Ladies only: How important is orgasmic ability vs desire for SRS?

[Nero]

Good afternoon guys and dolls, and welcome to Nero's Not-so Pointless Poll for the Day!

How much risk of loss of orgasm would you be willing (or were willing for post-ops) to take for SRS?

Would you only have SRS if you were guaranteed in writing the ability to orgasm?
Would you be willing to take just a small risk (most patients came out with orgasmic ability)?
What if the risk were 50/50 you'd ever orgasm again?
What if you had to sign a paper confirming your understanding that SRS would forever take your orgasmic ability?

Ladies only please. Gentlemen's poll here: https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,17996.msg138995.html#msg138995
Elaboration on your vote desired but not mandatory.


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[Rachael]

to be honest, id rather have my cloths fit right, and not have this thing even if i was left with a smooth flat area and no vagina...
orgasmic ability doesnt bother me too much. it would be nice. but id need a guy first! afterall, ive still got buttsechs if all goes pearshaped
R

[Kate]

It's not a factor for me. Sure, I'd LIKE to keep the ability... assuming it's even still THERE, lol... but whether I can or can't orgasm doesn't affect my need for SRS.

~Kate~

[Rachael]

keep it? last time i had sex, i never once had a orgasm by useing that area. and it was still awesome
R

[KarenLyn]

Do I get a discount for picking #4? Not that it matters. That would be my choice regardless.

Karen Lyn

[Keira]

Picked 4. but hey, can already get orgasm from self-manipulation, toys at the back entrance and even the breasts !!! So, myself I believe orgasm are all in the brain and you can retrain any very sensitive area to produce them if you really really want to. Some TS have been so repressed sexually, by loathing their body, that they don't even know how to link sensual touches to excitation.

I can almost pass out from bliss with a mere kiss, so your result may vary. I'm a very sensual person (euphemism).

I remember that I could regurlarly make my one and only girlfriend by manipulating her breasts, you should have seen her wiggle... I wonder if I look like that 

[Sheila]

I picked #4. I didn't care if I never had an orgasm again, I just wanted to be whole with my body.
Sheila

[Sarah Louise]

I am not worried about it at all.  SRS is that important.


Sarah L.

[LynnER]

I chose Small Risk (most patents come out with orgasmic ability)

Why?  Do I really care that much?  HELL YEAH I DO....  If Im going to spend the next who knows how many years working myself to death to afford the OP it damned well better be sucessful....  Im not going to waste my money on a Thi surgeon or a butcher... If your going to spend around 20k <by the time I can afford it> on GRS you better have a very good chance of maintaining sensitivity down there.....

If the risk is too high you might as well just have a nullification down there and buy a new car with the saveings...  seriously folks...

[Elizabeth]

Well, I have had quite a few orgasms in my life, but other than the production of my children, it really hasn't brought me any kind of fulfillment of any kind. It's more like eating or scratching an itch. It has been more like accommodating a biological need. Since it(orgasming) has brought me no personal happiness so far, there is no reason to believe it will in the future.

On the other hand, I have reason to believe that changing my body to fit the image I see of myself will bring me considerable relief and a sense of contentment. Something orgasm has never been able to accomplish, but not for a lack of trying.

Basically I feel that if one needs to think about whether or not orgasm is that important to them, then it's probably too important to give up. Before I ever knew exactly how GRS/SRS was performed, I assumed it meant removing the penis. These new techniques that involve keeping sensitive tissue making orgasm possible post op, are things I never dreamed would be possible. But to be honest, it's more about getting rid of things than it is to gain something.

Love always,
Elizabeth

[cindianna_jones]

I loved sex in my prior life.  Don't misunderstand me. 

But....

Had I not been able to secure GRS, I would have done it myself.  I really would have. The results of self mutilation would likely have been death.  I did not care.

Obviously, I didn't even consider post-operative orgasm when considering surgery.  Honestly, I didn't even give it a thought.  My drive to a complete transition was very strong.

