Hey there, I'm Tom and new here! I feel foolish being on here but I've been stalking for a while so I felt I should actually start interacting.
I'm a late bloomer and I feel really insecure about that... I'm in my mid-20s. Eeep! I started questioning my sexuality a couple years ago, when a big crush "happened". I identify as bi/gay/queer/whateverosexual, I'm not one to reject all labels but in this case nothing really seems to fit. And one day I decided to buy a binder for fun... and now I just love wearing it all the time. This chest!! So flat...
I don't have dysphoria the way others describe it: I'm not a fan of my upper half but my lower half is aiit, and it's not like I hate it or feel detached from it but I don't love it and have a lot of self consciousness and general discomfort when I don't bind. I do have social dysphoria, but I'm not particularly "manly"/macho so I don't fit in with butch lesbians or male-dominated spaces. For one I like knitting; I enjoy fashion; and I'm reeeally short. But stereotypes are stupid. So even though I'm not 100% male I want to try figuring out if any amount of transitioning is for me.
I haven't found many stories of coming out later in life slash not being a straight transguy; and though being a straight woman didn't feel right, gay woman doesn't either, lesbian even worse... so I'm starting to see myself as an androgyne/queer guy and it seems to fit. So anyways I'm here to try to connect with other guys, and to see if we can all help each other out!
Maybe there's some path out of the confusion. To me, life's chaos is what makes it beautiful.
