This argument is really complex. Kinda like from where I sit:
is that person bailing water outta the boat or helping to swamp it? Yes, most MTFTS, most of the ones I meet, do not want to do away with the binary, and are more likely to kinda want to fade into the fabric as a 'just another' than other people in the LTBG coalition. Although as the MTFTS population gets statistically younger, more people come from the G party to identify as TS, or at least T.
OTH, most FTMTS I meet have no problems with the LTBG coalition. In fact, they are much more likely to have associated a good part of their lives with the L party of the coalition than with the T party. They seem to be able to view things a bit differently than do many MTFTSes because they come from a different association.
Coalitions are always fragile; they rely on a range of different people with different opinions agreeing enough to work together.
I don't see the difficulty in that necessarily being any one group's fault. Just a different set of circumstances and views about how to get from point A to point G and which points to plot on that course, and when.
Face it, regardless Lynn Conway's guestimates, TS people are probably a fairly rare group. Being able to include CD/TV/DQ et. al. tends to bolster those number. Being able to align, with greater or lesser ease with LBG people ups the sum of any statistical population to some where between 5% and 10%.
That seems a positive political reality. But, the frustration lotsa T people feel is that we are the last addition to GBLT and the first jettisoned when it comes to political changes. That can be awfully frustrating.
Part of the problem is the way a lot of us MTFTSes were conditioned: gay is bad. We were married or at least often attempted to have girlfriends, etc as a function of the way we felt we had to stay hidden. CDs and TVs prolly can ditto that, maybe a lot of Androgynes as well.
Overall, even with the frustration, I imagine that TSes are better off politically within a group that increases our very small numbers. Gay males and Lesbians have been and continue to be the most vigorous groups pushing for changes. They also often tilt tactics and strategy to maintain their own gains if push comes to shove over an issue.
Can't say that is not understandable. In a majority rules coalition, minority parties are often left without major parts of their agendas implemented.
Yet, change has come. And I really do suspect that with the establishment of Real ID and the invasive and pervasive effects of the new cold war against 'terrorists' that Ts of all stripes will need as much support as we can get. At least the LTBG
are familiar with us more than are nons.
Hard questions, real practicalities on a political level.
Nichole