants), they can also get breast reduction surgery. It doesn't need to be counted as medical transition, because it exist cis people who underwent such thing either for cosmetic purposes or due back problems. A trans woman who picked A could also get FFS for cosmetic purposes, if she wanted to. It exist people from both genders who underwent a facial surgery to look like female celebrities like Kim K. My point is it doesn't have to be trans related. You can also live as yourself in secret at home. It's just you can't medical or social transition, and nor can you tell the world public about your true gender. What you do when you're home alone is not any body else's business. You can still chat with people at anonymous forums about trans stuffs.

If I picked B, I would struggle with daily things due poverty. Hunger, place to sleep etc. would be a problem. Living as a homeless person doesn't sound fun at all. If I was a cis person, I would probably not know anything about being trans. I thinks it would be hard to be grateful for being cisgender if you both doesn't know how being transgender is and you face problems which distract you to enjoy the cisgender thing. Covering the basic needs would be a daily struggle. So I thinks it wouldn't be a funny life.

So if I had to pick, I think it would be A.
 

[totalmessbelow]

Definitely the right gender. Honestly life has little meaning to me if I'm not myself.