I am assuming I'm not alone here.

[J441]

Wow. That really sucks. I'm sorry.

I'm a cisgender lesbian, and I'm dating a transgender lesbian. When she came out to me, we were just best friends at that point, but nothing changed. If anything it made us closer.

Simply because someone accepts the gay community doesn't mean they'll accept the trans community. I know that's really stupid, and you'd think that the gay people would have a higher level of understanding when it comes to trans issues, but many don't.

It's just ignorance.
I would never do that.

I'm really sorry. I hope you find your true friends. <3

[XiaoMei]

I joined the LGBT forum on Tapatalk. I got only 1 welcome.. Lovely. Isn't it?


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[big kim]

Just been outed by a pair of lesbians reviewing my hotel on trip adviser

[Julia-Madrid]

@XiaoMei

I am sorry that you're having these problems with your friends.  Some of it might just be to do with them being so young, and quite possibly insecure.  But give them some time and it's possible that they will come to feel a little more comfortable, and hence able to deal with your situation.

I had one friend, staight, who behaved like an ass.  A few month after that he called me and we sorted out the issue.  He felt really bad for what he'd done.

My gay friends have been fantastic, and make an effort to include me.  Even my ex-boyfriends (For some time I tried to see whether I might be able to live as a gay man) accept me.  I think they see a much more consistent and happy person.

Try to educate them when you get the chance.  If they won't listen, honey, move on and find a crowd of people who are happy with the person you are.

Julia

[Stephe]

One person I know ended up having an open discussion with a transphobic gay guy. He basically said, "You've got a dick. Accept that you're gay!"

Right, I think some gay people think we are trying to hide that we are gay or something? Most seem to be pretty clueless about T issues.

[XiaoMei]

What's odd is that I'm not even attracted to Men, so why would I hide that by becoming gay myself in the end...?

@J441; How is your partner these days?


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[Wynternight]

I've always thought the T at the end of LGBT was kind of an akward fit. It's a shame that two marginalised groups can't find common cause and mutual understanding.

[Joanna Dark]

I never got the borderline dislike of gay men and lesbians. I have never, ever encountered one problem from an LGB person. In Philly, that will get you outcasted real fast and all lesbian groups state on their FB groups that transphobia will not be tolerated and will be called out. One of my bosses is gay and he completely accepts me and likes me and has me over for dinner a lot. So, I have never experienced it but I guess it's different elsewhere outside PHilly.