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Well, that was interesting

Started by Asniceasme, September 11, 2014, 07:51:05 AM

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Asniceasme

As the title says, well, that was interesting. My wife and I climb into bed...don't worry, this is a perfectly clean story. Anyway, we are doing our general chatting that we always do, and the topic of conversation turns to a dream that my wife recently had. In the dream, she mentioned about me growing my fingernails, taking a drug to reverse hair loss, laser hair removal, various youtubevideos and/or gay nightclubs across the road from work etc...so in the dream, I said to her that a lot of cute guys have been coming in, and that I am now gay.

We then discussed the dream, and She then said that she would still love me, still care for me...but doesn't know about divorce. She then said that she knew I wouldn't be gay. Then she mentioned about having a sex change. I went on the defensive, asking her what she meant by that, and she said getting the penis chopped off and growing breasts through hormones. She said that I would never do anything like that, and I said I don't know.she wanted me to clarify, and said that I honestly don't know. I then started explaining to her about how the typical process is for a mtf, using my own personal experiences as a guideline to what goes through the mind. I started explaining fr age three, how things are often hidden from fear of embarrassment, and not understanding what the person is going through, also using modern day Internet as a way for people of the same age today being able to get more info and a better understanding of what is happening to them.

I get through to after high school (ie college, university, work etc), how they could meet someone of the same sex, have a lasting meaningful relationship etc...throughout the conversation using myself as an example. Then, I stop to ask her a question, and I have put her to sleep. There I am, perfect opportunity to come out, and she is asleep. Not once did she seem disgusted at the the thought of it. Not once did I deny anything. When she wakes up tomorrow morning, tomorrow being our five year wedding anniversary, I will already be at work, so we won't be in a position to discuss any of this until tomorrow night.

Once I am out to my wife, it will be plain sailing. I was close...so close
When we look into a mirror, we see who we really are. But when we look into our minds, we see whoever we think we are.
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Auroramarianna

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Oh... I honestly hope everything goes alright for you. It kind of sounds like she has always had a clue, and is worried about your wellbeing since her dream reflected this subconscious worry. Be sure you are ready for whatever outcome when you come out. She will be in great pain thinking you hid this from her or didn't trust her enough. She could want to end your marriage. Or it could all work out. Whatever the outcome, be ready. It may hurt.  Expect the worst but always always keep hope. It is never too late to see the light at the end of tunnel. Is your wife rigidly straight?  Is she flexible? That will play a huge role. Whatever happens, I wish you all the best. IDK what else to say because I have never been married but I just wanted to send you this wave of strength for you to go along your path.

Best of luck,
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Asniceasme

I have actually been prepared for the worst for some time now. Have a support network in place of friends and family who I could live with if I had to leave home, and I think I am prepared emotionally as well.
When we look into a mirror, we see who we really are. But when we look into our minds, we see whoever we think we are.
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Asniceasme

And now for an update

My wife now knows. She knows I want to be female. She knows I have done the research. She knows roughly what to expect. She knows I have been seeing a psychologist about these issues specifically. And she is fine with it. She loves me, still wants to be with me, doesn't want to leave me...of course that is now, once changes start happening she may change her mind, but at least it is promising right now for me, and for us.
When we look into a mirror, we see who we really are. But when we look into our minds, we see whoever we think we are.
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LizMarie

The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away.



~ Cara Elizabeth
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Deinewelt

That is so cool!  I kind of avoided having to go through that because I was up front with my wife when we first met, but I can imagine that would be the hardest thing ever.  In my shoes, the biggest difficulty will just be my family. 
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