Do I even need to come out?

[WannaBeRealGirl]

Well I don't think it is necessary I could just get bottom surgery and then use stp devices and packing there and I think I could pass as a man or woman if I just get hormones for a while. I would rather just switch bodies with someone because then I would be fertile as a woman.

[EmmaMcAllister]

Do you need to come out? If you want to cut off all ties and live stealth? No. If you want to live part time? No.

Does the trans community benefit from you coming out? Yes. The more people that know and/or love a trans person, the better things will be for all of us.

[AmyL]

In order to obtain recommendation for grs you kinda need to have a support system in place. Even under an informed consent model, I doubt that any surgeon would perform grs.

In my mind you absolutely need to come out. The prices for me has been actually very helpful for my own emotional state as well as the relationships with my family/friends have actually improved.

[Jessica Merriman]

In order to obtain recommendation for grs you kinda need to have a support system in place. Even under an informed consent model, I doubt that any surgeon would perform grs.

I agree! 

[Emerson]

I agree! 

Regardless, this seems true. You can, however, make "coming out" what it means to you. If you want to be super ambiguous as a way to ease transition, or avoid telling people "hey, I'm Trans" you could probably swing it.

It sounds like maybe you are afraid of what people might think of you. As hard as it is, you HAVE to be ok with you for others to be ok with you (Trans or not).

For me, therapy was essential for me to go from hating myself to caring enough about myself to demand others respect me. For me, that was what "coming out" was about.

Love,
Emerson

[Mark3]

It sounds like maybe you are afraid of what people might think of you. As hard as it is, you HAVE to be ok with you for others to be ok with you (Trans or not).

So true... 

[lemon_ice]

I would say give the transition process and hormones a chance to do their thing.. I'm not sure if this is true for anyone else, but in my case I'm a real pleaser type of personality and super concerned what people think, but after three months on hormones I've just found so much self acceptance; it was really gradual and just crept up on me, now I'm out to everyone and fulltime.. even in my rather blokey work environment- and I'm smiling ALL the time I just know what and who I am, and I am just no longer interested in hiding it; as alluded too above, I see it as almost my job to a proud, happy and successful trans woman.
My plan was to come out next year and just gradually transition under the radar, well things have gone so much faster than I ever imagined in so many ways, so that plan went up in smoke lol, and I'm so glad it did. It really has been an almost totally positive experience.. there have been some really crappy low days, but lots of happiness, serenity and smiles too. Don't underestimate how amazing it feels to finally not be hiding you.