I'm so relieved. I just came out to the children's mother.

[BreezyB]

I just wanted to share some wonderful news with everyone. Tonight I came out to the children's mother and her response was "Its cool, it doesn't surprise me". She was really supportive and this was just one small step among many. The big thing will be coming out to the children which I'm working on how with my therapist.

But just so happy right now that the children's mother knows. She even said "so you'll be like me, cool" lol, it was beautiful. Sorry everyone, just had to share.

Bree's a very happy girl tonight, not that I wasn't before, I'm just extra happy now

Now back to cooking the children's dinner 

[traci_k]

Awesome Response! So happy for you.

Hugs,

[BreezyB]

Thankyou Traci

mwah

[Mark3]

Such a nice story Bree.
Way to go.!

[BreezyB]

Thankyou hon, was one person I was really worried about telling. We're separated so great she's on side

[katiej]

I bet it was a huge weight off your shoulders.  That's great!

[BreezyB]

I bet it was a huge weight off your shoulders.  That's great!

It certainly was Katie, I thought this could go one of two ways, and so glad it went the way I had hoped. And most importantly I think it will help a lot when discussing with the children, having a 'united front' I mean

[katiej]

I'm in the same position.  My wife knows and seems to be on board, but I haven't talked to the kids yet.  I'm not quite sure how or when that's going to go down, but my kids are young enough and we have a good relationship, so I feel optimistic.

[BreezyB]

I'm in the same position.  My wife knows and seems to be on board, but I haven't talked to the kids yet.  I'm not quite sure how or when that's going to go down, but my kids are young enough and we have a good relationship, so I feel optimistic.

That's great that your wife is supportive Katie, I think that will help a lot when speaking to the kids. My kids are all under 11 with the youngest being 4. I've been working through how to do this with my psychologist. What I do know is my messages will need to be age appropriate. I also found some great kids books that have transgender characters in them. There pretty light on, but just introduce kids to the concept that it's ok if little johnny wants to be like his sister. I also instil into my kids whenever I can that diversity is totally acceptable. My son just yesterday was telling me about a girl at school who was 'ugly'. So I made sure I corrected him and explained to him that we are all different in many different ways. And that we are all beautiful in different ways too. I figure if I can at least make sure they understand the world is a diverse place, they may be more understand of why 'dad' is a girl.

The biggest part of my transition, or one I am focusing a lot of energy on is just this, the children. 

https://www.goodreads.com/list/show/20314.Transgender_Friendly_Young_Children_s_Books_

[katiej]

My kids are ranging from 12 to 3...pretty similar.  And thanks for the link.  I'll be sure to check them out.

It has occurred to me that their experiences will each be very different.  My youngest will likely not even remember me as a man, while my oldest will be very aware of my transition.  So certainly coming out to each will be very different.

[BreezyB]

I totally agree Katie. My youngest daughter may not remember me as a man, but she may. I'll be speaking to them individually, so I can tailor the message appropriately. I also understand it may be a little more difficult for my two boys, as someone put it once, "boys have this penis thing going on" lol. So my biggest concern is my oldest boy who is 11. He's also heading into secondary school so being cool is sooo important. And I'm not imagining it's not real cool in high school to have a father who's a woman. But I'll manage it accordingly