Do I Look, or Could I Pass, as Female? 4.0

[Serena]

Not really.  There are sex characteristics hon, men look a certain way and women look a certain way...and that's how the world will see you if you don't look like a woman should.  I'm sorry, but I'm not able to live as a trans woman if I look like a man.

I was talking about hair, there is women with beautiful curly hair, my mom is black but she has her natural hair curly like yours, and she passes as a woman. Curly Hair don't make you look like a man.

[androgynouspainter26]

Oh, I know it doesn't!  I'm working on growing it out now...I really hope it looks pretty long.

[Serena]

Telling someone that you're working much harder than them and that she shouldn't complain because apparently she's not doing enough is not really supportive. However it kinda seems like androgynouspainter wasnt to give up on this, I'm sad if you do, it's not really going to do much for you if you decide to detransition, and you're probably going to regret it, but she also doesn't want to try her best at passing... But yeah without money it's a really hard thing to do. I think if you try your best to pass you could really pass...

You know I got my first makeup things from a donation tumblr page for trans women, and they sent me unused elf make up for free... I don't have any money neither, but you can try, I know for a fact that there are scholarships and grants for trans women to get surgery you might want to look into that, I couldn't apply because I am not seeing a therapist, and they need a letter from them, plus they would probably not even give it to me because I'm just one month in and not seeing any doctors, so yeah. Good luck with that.

[Serena]

I made a video about  my hair, do you think I pass with my natural hair (without the wig I have on)? Please don't mind my voice, I was a little bit sick. Also if you have any tips for growing hair faster besides biotin or vitamins, that would be helpful. I might want to try Mane 'n Tail... Did anyone ever use it? I know PrincessJoules said it's helpful and she has beautiful long hair.

[androgynouspainter26]

It looks pretty good; you shouldn't put it up though.  With hair like ours the most important thing is moisture, moisture, moisture.  How often do you condition?

[barbie]

What that meant is that my co-workers really did not notice me changing because I did it so gradually and the new hires just fall in line with the others so I got to retain my professional status

I have been the same. Gradual change is always better, as it gives time for people to digest.

barbie~~

[barbie]

I made a video about  my hair, do you think I pass with my natural hair (without the wig I have on)? Please don't mind my voice, I was a little bit sick. Also if you have any tips for growing hair faster besides biotin or vitamins, that would be helpful. I might want to try Mane 'n Tail... Did anyone ever use it? I know PrincessJoules said it's helpful and she has beautiful long hair.

Serena,

I think you complete pass, but your hair is not tidy. Please visit a hair salon today.

barbie~~

[Serena]

It looks pretty good; you shouldn't put it up though.  With hair like ours the most important thing is moisture, moisture, moisture.  How often do you condition?

I actually don't condition anymore because I don't have money to buy one lol I got moroccain oil tho, my hair is very puffy and dry they need a lot of moisture, they get irritated often and when I scratch my scalp then I lose hair and I'm always scared I'm getting the balding male problems but it's probably just irritation and stress.

Serena,

I think you complete pass, but your hair is not tidy. Please visit a hair salon today.

barbie~~

I usually cut my hair myself, they are definitely in the awkward stage right now so they do whatever they want.

[barbie]

Just returning from hiking in a nearby forest park with my wife and little daughter.
It was about to rain and very windy. Some of my friends say that I should not wear a skirt while climbing.
The videos in the forest are very shaky, and I used a tripod to show my walking posture in my campus.
Also some outdoor photos taken today.



I remember that some female graduate students in the U.S. once commented that I walk like a soldier.
My walking looks feminine? I am not quite sure.

barbie~~

[barbie]

I usually cut my hair myself, they are definitely in the awkward stage right now so they do whatever they want.