Cindi

[tinkerbell]

#4

I had SRS even when I was told that I could never have another orgasm again.

Sex and the possibility of orgasm was NOT a priority for me.  My reasons for SRS were more profound than a mere orgasm.     


tink

[melissa90299]

IV for me too

[Kimberly]

I would have SRS even if told I would never have another orgasm again. - 15 (75%)

Honestly, I am a virgin. Sex, SO is not why I am doing this mess. Really, I just want the part gone so I hopefully can get on with life. No, GRS is not a magic bullet but it does remove something that is a constant annoyance (and replaces with something that is an occasional annoyance) so *shrug* To me,orgasm, sex, heck sensation does not figure into it. (I would like to keep sensation tho, just for good measure I guess.)

[Dorothy]

Number 4

I find that the intimacy of sex itself (i.e., the closeness, the emotional connections, etc.) is more important than an orgasm.  Also, having female genitals is important to me.  I cant stand the look of being a bio male.  GRS is a must for me.

[Yvonne]

#4 I would have SRS even if told I would never have another orgasm again.

I don't care about orgasms.  Never did.  It was always more important to me to be who I am inside and outside.  If I'd chosen orgasms over GRS, it'd have been apparent that I'm not TS or as gender dyphoric as I was claiming to be.

[Elizabeth]

#4 I would have SRS even if told I would never have another orgasm again.

I don't care about orgasms.  Never did.  It was always more important to me to be who I am inside and outside.  If I'd chosen orgasms over GRS, it'd have been apparent that I'm not TS or as gender dyphoric as I was claiming to be.

I am sorry but I am not sure I agree with the implications of this statement. Because a relationship exists between things doesn't mean that one causes the other. There is absolutely no evidence to support a statement that transsexualism and lack of sexual desire are related as one being indicative of the other. I see no evidence that GID or GD is more severe or real or not real based on someone's sex drive.

It's like whenever they talk about rapists they say "and pornography was found at his home". Well guess what, you can find pornography in about 80% of American Homes. Are they all rapists? Maybe people who rape people also like pornography. Maybe, just maybe pornography does not cause rape? Since 99.99999% of the people who look at pornography never rape anyone.

It makes perfect sense to me that people who hold no value on their sexual drive or lack of sexual drive, would not worry about losing anything and proceed with GRS. On the other hand, there are also those who value sexual pleasure very much and losing it would be losing a lot. It also does not surprise me that those people might not ever have GRS or wait until they reached an age where they lost their sexual function.

I don't see how that determines the severity of GID or GD? People need to look deeper into these issues. There are people transitioning who are clearly concerned about losing sexual function or we would not be seeing the operation changed to one that may allow sexual function and orgasm. Because of that, I simply can not accept the causal relationship between no sex drive and GID or GD.

Love always,
Elizabeth

[HelenW]

While I cannot foresee SRS in my future, if I could I would do it even if orgasms would certainly be lost.  I mean, really, orgasms are not all that important.  Fun, but not necessary.

hugs & smiles
Emelye

[molly]

I picked number 4.  For me the need to align my body with my female self-identity is the most important goal.  I would love to have orgasmic ability but it is not a consideration in my decision to transition.

Maya

[Melissa]

Okay, before this thread turns into another nasty catfight, the good news is that most transwomen have about as much capability post-SRS to have an orgasm as they did pre-SRS. As I understand it, there might be a prolonged period of learning how to relax and experience the changes in your body, but the possibility is entirely there. I think that's pretty amazing compared to women who had SRS 20 years ago (who tended to have a lot of postop problems) and people who transitioned 50 years ago who overwhelmingly didn't have SRS as an option. And in real world terms, the surgery is by and large less expensive than it was then. Pretty amazing, very cool.

That's pretty much what I have heard too.  If this really is the case, I feel pretty good about the future.