Something I really didn't expect to happen coming out to the kids

[BreezyB]

This weekend has been a little emotional for me. I have four children, two boys and two girls. The two boys are aged 9 and 11 and the two girls aged 4 and 7.

Being separated from my partner the children come to visit me every second weekend. So this weekend was my weekend with the children. I came out to my children about three weeks ago. It all went well and the kids have been very accepting.

However this weekend my youngest daughter said she didn't want to come. She said to me 'your a princess, but your suppose to be a prince'. Well as adorable as that sounds the fact she doesn't want to see me hurts. There were many tears last night.

I suppose I just didn't expect my youngest to struggle with this, because of her age. If anything I was mostly concerned about my oldest son.

Well I don't think I'm asking a question here, I think I just needed to get something out.

[immortal gypsy]

Hugs Bree

Take all you need, I have plenty to spare.

[JulieBlair]

I have a four year old granddaughter.  She has watched me change and transform my body and presentation for as long as she can remember.  That I, who was a strong and supportive pillar of her universe should become someone new, and radically different is more than she has been able to grasp.  She still climbs into my lap and comes for a cuddle, but for now I remain her prince, until she chooses to embrace the princess.  What I look like and what I say or do is irrelevant, I must accept her time schedule if I hope to be fully accepted within her vision of the world.  Bree, acceptance will come - it follows in the steps of love.

Peace,
Julie

[BreezyB]

Thank you girls, your thoughts mean a lot.

Julie, I think your right. I do believe acceptance will come, just right now I think she believes her dad is slipping away. I'll stay committed to being a loving parent and in time I do believe she'll accept the new me.

[katiej]

Bree, my kids are almost exactly the same age as yours, and I also have four. 

I think your youngest is having an emotional reaction and doesn't have the ability to think it through or understand it the way that the older ones do.  But she just needs to know that through the changes she isn't losing you...she still does have a "dad" who loves her.  She'll come around.

[barbie]

I have 3 kids. They all think I am their dad. My youngest daughter at age 10 playfully calls me a lady or mom. The eldest son is thoughtful and quiet to grasp what is happening to me and the people around me. Only my second son started to avoid me in public when he was in puberty. He said he is afraid that his mates will tease or alienate him once they see me. I just wait and do not urge anything. I have never been to his school. I am sure he will understand me someday. They do not like my wearing women's clothes, but they know well that I love them. As long as I love and sustain them well, they seem to be happy with me, whatever I wear. Oh. My wife is always very supportive of me.

barbie~~

[BreezyB]

I have a positive update to make. So yesterday I dropped the other children at their mums house. As we were walking down the driveway my four year old daughter came running up to me with arms open wide and gave me the biggest hug. It was so sweet. She had a big smile on her face and she said 'I missed you dad'.

I then took her aside to listen to how she was feeling and talk about some of the changes she is noticing. She said 'it's ok dad'. I told her that Imwill always be her prince regardless of how I look.

So in all a very positive end to an otherwise very emotional weekend. But I think shes come around already and now I have all the kids accepting me.

Ahh, a very happy girl and relieved one too. Thanks everyone for your kind words.

Hugs,
Bree

[BreezyB]

I have 3 kids. They all think I am their dad. My youngest daughter at age 10 playfully calls me a lady or mom. The eldest son is thoughtful and quiet to grasp what is happening to me and the people around me. Only my second son started to avoid me in public when he was in puberty. He said he is afraid that his mates will tease or alienate him once they see me. I just wait and do not urge anything. I have never been to his school. I am sure he will understand me someday. They do not like my wearing women's clothes, but they know well that I love them. As long as I love and sustain them well, they seem to be happy with me, whatever I wear. Oh. My wife is always very supportive of me.

barbie~~

Aww, sounds like your kids are mostly accepting you Barbie. I think my eldest son may struggle more as I move towards presenting more femininely, but I'll cross that bridge when it comes. I think it's great that your wife is so supportive, that really helps I think. Presenting a United front to the kids would help a lot.

[barbie]

I have a positive update to make. So yesterday I dropped the other children at their mums house. As we were walking down the driveway my four year old daughter came running up to me with arms open wide and gave me the biggest hug. It was so sweet. She had a big smile on her face and she said 'I missed you dad'.

I then took her aside to listen to how she was feeling and talk about some of the changes she is noticing. She said 'it's ok dad'. I told her that Imwill always be her prince regardless of how I look.

So in all a very positive end to an otherwise very emotional weekend. But I think shes come around already and now I have all the kids accepting me.

Ahh, a very happy girl and relieved one too. Thanks everyone for your kind words.

Hugs,
Bree

Yes. Kids are so much flexible, and still understand the world as the adults do. As long as they know you love them, they will not betray you.

Love,

barbie~~