Serena,

I do not spare money for hair. I always ask the best hair-care product available in the hair salon.
Ninety percent of feminine appearance is determined by your hair style.
Sometimes I pay more than US$ 200 for hair treatment, although hair salons here are far less expensive than those in the U.S.

barbie~~

[Damara]

Just returning from hiking in a nearby forest park with my wife and little daughter.
It was about to rain and very windy. Some of my friends say that I should not wear a skirt while climbing.
The videos in the forest are very shaky, and I used a tripod to show my walking posture in my campus.
Also some outdoor photos taken today.



I remember that some female graduate students in the U.S. once commented that I walk like a soldier.
My walking looks feminine? I am not quite sure.

barbie~~

I just see a lovely tall lady walking around! You are so elegant! I'm quite clumsy when I walk, it's not male.. just stumbly. hahah!

[mmmmm]

Ninety percent of feminine appearance is determined by your hair style.

Excuse me, I believe the 90% is about the attitude.

[Gabrielle_22]

I was talking about hair, there is women with beautiful curly hair, my mom is black but she has her natural hair curly like yours, and she passes as a woman. Curly Hair don't make you look like a man.

Yes, I also thought androgynouspainter was suggesting curly hair is not feminine. I wrote to you a page ago, Painter--if you want hair advice for keeping your curly hair looking good, check out the Curly Girl method. You may find things there that help, since our kind of hair does not benefit from advice for straight hair. I assume you missed my post. Grow your hair out and see if you can get it to frame your face in a way that will alleviate some of your passability concerns.

[Gabrielle_22]

I made a video about  my hair, do you think I pass with my natural hair (without the wig I have on)? Please don't mind my voice, I was a little bit sick. Also if you have any tips for growing hair faster besides biotin or vitamins, that would be helpful. I might want to try Mane 'n Tail... Did anyone ever use it? I know PrincessJoules said it's helpful and she has beautiful long hair.

You definitely pass! You look like a beautiful girl--no trace of masculinity in your face at all. Your hair is messy, but it doesn't detract from your femininity, and I think it will look cute on you as it grows out. I'm jealous of how thick it is! Conditioner is a key part of keeping hair like that from becoming too dry, but since you said you can't afford it, you may want to try shampooing it less (if you shampoo it), since most commercial shampoos strip curly hair of the little moisture it has already. You can try occasionally clarifying it with a small amount of apple cider vinegar, which I used to do as a replacement for shampoo but then stopped because I didn't care for the smell. Keep oiling your hair--coconut oil and jojoba oil are great if you can find them. And if you do get a chance to get a conditioner, I've always had success with Suave Naturals. I try to avoid conditioners with silicones in them, as those leave build-up in the hair that can make it look dull and flat.

Good luck! You're in a great place already!

[barbie]

I just see a lovely tall lady walking around! You are so elegant! I'm quite clumsy when I walk, it's not male.. just stumbly. hahah!

Damara, thanks for your nice comments.

YouTube says that the video clip can not be seen in some countries, because of copyright violation (background music).
Magically, YouTube provided me several options, and their software removed only the background music, not the voice of my little daughter.
Amazing!

barbie~~

[Samantha6string]

Without any makeup, this is how I currently go to uni as "boymode" I cant really form an opinion myself.

I know my chin and jawline are my biggest problems but ffs isn't anywhere in the near future For me financially.

[stephee72]

Imagine kate...thanks for smile comment...and yes when i do go in public it will be without the shadow

[barbie]

Without any makeup, this is how I currently go to uni as "boymode" I cant really form an opinion myself.

I know my chin and jawline are my biggest problems but ffs isn't anywhere in the near future For me financially.

To my eyes, you have lovely and feminine eyes and eyebrows. You may accentuate them.
You already look feminine. Do not worry.

barbie~~

[amber roskamp]

that's ur boy mode . Do you ever get male failed.

[Serena]

I have the same problem with the chin, you have big feminine wide eyes just like me, you should use make up to make to accentuate them as barbie said, so that you can show one of your best features out! Also you kind of remind me of a blond version of Florence Welch from Florence and the Machine and she's gorgeous! I think that you look pretty feminine for not wearing make up, I'm jealous I wish I looked that good without make up.