Standing up for yourself

[Satinjoy]

This is not something I know how to do.  I am being forced to learn it now.

It takes every ounce of emotion I have to allow Satinjoy, even cloaked in male clothing, to be out and authentic.

It is driving the a-hole across the hall from me crazy.  I see the hate and anger building as he reads the non-male, and cannot control me.

And I feel.... too many things right now......

So I posted.   How do you deal with this.

I feel like a raw nerve, a peeled onion.  Emotional roller coaster, I'm sure it is natural, I hid her for 55 years from these guys, or learned how to.

Satinjoy

Nails out anyway, boobs not well cloaked for once, and trying like heck to do what I could not as a child.   Be me.

[Satinjoy]

I think that when we emerge, our suppressed component is about as emotionally old as the amount of time we let them out.

Or, that could be really dumb and totally wrong.  Fun thought though.

Anyway, coped with the dummy across the hall, had some advice, and the guy is just an idiot who I give no validation to at all.  He is going to have to get used to it.  Nails out and all.

So, I guess I can just be me.

Love to all here and I am out now for the weekend, see you on Monday.

Satinjoy

[Jessica Merriman]

I want to say something, but I value you too much. 

Have a good weekend Sis.

[Satinjoy]

May your days be filled with Joy Lady Jessica.

I suspect I know what you would say, and I thank you for your restraint....

Good for you my dear, you understand me.....the triggers....we both know where they lead.

Have a blessed weekend, candles and incense and flowers and silk.... live the dream dear, I live mine and I love it.  And I support yours.....

Be blessed, be loved, be free.  I hear your heart in your post and it is beautiful.

--Satinjoy.

[Jessica Merriman]

I suspect I know what you would say, and I thank you for your restraint....

This kind of proves beyond a shadow of a doubt we are true sisters, Huh? *giggles* 

[Satinjoy]

Yes my dear.   Got any mushrooms?

[Jessica Merriman]

Got any mushrooms?

Laura and Portia borrowed them. Last I saw they were headed off with a huge grin on their face. I am not getting them back, am I? 

[Shantel]

My only response to the title is that if we don't stand up for ourselves then we will always invariably be perceived by others as weak sisters that can be bullied and emotionally bruised and beaten. The best defense is a good offense meaning that a smiling, perky, outgoing demeanor always projects an air of self confidence which offsets any ideas by onlookers that there is a chink in one's armor that can be used advantageously by those wanting to walk on our emotional being and tear down our self esteem.

If a person is unable to do that with confidence, then they should fake it using all the acting skills they can muster until eventually it will become second nature and then the self esteem will begin to shine forth.

All that being said with my usual bravado, I want to relate to a time when a retreat was a smarter move. I was driving through Montana and noticed that my gas gauge was approaching "E" so I pulled into an out of the way western style tavern that had a lone gas pump. A sign on the pump said, "Pump it yourself and pay at the bar." There was a big set of longhorns displayed over the tavern entry and several signs featuring "Rocky Mountain Oysters by the plate for Real He-Men," the only thing missing was Miss Kitty and Festus who as it turned out were inside. I walked inside to pay the gas tab and several really crusty, hard bitten men and women turned and stared at me and then I noticed a leer on one man's face. Normally a beer would have been refreshing at that time, but I left quickly as I clearly didn't fit in this circle of cowboys and forest workers.

[Mark3]

My only response to the title is that if we don't stand up for ourselves then we will always invariably be perceived by others as weak sisters that can be bullied and emotionally bruised and beaten. The best defense is a good offense meaning that a smiling, perky, outgoing demeanor always projects an air of self confidence which offsets any ideas by onlookers that there is a chink in one's armor that can be used advantageously by those wanting to walk on our emotional being and tear down our self esteem.

If a person is unable to do that with confidence, then they should fake it using all the acting skills they can muster until eventually it will become second nature and then the self esteem will begin to shine forth.

All that being said with my usual bravado, I want to relate to a time when a retreat was a smarter move. I was driving through Montana and noticed that my gas gauge was approaching "E" so I pulled into an out of the way western style tavern that had a lone gas pump. A sign on the pump said, "Pump it yourself and pay at the bar." There was a big set of longhorns displayed over the tavern entry and several signs featuring "Rocky Mountain Oysters by the plate for Real He-Men," the only thing missing was Miss Kitty and Festus who as it turned out were inside. I walked inside to pay the gas tab and several really crusty, hard bitten men and women turned and stared at me and then I noticed a leer on one man's face. Normally a beer would have been refreshing at that time, but I left quickly as I clearly didn't fit in this circle of cowboys and forest workers.

Ive been to one or two of those places too during our traveling days.. They make you feel very small, very fast...

I like the first part Shan, it's really true.. And the old saying that goes along with that is also true, that you attract people like you act.. If you put on a smile and hold your head up, even if you don't feel like that, you attract upbeat happy people, but if you look miserable and unhappy, you often attract undesirables who may want to take advantage of you...

I tend to be too brash sometimes standing up for myself, and also for my friends, I think I must have some "junk yard dog" DNA in me somehow...?