Are you doing the holidays this 2014 year?

[mrs izzy]

As the subject line reads.

Being how life changes for many is there the holiday spirit?

I ask being this is the first year since I can remember I have the bah hum bug feeling. Do not want to place the tree or decoration around the apartment.

I will do my required visits with family. Just will this feeling fade after this emotional turmoil that's happening next few weeks?

I am lost on a island with no way off.
I see help in the distance but no fire to signal.

Sigh!

[Dee Marshall]

The past several years I've been much too busy, now during the worst holiday season I've had since the year after my son was born I find myself with nothing left EXCEPT my family and some of them are in danger of slipping away. I'm not a Christian, haven't been for years, but the season is bigger than that. I will decorate the new apartment with my wife as we struggle to keep ourselves together despite her discomfort with my condition and my current unemployment. We'll manage little gifts and, if I can make it work, drive the 600 miles to visit my sister, my only living close relative.

Now more than ever I need a little Christmas.

(and now I just made myself cry)

[mrs izzy]

Hugs Dee

[Marcellow]

I'm not looking forward to Christmas, no. I'm going to be that elephant in the room since by that time, the changes from T are going to be even more noticeable and the family has no capability of talking things out. At least my mom and dad aren't emotionally available and we sweep things under the rug. I don't expect the holidays to be cheerful.

[mrs izzy]

Hugs Marcellow

Take things day at a time and stay true to yourself.

[Jaime R D]

I do Christmas alone, usually with the traditional Christmas pizza. I've done it for a long time, so it doesn't bother me. I will have dinner with my brother's family on Thanksgiving though, they traditionally have it down here at the coast.

[angie]

I'm not looking to the holidays much myself, going to be the first holiday in 14 years that my wife isn't around! haven't came out to any of my friends yet and not sure if I plan on coming out or just moving away before that time comes. will be just a little over a month on HRT so I don't think I should have too many changes the people will notice so I could still go hang out with friends but I'm not sure that I even want to do that, don't really feel comfortable around my friends anymore! hopefully I have a new job by then and I can just work all day on Christmas, as I live in a mountain town and Christmas is usually very busy. That way I don't have to really worry about it! I think the hardest day is going to be New Years,  that should be my 10 year wedding anniversary and although we are not divorced yet my wife will not be here and does not agree with what I'm doing has made it very clear that if I am transitioning then she cannot be here for me as my wife anymore but says she can be as a friend! so far the kind of friend that she is bending is negative about everything I tell her so I really don't tell her much anymore, needless to say I'm not really looking forward to the holidays!

[mrs izzy]

Hugs Jaime and Angie.

[antonia]

Living several thousand km/miles away from any family member has it's benefits, I cook a christmas dinner and invite anyone who is far away from family to join, it's a multicultural thing and it brings me joy to mix customs and traditions from all over the world.

[Jill F]

What happened?  I swear it was just last Christmas!

So yes, we are hosting both Thanksgiving and Christmas this year.   8 guests confirmed for Thanksgiving.  We like to host because we are the best cooks in our families and would prefer to be buzzed enough to put up with "dysfunction junction" without worrying about driving.

Happy Alcoholidays!

[JenniR04]

I'm not looking forward to the holidays at all this year. It will the be the 1st year that I'll mostly likely be spending them alone with my wife and kids. We aren't divorced yet and are still living under the same roof technically, but this has been a tough year due to acknowledging my coming out and wanting more of a presence in my true gender. It has driven us to not talk or really see each other even when were in the house at the same time, we keep to our separate floors and areas. It saddens me to think that this will probably be the last holiday season that I will married.

A tear or two shed just thinking about it.

There is some happiness thinking about the future, but it's just getting through then next hurdles which will test my strength and inner being.

Hugs to all as we approach this joyous time of the year!

[mrs izzy]

Take it one day at a time.

Never loose sight of who you are.

Just please stay safe.

We are here anytime needed.

Hugs

[catastrophe1993]

Im not really looking forward to much to it because I don't really know where I will be staying. I am not allowed home

[mrs izzy]

catastrophe1993

So sorry you will be alone.

I just got a hug from the hug bank and wish to give it to you.

We are family and are here.

Hug.

[catastrophe1993]

Thank you Mrs Izzy

[Mai]

nothing for me unfortunately.  was invited to my moms for thanksgiving but unfortunately, losing a shift at work, paying for the gas to travel, and losing my holiday pay, for dinner and a couple hours to visit  just isnt worth it.  rather use the 250$ saved/earned towards paying off my debt faster so i can start hrt.  which thankfully my mom understands.

[mrs izzy]

Tomorrow will be my thanksgiving for family.

Early due to all that's going on atm.

Stressing out and weird being it's always a walk in the park. I loved to entertain just not much this year.

I wish everyone find some happiness this holiday season. I myself will somehow walk out of the fog.

Hugs

[bambam]

I think the holidays will be petty okay this year since I'll be starting T this month and the majority of my family already know I'm trans. Not all will most likely have the pronouns down but they do put forth an effort. I used to have no use for holidays over the past 4 years but I feel like this one could be pretty good. Obviously nothing like when I was a kid, I don't think I'll ever get those feelings of joy and excitement back like that. Hopefully everyone can find at least one thing to be happy about during these holidays.

[Mai]

no holidays for me   my family has been split fairly heavilly for a few years now for other misc reasons.  so im spending the holidays working.  extra pay to save for transitioning.

[Alexis2107]

Not doing anything for holidays this year.  Not had a normal holiday in years, partly because after my grandparents passed the family kinda split in its own directions and nobody sees anyone anymore and yeah... and my parents are not big into holiday celebration... so usually I am alone.  I can say though, this is my last worthless holiday.  Next year I'll be in my man's arms.