Need advice on what this means??

[Nat]

I came out to my mom about 1 year and 2 months ago over the phone crying one night. We had a long talk and I explained it to her that I wanted to be a woman and she told me she totally gets it and that she supports me. She said we would not sweep this under the rug and that she would see what her insurance would do. As time moved on she never spoke of it. In fact we have never spoke of it since the night I told her. And now she uses blantant male pronouns and says stuff like "You are growing into a handsome young man" and dreaded comments like that.

So long story short could she have possibly just forgot? Like what is going on? Do I really need to bring it up again? Maybe she does not know I am doing anything. I just started going to the therapist to try and get hormones sooo she needs to get on board soon or it is going to be pretty awkward. 

[VikingArchangel]

Sounds like denial to me. I came out to my parents when I was about 7, and neither have mentioned it in the 22 years since. Also, I feel you on the "dreaded comments like that" part.

They will try to push you into uber masculine activities/career/etc. Don't let them! Be you, however you can!

[Jessica Merriman]

One of the classic 5 signs of grief. All of us have seen it in our loved ones.

Denial
Anger
Bargaining
Depression
Acceptance

[Ms Grace]

Your mother sounds a bit like my father. When I told him - face to face, with me bawling my eyes out - he said he would be supportive. But since then has been anything but. Thing is people are often shocked when they first hear the news and later, once it all sinks in and they think about it and talk to others, they may form a view very different from their initial reaction.

So denial is most likely what it is.

But you say she hasn't talked about it since, have you raised it with her again? Are you still presenting as male? She is likely to be thinking you're "over it" if you've let the matter slide and are presenting as male.

[Abby Claire]

This exactly what I went through (only two year span). Long story short: My mom asked me what was going on randomly, she brought up what I told her two years ago, I told her, she joined me at therapy, and now I'm on hrt and she's fully supportive.

Like my mom, she's probably in denial and believes you were confused. Once you confront her with what's going on she'll have to accept it. Don't expect her to help you with your transition (at least getting started) though. She may get on board once she sees the steps you're taking.

[OlderTG]

I suspect that initial desire to be supportive is relatively common, while certainly not universal. Once the SO has time to think and feel, then the meaning begins to kick in and their own needs jump into the picture. It's wonderful that many can balance your needs and their needs, but from what I've read in this forum there are far too many cases where a parent's need for a cis child overcome their urge to support that child.

Don't think for a moment that your initial comments were forgotten! I'm quite sure they are emblazoned in your mom's mind.
Is there anything wrong with reminding her of what you'd told her?
If she becomes angry and argumentative, you don't have to fight back but neither do you need to cave to her.
Let her know now strongly you feel about this and will be glad to talk with her when she's ready to talk and not fight.