Ladies only: How important is orgasmic ability vs desire for SRS?

[Rachael]

i wonder how many here voted number 4, because they felt that was the 'right' answer to give? to be a 'propper' transexual?

R

[Robyn]

Well, I'm apparently part of the more or less non-orgasmic 5%, but I knew that was a possibility going into surgery.  My orgasms used to come from the bottom nerves, right behind the glans, not from the top.  I don't think they survived in the vagina, despite my notes for the doctor.  The clitoral area is very sensate, but rarely seems to take me over the top.  Maybe I'm just too lazy at my age.  That said, I've had a few orgasms, and I thought they'd blow the top of my head off.

Oh to be a kid of 50 again.

Robyn

[Nero]

i wonder how many here voted number 4, because they felt that was the 'right' answer to give? to be a 'propper' transexual?

R

Hmm...I wonder that too.

[Kate]

i wonder how many here voted number 4, because they felt that was the 'right' answer to give? to be a 'propper' transexual?

Why? Is this something you've felt tempted to do?

In my case, although I hate to get into justifying my answer... consider that I haven't had an orgasm in well over a year and a half. And I don't really miss it. I miss the stuff leading up to it... but the experience itself? I can't disassociate it from being a male sexually, so it's just kinda gross to me and I'd rather not anymore. I kinda feel like I'm being raped somehow, being violated.

With the proper genitals, I WOULD like to experience intimacy again, but again moreso for the things leading up to it, and how I could make a guy feel... and make him feel about me... moreso than me just having an orgasm myself. That's not my motivation at all in sex, and never has been.

~Kate~

[Rachael]

i thought id get an indignant backlash at that comment. all fair...

my response is entirely truthful, and im sure your all are, but i just wonder, this is one of those topics that would have a 'correct, and incorect' answer, for a trans person,
does wanting the orgasm ability make you autogenophyilic? probably not,
but the view can be made,
and it shows something that most dont seem to care. which shows a greater depth of feeling.
this is like all topics, the stand to pee one for example, wrong and right answers, weather its made overt or not.

R

[Hazumu]

I cheated and looked at the results first...

Truthfully, some quadriplegics can be brought to orgasm by fondling the nape of the neck, thus pointing out that orgasms happen in the brain, not the genitals.

I said in another thread that I'd want to be fully orgasmic and sexual, but would still do SRS even if there were no chance for (genital stimulated) orgasm.

As to Rachael's question about voting for no orgasm, there is no way to test or verify the assertion.  We have to take it on faith that a portion voted their real feelings, and another portion voted on I'm-holier-than-thou motivation...  The ratio is a matter of debate.

Karen

[Nero]

I cheated and looked at the results first...

???Huh? All my polls are always 'only show results after someone has voted'. I could've sworn I checked that.

[Rachael]

then again, karen is a global mod
R

[melissa90299]

I met a woman today at the AA meeting and we went to the plaza and she started caressing me and (not having had sex in six months) I felt myself getting wet! (less than a month post-op) Anyway, that feeling I got today was better than any orgasm I have ever had, looking  forward to taking it further soon.

[Dennis]

I cheated and looked at the results first...

???Huh? All my polls are always 'only show results after someone has voted'. I could've sworn I checked that.

Nope, I could view the results as well. It's only fair seeing as you said women only

Dennis

[katia]

i wonder how many here voted number 4, because they felt that was the 'right' answer to give? to be a 'propper' transexual?

R

if this is the case, i feel very sorry for those people because they are lying to themselves more than anything.

i picked #4.  i will have grs on the 29th of this month.  i don't give a rat's posterior about orgasms.  as a matter of fact i'd have grs even if the odds of dying on the operating table were 99%.  katia needs to be katia.  she needs to have the body of a woman because if she doesn't she will eventually perish.

I think you should worry more about your own truthfulness and less about others.

i concord.

[Rachael]

i agree, although i need to be without a penis, more than i need a perfect vagina. ofcourse i need a vagina, but its secondery to loosing this thing which hurts me in the mirror and when showering
R

[Lisbeth]

Well, first of all, I can have perfectly wonderful sex without orgasms.  I left the concept of somehow equating sex with orgasm behind long ago.  Love is a far more important ingredient to great sex than orgasms are.  But beyond that, while a functional clitoris facilitates orgasms, it is not an absolute requirment.  With the proper practice orgasms can result from alterative stimulation.  The brain is the most important sex organ in the body, not what's between your legs.  For example, some of the most delightful orgasms can result from nipple stimulation alone.

[Rachael]

lets not forget, where vagina may fail, buttsechs will prevail!

R

[melissa90299]

Regina, you don't want a clitoris too?

I am shocked. Anyway, wow, that feeling I had down there today...if that is all there is, I am totally happy camper.

[Keira]

Actually, Elizabeth, those that value sex a lot, or at least the possibility of having sex and orgasms the most, tend to want SRS a lot!! That's particularly the case if they're not interested in gay sex because it would not go with their body image and want to be intimate with men. Often, young TS are that way.

If you don't care about the configuration of organs, but care about the pleasure with your partner more, then its logical that SRS would not be a priority.

[tinkerbell]

OMG, they don't include a clitoris in the price when you get a vulva??!! That's so cheap! I don't feel as if I should have to order one separately.

ciao,
Gina M.

Okay, that was funny.    But just to be fair, there are some women who opted to have SRS with some butchers; hence, they didn't obtain the results they wanted or needed (lack of clitoris, excessive labial tissue, severe scarring, not enough vaginal depth, etc).  It is always possible to construct a clitoris after the initial operation, but the odds to get one that works is another story. 

tink

[seldom]

It matters very little to me.  Of course the whole sex thing matters very little to me either.  SRS to me just represents feeling right about my entire body.

[Seshatneferw]

Nope, I could view the results as well. It's only fair seeing as you said women only

Might be some sort of a staff privilege. I can't see the results, which is kind of annoying as I don't really consider it right and proper to answer this poll (since I no longer seriously consider SRS).

  Nfr

[Lisbeth]

What's most important to me is being able to get naked without being embarassed.

Regina, you don't want a clitoris too?

I am shocked. Anyway, wow, that feeling I had down there today...if that is all there is, I am totally happy camper.

OMG, they don't include a clitoris in the price when you get a vulva??!! That's so cheap! I don't feel as if I should have to order one separately.

ciao,
Gina M.

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