You raised some good questions and points in that thread, including information and opinions from your personal and professional experience that could have added to the discussion. Unfortunately, the way someone else worded things hurt you (right from the get-go), and your first response was somewhat defensive, and then someone else was hurt by that... and when so much hurt gets tossed around, arguments always start. I understand that you mentioned you were triggered by the term privilege because of your experience of it being used as an insult. I applaud you for having the courage to step into a discussion on something that triggers you, and defend yourself. Even though my own thoughts and feelings on privilege generally and binary privilege specifically may differ from yours, I respect your opinion and the facts from your own experience that back up that opinion.
Always remember that if a discussion is making you feel uncomfortable or attacked, it is okay to defend yourself -- and it is also okay to step outside of that thread for some fresh air and self-care. It's okay to avoid reading a thread if you think it will be triggering (though I understand that intelligent people are often curious and can't help reading anything that is interesting).
Nobody wants to feel like they're having an argument or a fight instead of a discussion. And I believe nobody intended to start a fight, but it seems like one way or another, enough nerves were touched that a lot of us were drawn into one.
There are a lot of very different people here with a lot of different thoughts, feelings, lifestyles, opinions, political views, etc. and things can get heated, but in the end, this is a community of support. I think as long as everyone remembers that we are here to be kind to one another, we'll always bounce back from any argument.
...so that's my 2 cents. <3 ya, Jessica. I'm gonna go post something in that thread now, that you may or may not disagree with and may or may not read, but it doesn't mean I don't like & respect you.
