Will I ever find true love ?

[suzifrommd]

I have realized that my transition and my age have put me in a place where I am very unlikely ever to find true love again.

This is sad. I hope that's not true, because you're such a giving person, I'm sure there are many people for whom you'd be the perfect fit.

The way I see it, I've probably decreased the odds. Maybe before 1 in 100 were right for me, now it's dropped to, maybe, 1 in 1,000.

That means there are plenty of people out there who would be right for me, but finding one of them is a difficult challenge.

[Alaena_okc]

i hear you Eva, thats pretty much where im at...

so what happens when i finally got the love bite, i rushed like a mad dog towards her, and almost lost her completely, i still dont have a lover, but im hopeful that one day i will too...

but i still have my friend, i guess that's the most important thing at this moment...

[Allyda]

I just hope that after my SRS I can find the courage to give it one more try. At least I won't have my crippling genital dysphoria preventing me from being intimate with my partner. But is there one woman out there who is not looking to take advantage of me? I'm so so tired of feeling used by someone who is supposed to love me. Is there a woman out there who is real?

We'll see.

Ally

[GendrKweer]

I would say you might have a harder time finding someone, but when you do it will more likely be "true" love or as close as it gets to that. After transitioning, you are finally the person you always were, but on the outside as well, fully, without hiding it from others. I was married to a lovely woman for six years before I transitioned, and I loved her dearly but my relationships these days are far closer for the simple reason that I can be who I truly am, whereas with her I always had to hide one of the largest facets of my inner self. I think you might find something similar. Good luck!

[Allyda]

Thanks, I know I'll surely need it.

I got my friend here from Ga. who is going to help me both pre, and post-op SRS. This was the last thing standing in the way of my scheduling. So next week I'll schedule my consults and I'm finally back on track (the only surgeon that accepts my insurance wouldn't do virtual consults, and they're 4-1/2, to 5 hours away, so I had to wait on my friend to schedule them). I just hope all goes well this time. I can't take many more delays.

Ally