My mom found out...

[Abby Claire]

I'm so happy right now, but I feel like I'm going to burst into tears any moment. I'm so filled with emotions right now.

For those who don't know, I actually told my parents two years ago but we sort of dropped it and never talked about it again. Well, my mom's intuition hit this week and tonight she came to me as I was going to my room to ask if anything was bothering me. I tried to play it off like I was fine. She kept bugging me and eventually brought up what I told her two years ago about being transgender. So I told her everything. I told her about the therapy, I told her about the support groups, and I told her I'm planning on starting HRT soon... And she was supportive.

She just wants me to be happy. She said she would never kick me out of her house. She told me she loves me no matter what. I'm so filled with joy, but I feel like I'm about to break down crying. The one person I wanted on my team supports me... S*** I'm crying now. Lol

Anyway, I thought I'd share. This is probably the biggest breakthrough so far for me. I'm not on hormones yet and I still have so much more to go through, but it's good to know that not every trans story is filled with turmoil and despair.

Gaaahhhh Did I mention I'm really happy? Too bad I'm going to be crying all weekend now. Haha

[Jo-is-amazing]

I'm so happy for you!!
Its so nice to have someone so close to you be accepting
its so exciting!
hugs

[MajorTom]

That's so awesome, I had a similar experience about a week ago. It's wonderful when things work out. Good luck 

[Jessica Merriman]

Congrats Abby! Just be prepared for the off chance when changes start to occur in your body that it might hit her as real then. Hearing it is one thing, but actually seeing it is another. Just realize this will be a long journey where anything is possible. For tonight though, celebrate and revel in the acceptance!!! 

[Bombadil]

That's got to be a huge relief! What a great first step

[Ms Grace]

Great news, it's always wonderful to have a supportive family member.

[antonia]

Awesome, cherish the moment and feeling, frame it in your mind and make it your happy place

[Ty]

That is awesome. Now everything can only get better. Good luck with hormones.

[Alice Rogers]

That's wonderful hun.

xx

[Abby Claire]

Just a small update... I thought things were cool, but probably not. I think my mom is bugging my dad to have a "talk" with me (basically, do everything to convince me I'm just confused). She looks like she hasn't slept and cried all day. sigh... Life's a pain.

[Alice Rogers]

Not so wonderful

People of the older generation tend to put a lot of weight on the opinions of those in a perceived position of authority, for example, my dad had trouble believing me until I told him that several doctors and psychiatrists had confirmed the diagnosis and were recommending my transition as the correct course of treatment.

xx

[Ty]

Just a small update... I thought things were cool, but probably not. I think my mom is bugging my dad to have a "talk" with me (basically, do everything to convince me I'm just confused). She looks like she hasn't slept and cried all day. sigh... Life's a pain.

Oh no. That is horrible. That is what happened to me when I came out. And then my parents then forgot about it and pretended it never happened. I hate when they act like you are hurting them and that is the worst thing in the world. you'll be able to get through this. Hopefully it will get better.

[Abby Claire]

I told my mom she can come with me to my therapist. Unfortunately, I don't know if she's totally on board. There isn't anything they can say or do that will stop me from being happy though. She said she won't kick me out, but I'm wondering if I have to leave to make sure I won't live with constant tension.

[Alice Rogers]

The way I read your OP you didn't talk about it for 2 years? Maybe your parents just need time to get used to the idea again, they may have convinced themselves it was just a phase if you went quiet about it?

[Abby Claire]

The way I read your OP you didn't talk about it for 2 years? Maybe your parents just need time to get used to the idea again, they may have convinced themselves it was just a phase if you went quiet about it?

My dad did, but my mom didn't. She was the one that brought it up last night.

[Alice Rogers]

I took my mum out for the day dressed completely en-femme, we went for coffee, ate out and talked like a mother and daughter should. It reconnected me with my mum to a degree I hadn't felt since I was a child.

Show her that son or daughter doesn't matter, parent and child is what matters.

[Abby Claire]

I took my mum out for the day dressed completely en-femme, we went for coffee, ate out and talked like a mother and daughter should. It reconnected me with my mum to a degree I hadn't felt since I was a child.

Show her that son or daughter doesn't matter, parent and child is what matters.

I don't think that's happening, and even so, I doubt my mom would go out in public with me like that. It's great how the mood can swing from enthusiasm to utter despair. I'm not going to, but this is seriously the kind of stuff that makes me want to kill myself. Oh what a life it is to be trans.

[Alice Rogers]

Is moving out an option for you hun?

[Abby Claire]

Is moving out an option for you hun?

I'd have to sell a lot of unneeded stuff, get some dirt cheap place to live, and then stop my transition. And honestly, I'd rather die than stop.

[Alice Rogers]

Living with tension is better than not living at all, just keep your eyes on the goal hun, your parents will come around or they won't, your transition can and will happen if you pursue it, and that will make you happier I hope!

Sorry I can't be more help.

xx