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Not ready to come out yet (genderfluid)?

Started by UltimoKazuma, August 19, 2014, 11:05:15 PM

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UltimoKazuma

I was FDAB and genderfluid.  According to my sister, my mom suspects that I'm gay since I cut my hair short, but that is not the case, being genderfluid.  Apparently she would would rather me come out than not so she knows for sure (and I guess she worries that I might get bullied for my hair, though I don't expect that).  I don't feel ready to come out as genderfluid right now, mostly since I don't think I will be able to explain it well enough to my parents so they understand and accept me. 

Does anyone have any advice?  Are there any good resources out there that I can direct them to that are specific to genderfluid people?  How have others come out?  Or do you think I could say that I'm just queer (which is true) and try to end the conversation there, not mentioning my own gender?  Also, right now, I am completely dependent on my parents, so I don't want to just recklessly come out, especially since I don't know their stance on transgender people...
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2fish

I don't know how your parents are but this was my situation:

My step parent wanted me to come out to them and I did. They had a gut feeling that I was into girls (true). Next thing you know, they went ape sh*t on me. So basically, step parent convinced me to come out to them and then they became angry at me. Totally uncool of them if you ask me. I was also a teen at the time.

This time, I know better. They think something is up and are acting like they already know what's coming but in reality they don't know for sure. And this time I'm keeping my mouth shut. I don't have to come out to them if I know they are going to go crazy. I'm FTM btw.

I do live with them although I am financially independent and over the legal age.   
http://www.gender158.com (A Trans-Masculine Resource Website)
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Jess42

Quote from: UltimoKazuma on August 19, 2014, 11:05:15 PM
I was FDAB and genderfluid.  According to my sister, my mom suspects that I'm gay since I cut my hair short, but that is not the case, being genderfluid.  Apparently she would would rather me come out than not so she knows for sure (and I guess she worries that I might get bullied for my hair, though I don't expect that).  I don't feel ready to come out as genderfluid right now, mostly since I don't think I will be able to explain it well enough to my parents so they understand and accept me. 

Does anyone have any advice?  Are there any good resources out there that I can direct them to that are specific to genderfluid people?  How have others come out?  Or do you think I could say that I'm just queer (which is true) and try to end the conversation there, not mentioning my own gender?  Also, right now, I am completely dependent on my parents, so I don't want to just recklessly come out, especially since I don't know their stance on transgender people...

Yeah, come out when you are ready to come out. You could do like me and leave the closet door open and turn the light on and let people see or assume or think whatever they want to think.

If you come out before you are emotionally and psychologically ready then that will probably cause you more problems than not. Just let people think what they want to think. I take it your birth gender is female? I see a lot of females with short hair. Mine is probably longer than most females have now days wit the bobs and pixies and so on.
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