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My Journey: Mel's before & after of GRS on 04-14-2015

Started by veritatemfurto, October 07, 2014, 09:29:25 PM

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veritatemfurto

I'm so happy- My date is set for November 11, 2015! It's hard for me to believe that this is FINALLY happening.

I went for a consultation with Marci two weeks ago, and completely fell in love with the practice, the place, and the scenery. Talking with her really eased my mind on making the final commitment. It was good to find out that even though the bmi thing says i'm *technically* overweight,  My recovery time should be only minimally affected by it (and will be faster if i can get closer to making my ideal weight).

Ever since I started considering going to Cali for my GRS (and subsequently learning that it was my only viable option over Rhumer in PA), I've had this worry of what would happen if there's an earthquake during my surgery but luckily the hospital is build on a spring suspension system, so we'd hardly feel it.

Mills Peninsula Health Center looks like a medium sized hospital from passing by it on the road. but eh.. that's not going to matter once I'm in the Recovery area :)

From what Marci told me of her most recent work, they are now recycling more tissues than anyone else, about 90-95% including some of the erectile tissue for construction of a more anatomically correct internal clitoral area that is more than just in the glans clitoris. I won't have to worry about my potential depth either since the the shaft skin is now being used for most of the vulva and part of the labia, while the scrotal skin is being used for the inner vagina and the rest of the labia.

That pretty much puts her ahead of the competition when it comes to matching natal anatomy. That's a big bonus for me going to her besides her being the only fully certified gynecologist that also does GRS and has been through the process too. with her latest methods, natural lubrication also seems to be occurring more often for her patients too.

The one thing that still worries me the most is the thought of the anesthesia doing something to me or not waking up afterwards since I've had family in serious conditions be put into medically induced coma and never recover, but that may have just been because of their conditions and not because of some incompatibility to the drug.

To be honest, the thought of surgery scares the hell out of me but I still feel its necessary for me to be any better. I went to stay the week at a longtime friend's place, which helped a lot. before we only knew of each other through online interactions. I took a chance with it, which worked out, since we got along really well and can use her for the experience of what i'll go through too.

She did say that everyone goes through a period of regret once post-op whether it be that the surgery was nothing like what was expected with the numbness and pain or the regret of not having it happen sooner, which I do worry about.

Overall, flying across the country to do the consultation really helped a lot toward making this dream come true (even if its a decade late and they lost my paperwork lol) i think I'll be staying in Mountain Home the whole time I'm out of work on medical leave.



BTW, Bowers is now up to a 14 month waiting list...

BUT now there's a catch.

The week after I get back, there's this letter that was mailed to everyone saying that The Company is changing to a local provider of the Cigna HMO plan and that "some doctors and procedures may no longer be covered by the HMO" (which is the only plan that will cover surgical mtf transition costs.)

The way I see it, its an attempt to force get people to change their coverage to paying more out of pocket with a higher deductible so the company can pay less providing the benefits that made it worth working there for less than the average when compared to other theme parks. That worries me that the trend may end up scaling back coverage for trans cast since we do make about 5-10% of the workforce here.

Luckily, my gyno is still going to be in network, but I have to find a new primary physician, and have to reconfirm that Bowers is still going to be accepted like this year's plan does. before this news, I only had to worry about $2500 for the GRS, but now its being raised to 10% of the cost up to a max out of pocket of $3500; and for those that are going the same route, the deductible is going to keep rising...

It's getting harder for cast to go from part time to full time too. so as much as I feel indebted to the company for giving me the opportunity to make my dream come true, I am a bit worried that those that follow in my path won't be afforded the same opportunity.
~;{@ Mel @};~

My GRS on 04-14-2015


Of all the things there are to do on this planet, there's only one thing that I must do- Live!
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Devlyn

Yay and a big hug! I saw some of her work that was performed last year. I'm really happy for you!

Hugs, Devlyn
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mrs izzy

Congrats on the date.

Insurance hoops are not fun but better then the whole thing OOP
Mrs. Izzy
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Sydney_NYC

Congrats. I met her at the Transgender Health Conference in Philadelphia last June and she is an amazing woman. I'm convinced that she is the one for me to use. I'm in the process of changing my insurance carrier in January and will then setup a consult with her. I'm not surprised that the waiting has increased.
Sydney





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SorchaC

Congrats, I hope it all goes well and you manage to lose weight. It surely will help with recovery

Hugs

Sorcha  ;D
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veritatemfurto

thanks! I think my long term experience going through this process is going to help me through the expected post-op regrets and depression alot since I've been at the point to justifying living without the surgery for lack of money. that's the one reason I'm indebted to the company. although who knows, if i end up making a partner from the friend im getting really close to at work, there will be two reasons lol.
~;{@ Mel @};~

My GRS on 04-14-2015


Of all the things there are to do on this planet, there's only one thing that I must do- Live!
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eringurrl

I have a date set for May 2015 and while I am excited and can't wait, I too am pretty scared for similar reasons... not waking up.  I've been through a couple of surgeries prior that involved anesthesia and I believe (what I been told and put comfort in) that anesthesiologists are very good at what they do and part of their job is to deal with allergic reactions or complications with anesthesia during the procedure.

