i don't know what to think.

[KageNiko]

Three weeks ago I stayed over at my brother's house. We talked about our troubled childhoods, and bonded really well. By the end of the night I told him about why my wife and I had been fighting so much lately. When I came back from my deployment, that I told her about my concerns about who I am, and that I am gender confused. I told her everything I knew about me at the time that I met her. I never said anything about this, because I didn't know. I was a girly 19 year old boy who was attracted to both genders.
But lately, I've been more confused than ever. I've been more depressed over my male appearance, I even have to fight back tears sometimes when I look at myself in the mirror, unless I'm distracted with something like brushing my teeth or shaving.
So I told my brother that i was confused. He seemed understanding at the time. But that was three weeks ago.  Not that we usually talk very often.  I wasn't really worried until today.
I live about an hour and a half away, so I don't visit often.  Today I found out my wig had plans to take the kids to the zoo by her parents house, and then after we would go swimming. This is all near where my brother's family lives.
I contacted him on FaceBook, and told him I would be in the area.  He asked if I wanted to meet "at the park" but I messaged that I wanted to come over to play video games with him.  But he didn't say anything back.  So when we were getting close I called twice and got no response.  Then when we got there I asked my wife to wait for me while I went and rang the doorbell. I rang three times with no response, and then we left. While driving down the street I called again and he picked up. He said that they didn't really want company.  I didn't know what to say so I paused, and then he said they were sick and didn't want to spread it, which is more understandable, but why didn't he say that from the beginning?
I dunno, I'm a little upset because I suspect the worst.  Like, he thinks I'm some weirdo and wants to keep me away from his family... Or he told his wife, and she wants that.

I dunno.

[ssneha23]

I think he just needs a little time processing the info. Give him time, I am sure he will come around.

Until then cheer up girl and just be yourself..

[LivingTheDream]

Well, it sounds a little fishy to me too, wants to go to the park but later says he is sick when you come by?

Like you, I tend to suspect the worst too, but it is still early, like it's only been one incident so far. Try not to get TOO worried/stressed out or over think things just yet. Maybe he was just sick, maybe the house was a mess, maybe they had something going on you know, who knows?

[Taka]

it might be the wife, since he actually did suggest to meet you at the park. not answering the phone might mean he felt too guilty to even think of an excuse. don't give up on your brother yet, next time ask if you can meet him away from his home, at a time when he doesn't have to tell the wife he's meeting you.

[Ms Grace]

I'd call him back and just ask him to be honest with you. The truth may be as bad as you expect but it's better than not knowing.

[Mark3]

I'd call him back and just ask him to be honest with you. The truth may be as bad as you expect but it's better than not knowing.

Dito...
If he had an innocent reason to avoid you, you won't have to waste time worrying about it any longer, all is fine..
If he's avoiding contact, at least you can deal with it without wondering, and either back off and give him time, or move on if you choose..
Mind games are never a good thing...

[KageNiko]

Thank you all to your thoughts. I haven't called back yet, I will wait until the weekend.  You are right though. I should just call and know for sure rather than allowing myself to stress over the what ifs.

Thank you much.