who was the first person you told about being trans

[stephaniec]

wow, great stories. I have told one other friend of mine. at  first I though he was never going to talk to me again, but it turned out he was just playing around.

[Ash]

One of my friends was having trouble coming out as a lesbian. She was terrified even though during the conversation I knew where she was going with it.
So I told her I'd tell her a secret first.
Told her about wanting to be a girl and she came out as gay then.
She's a makeup artist now and said she'd help me learn how to use it all

[littleredrobinhood]

I can't remember all the details, because I was still pretty lost and confused back then (I was about 14, I think?).. But the first person I told was my Mom.

At first I thought she was supportive, because she didn't treat me like I was delusional or disgusting like I was expecting her to. But after a few breakdowns and her pretending like nothing had happened after each time, I realized she didn't understand. For one, she bluntly told me "No, you won't" when I was bawling my eyes out about "never being able to be a guy", and two; she seemed to think I was merely a lesbian who didn't want to be a lesbian. (I never once expressed interest in a girl to her. Only men. She only thought this because she "heard that most people like that are attracted to women")

But I know it could have been much worse. Maybe one day I'll try again. (perhaps after I start transitioning)

[justpat]

   That would have to be myself, after years (decades) of denial then melting down and  the realization that yes I am different and accepting and acknowledging what I found as the true core of my life. After that things got very interesting as I tried different ways to introduce my true self to old friends and was met with unbelievable acceptance.Some times miracles do happen.

[Ellie_L]

I had told my best friend in high school, and my now current best friend, more as a " this is my secret wish/albatross around my neck" kind of thing.
Telling myself, and getting myself to accept that I was trans only happened after I had told my best friends. 

[Annabelle]

I told my childhood/best friend about it around summer time when our group of high school friends decided to have a get together for some drunken mischief. Since our houses were about 50m or so away from each other we decided to have a long chat since we haven't really conversed face to face since we all started university. Anyways it took forever for me to tell him but he said he is shocked but will support me. A week or so later he rings up and goes "daaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaamn what if you become a hot chick?! I'll probably hit on you!" hahaha but after that funny comment he said it was so clear now that he had some time to think about it. He also said if he can do anything to help me, don't hesitate to ask Oh how I love my bestie hehe :3

[allisonsteph]

The first person I told was my now former partner who is FtM. His response was "No s**t, it's about damn time you figured it out".

[Jill F]

I told my wife as soon as I came out to myself and could no longer deny or ignore the fact that I am transgender.  She knew something was wrong for a long time and that my depression was getting markedly worse.

The second person I told was an ER doctor.

The third was a female friend that I have known since I was 18.

Then a therapist, then my parents, the rest of my family, and finally Facebook.

[stephaniec]

I told my wife as soon as I came out to myself and could no longer deny or ignore the fact that I am transgender.  She knew something was wrong for a long time and that my depression was getting markedly worse.

The second person I told was an ER doctor.

The third was a female friend that I have known since I was 18.

Then a therapist, then my parents, the rest of my family, and finally Facebook.

that button on Facebook is starting to yell at me

[ImagineKate]

Officially: My wife a couple of weeks ago

Unofficially: My mom when she caught me dressing "I want to be a girl!" is what I said, I think. Also my cousins who dressed me up and said I'd look good as a girl, and I agreed.

I say unofficially because the memories are so distant I'm not so sure what happened back then, but I do know I dressed up, was caught and confessed at least once.

[Ravensong]

My wife practically told me, not the other way around!  She mentioned one night that I might not really be a guy from her observations, and suggested I look into other options (for lack of better phrasing).I started looking, found here and other places, started reading and thinking, and here I am.

[Cheska]

One of my closest friends. I was planning on telling a couple of family members at the same time and felt that it would be better to tell someone  one-on-one first.

[MyKa]

Guess it would have been my best friend my x.  Never forget the day, laying in bed hey there Delilah was on the stereo we were having a pretty open conversation (while having sex) and I really never came out and said the word transition or transgender but had spoke of the past where I had was taking mone's for almost 2 years without out a script. She asked if I had the chance and could take them again would you and I replied hell yes. 3 years later she left. Scary to think that she might be the last person I would ever be intimate with I miss her and love her still till this day.

[Crissie22]

My wife has been in on it ever since we met  but the first person I actually told was my sister she was shocked at first but after a think it all made sence she has been great and since she loves knitting she makes me clothes which I love .i think it has brought us even closer

Chrissie Rose xxx

[Nicole]

My mum, over dinner while watching TV, she knew something was up but never pushed me for anything, that night I just said "mum, I think I should be a girl, I hate being a boy and it doesn't feel right".
She said "oh, well I love you" gave me a kiss and we went back to our TV show. The next day I got home and she told me that she took the day off and got all this info for us

[theadanielle]

I first told my Mom at about age 14.

As a HS sophomore the second person I told was my best friend, in typing class.  He passed me a note that had a P.S. at the end - "Don't worry I won't tell anyone you are a transvestite."  I crossed out "vestite" and wrote "sexual" and passed the note back to him.  He just smiled and nodded.  We are still friends 27 years later.

[April Lee]

I told my friend, John. I have known him almost 30 years. We have been colleagues 3 different companies over the years. He was surprised, but after he thought it about it a while, he could kind of see it.

[Ms Grace]

The first person ever ever was a counsellor who I saw for the first time through a natural therapies center back in 1989...she promptly referred me to another counsellor elsewhere who promptly referred me to a shrink who had me seeing an endo after one or two appointments. As for the first non medical therapist type it was probably one of my female friends...not sure which one though. That nugget of memory is buried in the mists of time.

[RachaelAnne]

I know when I was little (about 5 or 6) I let it out to my family that I wanted to be a girl.  I was ignored. [emoji22]

Fast forward to the present day...
For the past 8 years I've been trying to figure out exactly what to do and fighting to hide my raging disphoria on a daily basis.

I'm March this year I finally couldn't take it anymore and told my best friend, the love of my life - my wife of 20 years.  [emoji4]

Now we're working through it together.   I'm hoping we can stay together, time will tell.

[ErinWDK]

The first person I had to come out to was myself.  That was hard.

Then I needed to work with a therapist and doctors.  Most of these handled it well on a professional basis.  My Endo I have been seeing for years for diabetes sort of freaked out, but she is OK now.

Then I told my friend I sort of wanted to become my SO.  That did not work out very well, but we are still in contact so there is no telling what the future holds.

This can be a REALLY rocky road.


Erin