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Worried sick

Started by ashawobbles, November 19, 2014, 11:22:29 PM

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ashawobbles

I have a friend in the UK who has been transitioning for some time now, but she has gone missing. For the sake of her privacy, I won't go into too much detail about her transition but I can say it's been difficult for her. In the UK, while the costs are covered by the National Health System, there's also more restrictions on who is allowed to transition; she was treated for depression and such, and apparently if you have certain personality disorders they won't let you transition there.

She disappeared off the Internet. This isn't the first time this happened, but this time I'm worried because her Facebook account has been disabled. I don't think she would have blocked me, because we were very close friends and she even told me things she didn't even tell her (now ex-) SO or her parents.

I last heard from her via email on October 2nd. She posted a photo on G+ on October 7th. I've tried contacting her mother via Facebook, no response there (it's possible she ignored the friend request, and hasn't checked her "other" folder yet for messages), and I've also used Skype to dial her mobile number, which, unfortunately went to voicemail and she didn't have any kind of custom greeting setup and she hasn't called back.

She has been out of the hospital previous to this, so I'm worried that she's either still in the hospital, or that she's hurt herself.

She seemed like she was making progress. In the last message she sent me, she was saying how they finally let her have an appointment at the the gender clinic. She already changed her name (though, in the UK they have a special "Mx" title for that until a certain point in transitioning...), and she was taking hormones online (I'm guessing it's legal/easier there) before that, though.

I'm very worried. I really hope she is okay. Is there anyway I can find out what happened to her?
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ashawobbles

Quote from: Hanazono on November 19, 2014, 11:47:59 PM
well, those whom I am really close to know where I live and work. (I guess that would be my bankers and stockbrokers then?  ::)
But seriously, you can hire a private investigator, or dial her number outright ?
I'm guessing a private investigator would be obscenely expensive. I'd probably need to start with looking at obituaries.

I know she was living in Canterbury, Kent, UK, but not any more specific than that. I know her pre-transition name, I know what university she went to and I know where she worked, but not anymore specific to that. I have her email, Google plus, and mobile phone...but not any kind of address. She also appears to have been smart enough to remove the geotagging from her photos taken from her cellphone.

I can't dial internationally on my phone with my service.

I could (have) tried her father on Facebook, but with her profile gone I have no way of looking that up.

I tried her mother, but she seems to not be active since July 25 of this year.
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