Hands and shoulders

[Summer]

Anyone find themselves focusing on there hands , shoulders and heights? Lol I have been. I'm 6ft3 slim 80 kg 19" shoulders arrrrgh. Silly I know

[Ms Grace]

Well, I'm 6'3", 77 kilos, 18" shoulders...so not a lot of difference. I think I lost size from my shoulders over the last six months or so, so I might have been larger when I was 81 kilos? To be honest I don't worry about it too much, there are cis women out there with shoulders the same width.

[Summer]

Aww thanks ms grace makes me feel better xxoo

[Deinewelt]

Yeah,

The thing is, we as females tend to focus on how we look.  Even cis woman do the same thing!  Even though I know my shoulders are small, I still experience dysphoria about them.  Even though I see woman with larger shoulders every day, I still become fixated on it.  Same with hands.  Sometimes I look at the hands of various woman that I see, and I realize how their hands are not perfect either.  What makes it tough is just seeing somebody with perfect hands.  The important thing is that it doesn't really hurt in passing, it is just a fixation that females can have about themselves.  Most likely every woman has some kind of fixation on a thing no matter how perfect they are.  A good example of this is how some people, despite looking great, will go to amazing lengths with plastic surgery and so forth in order to fix everything.  This definitely does not always turn out well!  It is best to not fixate on things like this IMO.

[♥︎ SarahD ♥︎]

Well, I'm 6'3", 77 kilos, 18" shoulders...so not a lot of difference. I think I lost size from my shoulders over the last six months or so, so I might have been larger when I was 81 kilos? To be honest I don't worry about it too much, there are cis women out there with shoulders the same width.

Ms Grace, thank you so much for this!  I've been worried that my 5'11" height makes me "freakishly tall for a girl", fuelled mainly by the fact that most girls I know are shorter than me and several are even less than *HALF* my height (although to be fair, they are freakishly short bless them lol ).  If I end up looking even half as passable as you do, I'd call my transition a success!

As for hands and shoulders - yeh I obsess over them too lol.  The thing I've noticed is that a) my male peer's hands are typically quite a bit larger than my own, and b) most girl's hands (who are of comparable height at least) aren't much smaller than mine.  I've also noticed that my hands aren't as veiny as most guy's I know, and are about as veiny as the girl's.  I understand HRT reduces veins too, so I guess I'm one of the lucky ones lol   I still obsessively compare them though.  I may be deluding myself but I keep seeing "something manly" about them that I can't put my finger on and I want to know what it is lol!

I also obsess over my chest size, which is somewhat impractical to compare.  I worry that it's too big and heavy and will look silly if I add breasts to it as well does anyone else feel like that or am I just bonkers? lol ♥︎

[TinaVane]

If you have broad shoulders I would not wear straps ... I hate straps but my shoulders are not broad but I can see that I look terrible in them lol. My hands are fishy but that was always the case wit me

[Damara]

I also obsess over my chest size, which is somewhat impractical to compare.  I worry that it's too big and heavy and will look silly if I add breasts to it as well does anyone else feel like that or am I just bonkers? lol ♥︎

I have this same concern! My ribcage is not as "flat" as other people's. Even most cis men I know have a ribcage that is not as protruding as mine.. I am paranoid that once I develop breasts I will just look crazy and top heavy.. as the gods didn't bless me with any bottom development. haha! No hips or booty.