Quote from: Sephirah on October 23, 2014, 01:37:44 PM
I never really think too much about my head, or arm, until it starts aching. Then the only thing I can think about is how much it hurts and how much I want it to stop hurting.
I guess people only think about certain things when they have a reason to think about certain things. When everything's working as intended, we're far too busy with more pressing matters. When something becomes a more pressing matter... then we start to think about it. . .
Quote from: Anna-Maria on October 23, 2014, 03:14:59 PM
Why do Cis people mix up genitalias with sex and gender? Why do they think being FAAB/MAAB makes you a woman/man regardless what you´re feeling inside? It´s exactly because of what I described in my previous post. Their brain accepts the body as it is, because the body is shaped the way the brain expects it to be. The subconscious sex will never come to a conscious level as it does in Trans people. That´s also the reason why they can´t understand Trans people. Cis people just don´t have a need for transitioning. They feel complete and this sense of completeness derives directly from the assigned sex being in line with the subconscious sex.
I think these remarks are very pertinent. I have thought along the same lines.
We always have certain expectations of the world. E.g., if you drop your keys, you pick them up off the ground without really thinking about it. Unlike Newton, you don't go into some profound analysis of the nature of gravity. You simply know how the world works, and you act/react accordingly. Now if one day your keys started floating away into the sky, that would raise a lot of questions in your mind. It would freak you out.
And I think this is what we do to cispeople. We freak them out because we challenge one of their most basic assumptions about the world: if it looks like a man, it should talk like a man, act like a man, etc. If it looks like a woman, etc. They have expectations about the world and we upset them on a very deep level. Gender is something that's very deeply-seated in your psyche.
Now we don't mean to challenge them. We don't do it on purpose. But we do it nonetheless. And that's why so many of them respond unthinkingly and with a great deal of hostility. We're upsetting a very significant aspect of their world view.
If you listen to a lot of the arguments cispeople make against ->-bleeped-<-, you'll see that they're things that are designed to assure them that ->-bleeped-<- doesn't really exist, that it's something that can be made to go away.
E.g., ->-bleeped-<- is the result of poor parenting. If we could identify what parents are doing so wrong that they're turning their kids into transkids, we could educate them, they could stop doing these things, and there wouldn't be any more transkids in the world. Or ->-bleeped-<- is the result of some sort of abuse. If adults stopped abusing little children, then there wouldn't be any more transgender children.
Cispeople have a false view and false expectations of the world. They think everybody is unambiguously male or female. And we LGBTI people pay a very high price for their failure to accept that things aren't as neat as they'd like them to be.