Congrats on your date with Dr. Bowers Mel!
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Vicky

I wondered how that had gone Mel, and I definitely know what Marci's work looks like, I see it every day I look down, and grin at myself. 
I refuse to have a war of wits with a half armed opponent!!

Wiser now about Post Op reality!!
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veritatemfurto

thanks again...  ^-^

I spoke with my case manager at Cigna and confirmed that the GRS coverage itself is not changing, just have to factor in for the new deductible rate.
:whew:

I won't get a finalized price for the GRS until my insurance pre-authorization takes place in March, but I'm hoping someone on here can tell me a ballpark figure on how much it usually costs going through Dr Bowers so I can plan ahead and know if i'll have something left over from my 10% up to a total $3500 max out of pocket rate for a side trip to Anaheim...
~;{@ Mel @};~

My GRS on 04-14-2015


Of all the things there are to do on this planet, there's only one thing that I must do- Live!
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veritatemfurto

So earlier today while I was at work, I heard that the best time to buy airline tickets on average is to buy the tickets on a sunday that is eight weeks out from the date.

now I'm wondering about how much notice I would be given when it comes to my srs date being advanced???


I'm also wondering what I'm going to do about flying home on SWA. wondering if i should take a day or two layover half way on the trip home so im not too stressed since it takes about 7 hours to get to/from SFO and Orlando... in coach.
~;{@ Mel @};~

My GRS on 04-14-2015


Of all the things there are to do on this planet, there's only one thing that I must do- Live!
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Missy~rmdlm

I flew home nine days post-op, on an inflatable donut, five hours SFO to MSP. It wasn't a problem, and I would think a couple more hours flight time would not have been a problem either.
I enjoyed my experience with Marci, though mine was surgery only, I never felt need for a consult. I have been in contact with her since for some issues. Everything is pretty good now.

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ForeverGiselle

Wow, your SRS date is super close to mine! I have mine schedule for Nov. 4th 2015 also with Dr. Bowers.  Maybe we'll run into each other ^_^
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veritatemfurto

Quote from: ForeverGiselle on October 28, 2014, 11:24:44 AM
Wow, your SRS date is super close to mine! I have mine schedule for Nov. 4th 2015 also with Dr. Bowers.  Maybe we'll run into each other ^_^

nice, that would be so funny if we do run into each other on the streets of san mateo ^.^

but realistically, we may end up getting advanced to dates months apart
~;{@ Mel @};~

My GRS on 04-14-2015


Of all the things there are to do on this planet, there's only one thing that I must do- Live!
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veritatemfurto

Quote from: Missy~rmdlm on October 27, 2014, 12:36:41 AM
I flew home nine days post-op, on an inflatable donut, five hours SFO to MSP. It wasn't a problem, and I would think a couple more hours flight time would not have been a problem either.
I enjoyed my experience with Marci, though mine was surgery only, I never felt need for a consult. I have been in contact with her since for some issues. Everything is pretty good now.

well what worries me about flying so far is how things were for me on the last trip: i got cramped up by the third hour of 8 hours, and when i got to SFO i almost called for a medic when i got all light headed, cold sweats, and out of breath. weird that i would have an anxiety attack doing the trip i was so excited to finally do ever since i set up the date.
~;{@ Mel @};~

My GRS on 04-14-2015


Of all the things there are to do on this planet, there's only one thing that I must do- Live!
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Vicky

I had two months -Nov 6, 2012--  notice when my date was advanced from April 9, 2013 to Jan 15, 2013.  In lieu of the stop-over which would be close to $300 per night extra, you could just upgrade to First Class.  IF you wanted to make a fun stop over though where you could do something enjoyable, I would say to go for it, as long as you had some quiet time for personal care.  I had gone to San Mateo by car with some family members and straight through would have been 8 hours driving, in a highly packed car.  (They had gone shopping while I was in the hospital.) We broke the return trip into three legs with two city stops at scenic sites along the way.  Getting my mind onto things other than just medical care was not a bad thing.
I refuse to have a war of wits with a half armed opponent!!

