Ended up going to the ER yesterday which was probably just in time too since no gyn I could contact as a referral from my psychologist would see me till next week (one even wanted a $100 consultation fee up front beforehand!). For the past few days I was slowly feeling more nauseated,dizzy, whole body feeling hot but no fever, worsening headaches to the point of migranes, lack of appetite, etc. From what I find out the infection was beginning to go septic based on the symptoms. Got to the point I had to barely drive myself there to get this taken care of.
Prior to the ER visit a day prior I realized the stitch was one of the two on the sides of the clitoris clamped down with a tiny loop. Stitch with the stiffness of fishing line (resorbable monofilament stitch) that was on the outside for over a month. The other one that matched (this one still butterfly tied unlike the problematic one) was attached by a thin layer of skin necrosis and was a perfect example of what the other stitch was exactly like.
However, the ER wasn't helpful at all at the hospital locally I went to. I described an abscess with excessive puss and excessive pain from the stitch stating I needed the stitch excised. They looked and saw how much drainage there was from that area and sent me to Triage. Needless to say, they took a blood test and a culture swab of the area.. and an hour later told me I'm going home with strong antibiotics only (Keflex and Bactrim for 10 days nonstop) and they weren't going to do anything about the stitch. This left me puzzled as the stitch is the source of this trouble and incredible pain and was told that 'they didn't want to touch it due to not knowing what the past surgeon was using it for'. This all despite my explaining what it was, why it's like this, and what it was/wasn't attached to or for. Was also told that 'the stitch will have to stay as it is until it dissolves... sorry' which would take over a year. I haven't dilated in 2-3 days because of the infection, symptoms, and pain... I didn't want to go a year until that stitch dissolved before I can continue on unless I was on severely strong painkillers and antibiotics 2/47 due to the source being left in there. Might as well tell a person that the rusty nail in their foot must remain till it dissolves but to take 10 days worth of strong antibiotics in the meantime.
All it would have taken to resolve the stitch excision was a 1-2mm cut parallel along the short part of the exposed stitch numbed with lidocane, the knot pulled out, and undone with the rest of the stitch pulled away. All this trouble being caused by a couple centimeters of untied stitch snaking it's way through the labia minora, stabbing everywhere it went and causing the infection in the same exact way an ingrown hair would. I'm guessing they refused to 'treat' me because it would have been considered a possible 'liability'.

So.. my solution ended up being treated by the 'backalley surgeon' (jokingly stated of course). A couple family members helped instead with my guidance and half a low-dose oxycodone pill to take the edge off (the side effects weren't pleasant after it wore off - never again taking that!). We then proceeded with a sterilized needle, flat-blaze razor, and tweezers and was able to make the small cuts needed to expose the stitch and work it out. It was rather crude but it did the trick and did what the hospital could/should have done for me to begin with.
Immense relief was felt afterward.. but I feel like I got kicked in the left side of my crotch due to the soreness due to the small cuts and pulling to expose the stitch knot and the infection starting to go down some now that the source has also been removed. It just feels good to finally sit down and sleep without feeling like I'm being repeatedly stabbed with a knife down there and feeling overall worse by the day. Was rather sickening how much green foul puss was trapped inside where the stitch was. Antibiotics can cure an infection but it won't cure an infected stitch that isn't removed.
The day after (earlier today) is when the symptoms hit me full force. I couldn't even lift my head without feeling dizzy and feeling I needed to vomit from the nausea. Was feeling hot everywhere, aching everywhere, migrane worse than I could ever imagine. Was feeling fine for a short bit wen we all went out to get breakfast only for me to eventually feel faint, go pale, and end up heavily nauseated so had to lay down in the vehicle instead. Ended up laying back down at my brothers house for a bit while they went out and started to feel a bit better. Tylenol, Nyquil, and antibiotics later I'm feeling able to actually get on with my day and feel normal again. Pretty much most of the symptoms have started to wear off... but leaving that stitch in like the hospital suggested wasn't going to make it get better in any form.
Now there is far less discharge from the affected area and far less trouble. I honestly feel like the hospital just wanted to get rid of me without actually fixing anything as if sticking gum in a widening crack of a floodgate. It may work for a very short term but it won't solve the problem.