Is fear/regret normal after coming out?

[Ara]

Hey,

I've started the process of coming out to people.  I'm not someone who can easily talk to friends and family about my feelings, and I don't like being emotionally vulnerable at all, so when I told my friend yesterday that I planned to transition, even though I knew it would be okay, I was absolutely stressing out.

Now I'm just as stressed about it.  Yesterday I was really sure but now I've started telling new people about my feelings I have this kind of pressure on me and I'm scared and I'm feeling like I just shouldn't have said anything. 

Maybe I just feel this way because my anxiety is overpowering my dysphoria?

[Ms Grace]

Believe me, telling people, coming out is really stressful even when you feel very confident and can talk about your feelings so it's no surprise you're feeling the way you do. Regrettably, short of moving far, far, away never to be seen again it's a conversation you can't really avoid if you intend to transition because people will suss it out eventually.

[mrs izzy]

Yes and Yes

For me I feared loosing everyone who I loved and cared more in life then my own.

After I came to understand I regretted putting my family through all the pain of my actions, my family was totally amazing.

So you can not let fear rule your life.

There is nothing to feel you need to regret in being happy.

[Ara]

Thanks for your responses.

I'm sure by tomorrow I'll feel fine again.  I remember people talking about how selfish they felt when coming out and I always thought "I'd never feel selfish about coming out!" but now I totally understand it.  It feels wrong to impose my struggles on others when I've been dealing with it as some kind of internal shame for 4 years.