Wiser now about Post Op reality!!
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Brenda E

Quote from: veritatemfurto on November 05, 2014, 12:07:09 AM
well what worries me about flying so far is how things were for me on the last trip: i got cramped up by the third hour of 8 hours...

First, thanks for posting the photos of San Fran - I absolutely love that city and miss travelling there.  What a great place to have your surgery.

Flying...I think it would be worth factoring in an upgrade, or at least purchasing the seat in coach next to you so that you are guaranteed some space.  And while aisle seats in first class are awesome for getting up and stretching the legs once in a while, a window in first would give you lots of space and nobody clambering over you five times to go to the bathroom.  Coach for that length of time, as you point out, is miserable when you're healthy and haven't recently had surgery.

SouthWest is a cattle car service.  Avoid, although sometimes you can get lucky and have an underbooked flight and lots of room at the back of the plane.  Great for budget trips, not so great for trips when you're feeling a little delicate.

You could always split up the flights and have a stop-over for a few hours mid-country.  In most airports you can find somewhere quiet to sit (even if it's the prayer room) and family bathrooms where you have space and privacy.

It's worth communicating with the airline too - call with details of your needs, see what they can do.  Speak to the people at the counter when you check in.  Speak to the gate agent as well - those guys and girls can work wonders when it comes to upgrades, pre-boarding, speaking to the crew about what you need etc.
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veritatemfurto

Quote from: Vicky on November 05, 2014, 06:15:25 AM
I had two months -Nov 6, 2012--  notice when my date was advanced from April 9, 2013 to Jan 15, 2013.  In lieu of the stop-over which would be close to $300 per night extra, you could just upgrade to First Class.  IF you wanted to make a fun stop over though where you could do something enjoyable, I would say to go for it, as long as you had some quiet time for personal care.  I had gone to San Mateo by car with some family members and straight through would have been 8 hours driving, in a highly packed car.  (They had gone shopping while I was in the hospital.) We broke the return trip into three legs with two city stops at scenic sites along the way.  Getting my mind onto things other than just medical care was not a bad thing.

unfortunately southwest only has coach... unless i can still get a flight via airtrain before they are all reconfigured from the merger... but i wouldn't have enough miles for that upgrade, as of right now my airfare is already paid for in bonus miles so im staying with swa.

as for where i sit, I'm a plane nut so a window seat is a must for me. i dont intend on flying back until almost a month after the surgery is done so i will have some time for recovery. I should however have some extra room if i have my mother or two friends travel with me while going back home.

during the initial recovery i think the first week or two ill be sleeping alot and then after that ill be itching to go back to Monterey Bay Aquarium for a few days. LUV that place...
~;{@ Mel @};~

My GRS on 04-14-2015


Of all the things there are to do on this planet, there's only one thing that I must do- Live!
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ForeverGiselle

Is it common to get advances or is that pretty rare?  I mean I'm happy mine is scheduled but I would be even happier if it get advanced to earlier dates.

THanks for any info! :)
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veritatemfurto

From what Dr Bowers and Robin have told me, it depends on a number of factors that are not just from working the logistics between their patient load and requests for Dr Bowers at events and shows.

Advancements are also influenced by when the hospital itself ends up having other resources or slots that become available for the Operating rooms when other cis patients cancel or move to other hospitals for their surgeries.

It seems to be pretty common nowadays, but again a lot of factors for them to deal with, so all we can do is hope that out names get to the top of the list sooner rather than later.
~;{@ Mel @};~

My GRS on 04-14-2015


Of all the things there are to do on this planet, there's only one thing that I must do- Live!
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BrenB

Congrats on your date! I too have contacted Dr. Bowers office a few weeks ago. Beginning this January, 2015 my insurance will cover GRS. She is one of surgeons that is in network with my insurance. The other is Dr. Kuzon at University of Michigan. There are a lot of excellent doctors out there, but typically you have to pay the surgeons fee upfront, and they will work with you in getting reimbursement from the insurance company after the surgery.  In my case I have to use a surgeon that is in network due to financial reasons.
I would love to have Marci do my surgery, especially after reading your post about her technique. The 14 month wait list, which is what they told me also, is hard for me to take. I don't know too much about Dr. Kuzon, but I know he has been around and has performed many surgeries. I also don't know about the wait time for him, I am just assuming it is less than 14 months.
My therapist said for such an important decision not to rush, but I have been ready for so long for this. Finances was the block, and that has been removed.
Maybe I would feel more at peace in my mind if I knew I had a set date, I don't know. I will be making a decision within a week because I want to get the ball rolling. So I will be reading these forums top to bottom!  Your comments of your consultation with Dr. Bowers make me think perhaps she is the choice for me. If I can just get past the wait time!
Brenna
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