Oh, you and me both!
My wife and I are both talll, size 13, and it's so true that most of what you find there is "fetish" or "drag queen" stuff with 6 inch stilettos, platforms and faux patent leather stuff that goes over the knees.
Have you tried Ros Hommerson, Payless and Zappo's?
I know, cute boots season is upon us and I only have one pair.