When I transitioned (1998), I was very often fearful of being made. My best friend tried to reassure me that I was pretty but I wondered if she said that out of her love for me. One time, I dated a lesbian woman who I'd conversed with for about a month online. I didn't divulge I was a transsexual. I thought our first meet went well because we shared the same sense of humor. At the end, as we were parting, I joked how funny these blind dates can be. She said, as she walked away, "Yes, one time I ended up going to a restaurant and the person I met turned out to be a transsexual. I was stunned. She left and I never heard from her again.
Other times, I'd get very upset when it seemed like someone in a restaurant or public place would stare at me. I instantly got paranoid and upset. My friend said that people look around...doesn't mean they're looking at you. Another TS friend says she experiences the same paranoia. I talked it over with a very good TS psych in W. Los Angeles and she said that I need to pretend like I'm in the military and learn to CONTROL my emotions. Though I never was in the military, oddly enough, that advice has helped me.
Teri