Hi jbrantley, welcome to Susan's Place! I'm from Boston. It's great that you've come here looking for answers. Open communication is essential, go ahead and tell your partner that you're confused. They may be confused, too. I'm a crossdresser, and I can tell you from my experiences that it takes a lot of internal turmoil before I told anyone. Not knowing what reaction you will get can be terrifying. Your partner has trusted you with their biggest secret, you have earned their absolute trust. I wish you both the best!
Hugs, Devlyn